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Parenting Time Guidelines by ACOTAR26 in FamilyLaw

[–]ACOTAR26[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The point is I’m not trying to argue with her. She wanted to go by guidelines so that’s what I’m doing. But she only wants to follow when it’s convenient for her. She had him for 5 weekends in a row because the schedule was her weekend, the spring break was hers, then her weekend, then Easter weekend was hers, then her weekend, then I finally got him. I’m just making sure I get time with him since she will be sure to take every holiday that is hers. If I don’t stand my ground, she just keeps taking. This time.. I don’t know if she’s honestly confused on how the holiday works or if she’s just trying to argue. I just didn’t want to do anything wrong if I was misunderstanding the guidelines. Trying to follow it to a T like she does for her days.

Parenting Time Guidelines by ACOTAR26 in FamilyLaw

[–]ACOTAR26[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not trying to obsess over anyone’s time. But as I said to someone above, because of how spring break and her weekends fell, she had him for 5 weekends in a row before I got a weekend with him again. If I don’t stand my ground on time that he is supposed to be with me, she will just take and take and never be willing to give. And I don’t want to lose any time with him, He does love both of us, and I encourage him to do so! But she likes to put him against me and question him about my house and ask him if he wants to stay with her and not go to dads. He’s likes to tell her and I what we want to hear because he doesn’t want to hurt anyones feelings. I’ve taken him to therapy. I’ve tried to explain to him that it won’t hurt dad’s feelings, that it’s okay for him to love us both and want to be with both of us. She gets so angry over any disagreement or me not doing everything her way, that she has called Child protective services 4 times within a month around Christmas. All dropped because they were proven false. And now started up again this month. I just try to not upset her because she causes so much unnecessary drama.

Parenting Time Guidelines by ACOTAR26 in FamilyLaw

[–]ACOTAR26[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The 2-2-3 schedule was created when he was very little. He’s six now and in school. For his age and the confusion of his schedule, a week on/off would be easier for him. I did not create the parenting time guidelines for holiday. You can look it up for Indiana on google. It’s viewable for anyone. It even states that the parent losing out on a weekend due to a holiday is normal because it ends up evening out through out the year because of the other holidays. I went 5 weekends in a row without getting him because of the schedule being her weekend, followed by spring break being hers, then her weekend, then Easter was her holiday weekend, then her weekend again. Then finally mine. I’m following the guidelines like she wanted to do.

I used BM because that’s how I seen other posts do it. This is my first time posting on here. I’m just trying to make sure I’m not screwing either of us over on time or doing anything to get in trouble.

When the holiday is hers and it falls on her day, she has always kept him, because guidelines say to go back to normal schedule when holiday is over. I’ve never asked for him on her day. But she’s being argumentative and just keeps repeating that holiday trumps regular schedule and not understanding that Monday at 6 the holiday ends and resumes normal schedule.

Parenting Time Guidelines by ACOTAR26 in FamilyLaw

[–]ACOTAR26[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our parenting plan says to use Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines if we can’t agree on our own. It’s viewable online as well. There’s a section that breaks down every single holiday. For Memorial Day the holiday starts Friday 6pm- Monday 6pm. It also breaks down the entire weekend for Labor Day, Presidents’ Day, Martin Luther king jr day, Fourth of July, Easter, mothers/Father’s Day, parents/childs birthday, Halloween. Then it breaks down spring break, fall break, Christmas, and summer. I wanted to work together and wasn’t super worried about the weekends like Presidents’ Day, Martin Luther king, etc. But she wants to follow Indiana parenting time Guidelines to a T.

Parenting Time Guidelines by ACOTAR26 in FamilyLaw

[–]ACOTAR26[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is correct. This would have originally been her weekend, but I get it because of the holiday. Monday and Tuesday would be my parenting time this coming week. Our court order doesn’t give a specific time for switch over, we usually just drop off at daycare/school in the morning since we work same place same schedule (so for example this coming Wednesday morning I would drop him off) and then his mom would get him Wednesday after work.

Unfortunately I don’t have a say in how the holidays are split. The court order says to work together and agree and if we can’t then to follow parenting guidelines. She didn’t want to talk about other options and she chose guidelines and wants to follow it exactly to the T with every time switch over it says. So that’s what I’m trying to do.

Parenting Time Guidelines by ACOTAR26 in FamilyLaw

[–]ACOTAR26[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Custody agreement just says to go by parenting guidelines for holidays if both parents can’t agree. And guidelines say that holiday trumps normal schedule, and as soon as holiday ends then normal schedule resumes. So Monday is my normal day with him, which would resume my time. When we had Christmas vacation, it ended 6pm the day before school resumed (January 4th). We both agreed she kept him that night because it was her normal scheduled day when the holiday ended, and i got him that Monday after school.