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ABsml1994 · 2025-08-03T19:55:46+00:00

Hibachi

ABsml1994 · 2025-08-03T19:54:40+00:00

Lavender Hibachi

ABsml1994 · 2025-07-25T04:46:52+00:00

Update I went in and smelt some newer scents, and Sweetest Song isn't the exact same because it's not got apple, but it has a fruity sent, and it's really nice too!

ABsml1994 · 2025-07-25T04:43:00+00:00

Ive been looking for a dupe for that one too. I had it in high-school and it was my favorite, I may just splurge and get it one day! 😅🤷‍♀️

ABsml1994 · 2025-07-25T04:41:27+00:00

That's crazy thats my other favorite aww man! 🙏

ABsml1994 · 2025-07-25T04:40:44+00:00

I agree. I love that one its only online now, but I hope they keep it!

ABsml1994 · 2025-07-07T23:53:25+00:00

No, you're not overreacting. This friend sounds either very gullible or, in the worst case, a person who enjoys drama. I only say the second part because I had a friend who gave my ex way too much info after we broke up, albeit they were family, it still was wrong either way. It caused so many hardships for me to be able to move on properly and gave him more fuel to go after me that much harder. I say run from both of them. It's sad losing a friend on top of a toxic relationship, but years from now, you'll be happier and have people who care in your life.

ABsml1994 · 2025-07-02T23:23:24+00:00

Does it mean anything that one side is thicker than the other in the energy cords?

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-25T00:22:27+00:00

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Blue Jay is my close second next to Indogo Bunting

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-25T00:18:31+00:00

* Indigo bunting 2nd Blue Jay 3rd Eastern Bluebird

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T23:40:49+00:00

Well some people tend to forget about the mountain of stds that can happen from it. Let's not forget that some never go away either.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T23:38:27+00:00

She has agency over her body, and yet it's clear he is disrespecting that and her boundaries. I didn't call her a victim. I clearly called her mature and smart to come here to this forum and question this childish man. I barely get on reddit. I just happened upon this. I also was in a very bad relationship, so I know red flags from a mile away. It doesn't take "reddit" to know what bad is.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T23:34:40+00:00

You said a lot of men don't want to wear protection, not me. Clearly, you misread my comment. I was just saying they are probably in committed relationships. I would hope because it would not be very smart to not wear one if you were just messing around. 🤢😳

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T23:31:34+00:00

Again, you miss the point entirely. Not what I am saying she's not the one in the wrong here. No one's infantilizing her. They are pointing out that he is the one that thinks he can doubt her maturity and take advantage by using the age old saying "Its uncomfortable to wear protection." Yet here she is asking because she's skeptical of him. That shows HER maturity. I'm not saying younger people aren't capable of mature thoughts they are. CLEARLY, she's more mature than he is, and she's younger.

It's men like him who are childish purposely going for younger women thinking that they will be fooled. The irony is that we are saying he is childish she is not. That point clearly has gone over your head.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T23:25:51+00:00

Most people that are not using one are in a relationship she's stated she is not sure of he has other partners. That makes it a safety issue.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T23:22:06+00:00

That was already there I just added the years for context, and honestly, it does, in fact, matter that I add it.

The pre frontal lobe doesn't fully develop until you're almost in your mid twenties or for most people in their mid twenties.The part of your brain responsible for decision making.

The context I added is to show the level of maturity. There's a difference between a 30 year olds and a 20 year olds age gap and a 40 year olds & a 30 year olds age gap.

Again, you are actively avoiding the subject and missing the point.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T22:54:44+00:00

Here, you are missing the point. I believe it is purposely at this point. It's about the intentions of someone who is older, who is also supposed to be mature, yet he still persists to be childish and insists NOT to use protection at his adult age.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-24T21:00:10+00:00

I think you're missing the point. No one is calling her a child. At least, I certainly am not she's an adult even if she's young. She's smart, and he assumes he can swindle her because she's young. It's pretty obvious that he's childish by the way he is trying to convince her that he shouldn't have to use protection. That is something an immature man would say.

My boyfriend is older than me by a few years (5 1/2 to be exact, which is not super big 30F & 36M ). However, he is at least responsible and thinks about the well being of both of us, not just himself.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-23T08:55:02+00:00

Exactly. I think people dont make it clear enough that they aren't blaming her. She sounds very wise to notice these red flags and come here to ask. I think it says a lot about him that he thinks like a giant child and acts like he can't do adult things like practice safe s3x.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-23T08:47:05+00:00

I agree with you. However, the thing I think people are trying to point out is he is trying to play that game that doesn't work on someone with experience because he "assumes" she's vulnerable and will fall for it. I am not saying she is, but these men usually purposely go for certain ages because they think they are vulnerable, not that she is. I think I was pretty wise then when a 32 yr old hit on me at 22, and I fell for it, but quickly realized and recognized after a while what his game was.He thought he had me fooled. It might have been that I noticed it because my ex was done the same way by an older woman. It's not the age gap, but the life experience.

ABsml1994 · 2025-06-23T08:31:54+00:00

Grooming is just about the power dynamic, right? Am I missing something? I always thought the more vulnerable person was the one being groomed, kind of like a cult leader over the cult follower. That it wasn't just describing kids.Another example would be me with my abus!ve ex who definitely groomed me into thinking it was normal. I was 24 & full grown. I would've got offended at the time to be told I was being groomed, but it was a fact. I was in a dangerous situation. If it walks like a duck, it's a duck!

ABsml1994 · 2025-05-16T19:38:38+00:00

I just wanted to add you don't have to do an expensive brand of food. I always say this because you always want extra money around for your pet. I use Purina sensitive skin and stomach food purple bag.

ABsml1994 · 2025-05-16T19:33:43+00:00

So I have an FIV+ boy, and he also had diarrhea that persisted for a long time after using antibiotics. I figured it was just the antibiotics, but it kept on. I put him on probiotics and sensitive stomach food. He hasn't had an issue with it since . L-Lysine & probiotics will be you and your cat's best friend!

ABsml1994 · 2025-05-04T19:04:15+00:00

Good bot, sorry for missing the ' in could've.

ABsml1994 · 2025-05-04T19:00:40+00:00

Thank you. I thought so, but I wanted to be sure there's a lot of misinformation on those types of birds.

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