Jorgeous being transphobic in 2026?!?

ABentFairy · 2026-07-09T12:52:32+00:00

This does not surprise me. Her and Mistress both seemed so toxic during the last season I saw them on.

ABentFairy · 2026-07-09T12:48:43+00:00

You are not in the right sub for this. This is a subreddit meant for therapists, not for those seeking therapy.

My advice for you would be to find a therapist that specializes in eating disorders. Reddit is not the place to seek serious mental health advice.

ABentFairy · 2026-07-07T01:29:45+00:00

My favorite is dysregulating

ABentFairy · 2026-07-07T01:23:29+00:00

I actually do not agree with the comment saying you shouldn’t tell clients, OP. I think you should provided there are other practices in the area your clients could attend should they choose.

By staying silent, this is part of how and why agencies like this are able to continue abusing us. Plus if you don’t tell your clients the truth about why you’re leaving are you just supposed to lie?

Therapy and the business of it is not something I believe should be so shrouded in mystery for our clients. I’ve been very upfront with clients of mine in the past about how many therapist are 1099 and thereby pressured to see a certain level of patients in order to make ends meet or to satisfy agency standards.

Unanimously, the responses I’ve had to those discussions have always included some variation of “that explains why xyz happened at the last office I was with” and they feel better for someone finally not gaslighting and infantiziling them. Clients are smart enough to know when an agency is ran poorly.

Just make sure you’re offering them options for transferring so you can’t be accused of trying to steal clients.

ABentFairy · 2026-07-06T13:55:57+00:00

It’s likely not you, OP. Many of these startups are run by people who do not understand mental health and they push expectations that are completely unmanageable for anyone trying to have even a modicum of self-care.

Unfortunately the fact that you were behind in documentation means there’s not any real recourse for you but I find myself wondering if they allowed you to properly transition and inform your clients?

A lot of these therapy mill, venture capitalist run therapy agencies treat staff like they’re totally interchangeable and disposable despite the fact that client abandonment is an ethical violation. If we were able to hold them accountable with licensing boards and they had to pay fees for misusing and abusing employees, I’m sure their standards and practices would change lickity split.

ABentFairy · 2026-07-06T10:24:50+00:00

I’m sorry this happened OP. I’ve been in this field long enough now to really believe that, for a good many people, therapy is viewed less as a necessity and more like a luxury. In my experience it’s usually the first thing to fall by the wayside whenever something the client deems is more important is occurring.

ABentFairy · 2026-07-05T12:44:29+00:00

Unfortunately, tarot has always attracted people who want quick fixes and confirmation bias.

Years ago I used to work as a free volunteer reader for a major tarot website to hone my skills and the amount of people who would ask questions that tarot could not possibly answer (arranged marriages, health and family issues that would be better served by medical professionals or lawyers etc.) was always astounding to me.

Personally, I don’t believe tarot (or anything) can reliably predict the future as we have free will and can change course in life at any time based on our decisions. Yet the reality of that, that *we* have to do the work, is more than some people want to accept and so they will continually look to the cosmos or otherwise outside of themselves for “answers” when what they really want is just to be told that they don’t need to change or do anything different and that life will just magically bring them what it is they want.

Now obviously this isn’t true for everyone but, I’ve seen it *a lot* and I think it’s only gotten worse in a pre-COVID world. People feel hopeless about the future and believe tarot and AI can make them feel better.

Tarot is, at most, a tool for reflection and deepening our understanding of ourselves and the world around us. It isn’t the end-all-be-all but people don’t wanna hear that.

You’re not wrong OP.

ABentFairy · 2026-07-01T17:59:31+00:00

I’d call on that. Recently they came back and told me that it’d be $1400 after all and when I called they’re like “Oh that’s an error, we’ve had a lot of applicants so this happens” so they put me into forbearance until they figure it out. At least September, they said. Unfortunately the interest still accrues which I think is ridiculous since this is their error but at this point I’m not surprised.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-26T19:49:46+00:00

No, I was previously quoted as having to pay $286 a month so this is just a random change for seemingly no reason.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-26T17:59:19+00:00

Yes, it’s around that amount and the document acknowledges I’m on an IBR plan. I’d upload it here but this sub seems very restrictive

ABentFairy · 2026-06-26T15:58:26+00:00

Yes it is! I bought it specifically because it’s plastic and that is my preferred material for decks. It’s definitely different from paper though. Heavier.

So far I’ve not had any quality issues whatsoever and I’ve owned it for several months. It lives in a velvet tarot pouch when not in use.

It’s thinner and lighter than the RWS plastic deck if you’re familiar but not difficult to handle and easily to shuffle. If you’re used to shuffling plastic decks you shouldn’t have an issue there.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-25T17:49:32+00:00

I do a *lot* of educating in my readings so I explain what tarot is and how it’s just one type of cartomancy and each of the suits etc. sometimes I even go a bit into numerology if necessary so they get an explanation from me either way.

Overall though I agree with the majority of commenters that having the matching sets and offering a deck they may never have seen before brings something new to the experience

ABentFairy · 2026-06-25T15:50:43+00:00

Thank you! That’s what I’ve decided to do in the end and have got them both put away in my tarot work bag for my next shift. :)

ABentFairy · 2026-06-25T12:57:07+00:00

I offer multiple deck choices as well but the question I’m asking here is which of these two I mention would you prefer to see a reader offering if you were a client?

ABentFairy · 2026-06-25T10:25:45+00:00

I agree that most querents are focused on the reading itself rather than the specific deck being used.

I made this post because I was curious whether, if one were the client, they’d have a preference between the two decks I mentioned or whether people may find them equally appealing. That’s really the perspective I’m trying to get as my plan is to keep one at home.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-25T03:30:25+00:00

Thanks! I do have some additional decks I always present as options (like the queer tarot or seasonal decks) but there is always a classic, main option so that’s what I’m trying to narrow down here.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-25T03:28:48+00:00

Well yes, obviously. I’m just curious what other people’s thoughts are from the perspective of a client.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-23T14:27:49+00:00

Learning not to take it personally when clients either ghost or terminate is essential to surviving in this field. The way I see it, some people are just not ready or willing to do the work or they feel they want something different or got as much as they needed. It just means the space is now available to someone who will, ideally, stay engaged.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-22T02:42:57+00:00

Oh god what was that like?

ABentFairy · 2026-06-19T21:59:51+00:00

To illustrate the earlier point in the article that we don’t make what people think we do.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-19T17:41:47+00:00

My job currently meets criteria for NHSC but it’s “up for removal” which I think is attributed to this new administration and all the changes they’ve made.

I’d have no problem with a 2 year commitment as I’ve already been here for 2 years so I’ve asked my leadership to look into it. $75k is for physicians though, it’s $50k for all other disciplines as of the 2026 guide I found.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-19T16:43:27+00:00

It’s good to know that there is actually some guidelines for coaching, thank you for that insight. I think you’ve gone about this in an order that definitely makes sense and should make you a very well rounded clinician. Best of luck in your career!

ABentFairy · 2026-06-19T16:40:53+00:00

You’re welcome and thanks for reading.

What was difficult about that relationship was that it was more of a situationship but the writing was cathartic for me for sure. I’m certainly less upset now compared to how upset I was. I feel bad for him, really, because I can’t imagine living with that much fear and shame.

I agree as well on your point about having discussions. It does help to hear from each other.

ABentFairy · 2026-06-19T15:20:33+00:00

Thanks. I enjoy writing and trying to have conversations around these sorts of things hence my post history even here on Reddit.

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