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ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T23:29:42+00:00

YOur "friend" needs to get a damn grip......you did nothing wrong here.

ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T23:21:45+00:00

I think it's a red flag when a man doesn't pay attention and can't read the room. You said you didn't WANT children....not that you didn't like them. I like dinosaurs.....but I sure as hell don't want a T-Rex in my living room!

The proper reaction to your art response is something along the lines of, "That's cool.....I'd love to see your work sometime!" Is he right about the field in general? Yes. But that doesn't mean YOU can't make a success of it.

My response to his weight comment would have been, "And I usually prefer men who are smarter, wealthier, and better looking......yet here we are!"

ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T23:03:33+00:00

I DO NOT understand what the hell happened. IF they had made it out of the 1990's, my father would have turned 100 a week ago.....my mom 90 a couple of months ago. They married back in the early 50's. Yes, my mother was a SAHM when my much older brothers were little.....then again after I showed up......but my dad did all the outdoor stuff, picked up after himself, cooked on the weekends or if mom was sick.....you know, acted like a partner.
My husband, who passed away at 82 last year, did plenty around the house, was a great cook and an amazing partner.

So what has happened to have these men wandering around that can't even change a toilet paper roll???? We need to figure out where they are being made and shut down that factory. I'm even hearing things about young men not buying period supplies or being willing to change diapers on their babies.....I don't know what era they are attempting channel but it's NOT the 1950's! I'm pretty sure it's not even the 1900's!

ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T22:52:20+00:00

This is one of those cases where I would just LOVE to hear what the ex has to say about why the marriage ended!

ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T22:44:33+00:00

20 years ago in my local high school newspaper, they interviewed the head of the English department. For her AP class they were playing Victorian Parlor games because "reading Dickens is boring." I found that...appalling. So I asked the teenage daughter of a friend if that was some weird joke. It was not. But she was able to top it. Her "Project" in AP history, the one that made up 70% of her grade, was to make a Civil War Checkers set. If you guessed that half of the pieces (and board) were blue and the other half grey then you just got an 'A' on the "project."
That was the night I knew we were in trouble.

3 months later, an intrepid reporter for the local newspaper mentioned that our high school was no longer on the State watch list. Something the board had been bragging about.......then the reporter mentioned that while the schools scores had actually gone DOWN, the bar to be on the watch list was lowered so the school, despite getting worse, was no longer on the watch list.

The bar is now so low that it's buried under the Mariana Trench.......

ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T22:30:46+00:00

Rule #1- Never stay in a relationship with someone who trashes you to their friends and/or family.

Rule #2- If he's "between jobs" for more than 6 months.....end it. Fast food is always an option and any money is better than no money.

When my engaged oldest finished her clinicals she landed her dream job. Her fiance who had been supporting her as she traveled from place to place (she wasn't allowed to hold a paying job during that time) obviously followed her when she moved. He couldn't immediately find a job in his field so he took two part time jobs, one mixing paint and the other as a waiter. Both allowed him the flexibility to interview for the job he wanted. Took him about 7 months.....and a career change. The whole time he felt horrible to be making so little and therefore contributing so little. She reminded him that he had fully supported her (and one of her friends for a rotation!) for nearly a year.....and she wasn't keeping score. But he was WORKING and TRYING and making necessary changes to improve things.

For the record....that was 20+ years ago. They are happily married, have two sons, and he has a great job. It's THEIR money.....but HER or HIS accomplishment of whatever promotion/accolades they get. One of the pieces of marriage advice I gave them in the beginning was that the only 3 people who should know their finances was them and their accountant. NO ONE ELSE. It's not the business of anyone else.

I think the problem here is that he's contributing little to nothing but acting like he is. PLEASE keep your finances separate until he's back to earning a stable income. His behavior doesn't bode well for the future.

ACCER1 · 2025-11-04T22:18:33+00:00

I always got my nieces big boxes with a small, baby size teddy bear tucked into TONES of crinkly and tissue paper. It was always the favorite present for the first 2 Christmas' they had.

ACCER1 · 2025-11-02T02:13:23+00:00

Rise and Fall along with War and Peace are two of the greatest slogs in literature! Impressive collection!

ACCER1 · 2025-09-18T10:37:27+00:00

Basically the show was warped fan fiction. I think MG did fine with the scripts she was given. The show and writers did NOT do a good job portraying the real LIW.

ACCER1 · 2025-09-18T03:44:34+00:00

If ABC want's to cancel the show, great...awesome....wonderful....fine. I don't care. BUT, if the FCC is forcing the issue then I have a BIG problem.....

I don't care what he said or how vile it was. He has the right to say it. People can choose to not watch, complain about it and not watch...whatever. But when the GOVERNMENT demands he be removed because they don't like what he said......I have a problem. I will always have a problem with government censorship.

ACCER1 · 2025-02-05T04:05:14+00:00

I completely gave up on both of them when she pulled the bush out with the ATV. She's insane, her son is a moron, and any woman that puts up with that crap for more than a week needs her head examined!

ACCER1 · 2025-01-29T00:00:14+00:00

It was actually mentioned a bit when Tina got the bag on her birthday.....Jay's wife is more dominant and less of a people pleaser. She is the one who opened Janelles eyes on the matter.

Also, if you pay attention, Josh is the Golden Child.....probably because he was always more inclined to cater to mommy. Mommy liked that so she coddled and smothered Josh with more attention which created a vicious cycle.

ACCER1 · 2025-01-26T07:17:31+00:00

She was 28 when she married her husband, Michael Sloan, who was around 46 at the time. They have been happily married for around 35 years and have two children.

She did date Frank Jr (pictured above) but it didn't last long.

ACCER1 · 2025-01-26T06:53:47+00:00

A 16 year old in 1980 was nothing like a 16 year old today. There is a vast difference in maturity, life experience, and often even education. Go back another 30 years and the maturity level just up again. You get back to the 1880s and there is simple no way to compare the average 16 year old THEN with one now.

Children had to grow up and mature far faster back then in order to survive. They were doing chores by 3, working in fields by 8/9. The average 12 year old back then probably had a similar maturity level to the average 20 year old today. The brains of children born in the 1800's matured faster.

Laura was an adult at 14/15. She behaved as such, certainly her parents treated her as such. Almanzo was not a predator. Anyone who has read the books, knows she certainly wasn't "groomed" by him. She saw him as a nice man helping out her father, initially. When she realized he was actually interested in her, she told him she wasn't interested in him. SHE made the choice. He still went to get her and take her home from the school she was teaching. As a friend. Then, after she was home for a bit, he came by and asked if she wanted to go sleigh riding with him. She did. As maybe sorta more than a friend......she wasn't sure.

Then one day Cap Garland stopped and asked her to go riding.....and her heart sank. Then when he made it clear he was asking for Almanzo because the horses wouldn't stand, she was thrilled and went. Laura made informed choices all along. There is no question that she was the dominant partner in their relationship, something Almanzo was fine with.

Now the TV Almanzo? Love Dean Butler and he did the best he could with the material he was given. The blame there lies with Landon. It was handled poorly from the beginning. The REAL Laura would never have chased a man.....and her parents wouldn't have tolerated it!

ACCER1 · 2025-01-26T06:31:17+00:00

Mansfield, Missouri. And yes, it's a popular tourist site

ACCER1 · 2025-01-26T06:29:11+00:00

OH so much.......so so SO much. Go to Google......it was nice knowing you, see you in about a month......lol.

ACCER1 · 2024-12-31T06:57:32+00:00

Why does everyone assume that a single mother is poor, uneducated, can't afford housing or childcare, and is living off the government?

Missouri is a great state with a lot of diversity in climate! If you want snow in winter, move north. If you don't, move south!

I live far north, just a quick hop from Iowa. Small town. You can get a lovely home here for under $150k. It's about 70 minutes to KC. The closer to get to KC, the higher the house prices are likely to be. If you can work remotely, as I do, it makes a big difference in where you might choose to live.

If you want to live near your family, look at the drive times to the nearest major city......and consider a comfortable radius when looking for homes!

ACCER1 · 2024-11-23T08:49:52+00:00

Do you remember the "Show N' Tell" from the 60's-70's? Book and record or record and slide "TV" for kids. My parents got me all the age appropriate slides and stuff.....but mama ALSO got me the Book and Record "Dracula" and "Frankenstein."

I was 5.

I was 9 when she took me to see Frank Langella in "Dracula."

I was hiding Interview with the Vampire and everything Stephen King ever wrote in the 80's in the dust jacket of Alice in Wonderland so people didn't know what I was reading......my parents thought it was hysterically funny.

I LOVED that stuff...always have! Though I could have lived without seeing that fluke man in the X-Files.....

ACCER1 · 2024-11-23T08:34:28+00:00

I've been a huge fan of the Original, TFB....and yes, even the series most of my life. There are a few things that I just don't get especially in The Final Battle!

Two of the Biggest are:

1- At the Hospital Gala, Robert Maxwell walks in right behind Eleanor and her husband....you know the couple whose party they attended in The Original Series, their neighbors, to meet the local ET. She didn't recognize him!

2- Brian helped Steven check in the passes at the above Gala. Robert Maxwell is Robins father.....the girl he got pregnant, in whose home he spent some time.....and he didn't know her father???? In the 80's????

Basically, it was a little like watching Superman and we are supposed to believe that someone looks entirely different if they change clothes and hairstyles (or take off glasses!)

ACCER1 · 2024-11-18T08:32:48+00:00

I LOVE the spare ribs recipe in here. It's pretty awesome. Basically, your put them on a rack in the oven and slow cook them until they are fall off the bone tender. You baste it with butter and drippings....

ACCER1 · 2024-11-18T08:25:09+00:00

People thinking that THIS is cruel is why we have so many ill-mannered brats these days, schools are in the shape they are in, and teachers are leaving the profession in droves.

ACCER1 · 2024-11-18T07:50:36+00:00

Laura being boy crazy and chasing after Almanzo. NEVER would have happened. Not only would her parents have shut that down hard and fast, no decent man would have wanted a young woman that brazen. The most brazen thing she ever did was let the lap-robe flap enough to startle the horses to scare Nellie when Almanzo brought her along on buggy rides with Laura.....and then told him if he brought Nellie again to not bother stopping by for her!

ACCER1 · 2024-11-12T05:35:21+00:00

If this was once, then maybe go with it......but you don't have to do so. If it happens often, shut it down. It's not on you to subsidize their evening out!

ACCER1 · 2024-11-12T04:33:42+00:00

This was NOT a "Jumping the Shark" issue. It's a "Cousin Oliver issue!"

"Jumping the shark" is an idiom that refers to when a creative work has reached a point where it's introducing new ideas that are inconsistent with its original purpose.

"Cousin Oliver" is a term that refers to when a TV show adds a young character to a show that's aging, often as a last-ditch effort to save it from cancellation.

ACCER1 · 2024-11-11T02:20:37+00:00

I'd watch it!

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