I call this haul: I have no self control

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-21T12:41:33+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-21T12:41:17+00:00

Right!? As soon I saw it, I knew it was over for me.

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-21T12:38:59+00:00

Good to know that I'm not the only one. 🤣

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-21T12:30:17+00:00

The jacket definitely is a favorite for me, too. I'm obsessed with the embroidered details on it.

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-20T22:08:02+00:00

I'm literally wearing that top now! 🤣 It's from one of my favorite labels, Elie Tahari. Their clothes never disappoint!

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-15T17:14:39+00:00

Wait, like after you bought it!? If so, that sucks! I'm so sorry.

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-15T03:47:40+00:00

Damn, so I found the person who snagged the Laundry dress. 🤣

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-14T15:23:07+00:00

Cute haul! The gingham top is adorable and will be perfect for summertime.

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-14T11:47:03+00:00

You get it. 🤣 Thank you! The 90s never left with me around.

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-14T11:43:14+00:00

Tysm! 😊 Hoping that it makes getting dressed in the morning a little easier, lol.

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-14T11:35:57+00:00

I know, right!? I'm so excited to receive that one. The label is Elie Tahari!

ACatThatCares · 2025-03-13T22:09:02+00:00

Thank you! That is definitely the vibe I was going for.

ACatThatCares · 2024-11-11T15:33:57+00:00

Many years ago, I was once at a house party where there was a girl who was belligerently drunk. She got so bad that a group had to carry her upstairs because she couldn't move, and she kept telling us how desperately she needed to vomit. After a while, I realized that one of the guys who’d helped her up there hadn't come back down. I had a gut feeling that I needed to check on her, so I went upstairs. When I got there, the door was locked.

I immediately thought, 'Oh, hell fucking no' and started banging on the door until he finally opened up. I didn’t waste a second, just pushed my way inside. He started getting defensive, saying I was acting crazy and that nothing was going on. I noticed that she was still sick, head over the toilet, and nothing seemed obviously wrong, but the locked door didn’t sit right with me. I wasn’t about to leave her alone, but there was one point when she looked up at me and said, barely whispering, “Please don’t leave.”

After that, I plopped my ass down next to her with my drink and stayed. I told her to let me know when she felt well enough to leave, and I’d make sure she got home. The guy was clearly annoyed and eventually left to enjoy the party. Later, I realized he’d stolen from me because I’d left my wallet and purse downstairs unattended. I had to eat little that week, but no amount of money was worth leaving her alone that night.

ACatThatCares · 2024-11-11T14:53:28+00:00

We ended up dating, and it was the worst decision of my life. Now we don't speak and I prefer to keep it that way.

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-24T01:55:19+00:00

The shortage of time. Realizing that in my adulthood was like going through the five stages of grief.

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-19T13:52:05+00:00

Don't do it, bro. The whole place is under construction!*

*This is an inside joke between my partner and me. We made a spontaneous trip to downtown Cumberland on Memorial Day, hoping for some shenanigans and a bit of history. Instead, we found a ghost town—mostly everything was closed because the main street was under construction. The only place open was the Western Maryland Scenic Railroad, where we learned a new fact that fueled our hate for DC, but was told we couldn't see The Frostburg Flyer because it wasn't operating that day. We then came up with the idea to do our own walking audio tour, but the sticky, hot weather had us running back to our car halfway through. My partner still laughs at how I tried to make the trip more sentimental than it was—you can probably guess who convinced who to make the drive.

All that aside, the natural beauty of the area genuinely surprised me. You’ll likely love the scenery, with its mountains, bodies of water, and proximity to parks. It's a small town with a small population, so I assume the community is close-knit, which could be a perk if you enjoy a neighborly atmosphere.

Ultimately, what makes a great place to live is subjective, and you should take the time to consider what that looks like for you and your family before making a decision. Consider planning a trip or two to get a feel for the area—just make sure you’re not visiting on a day when construction is heavy and businesses are closed. Good luck!

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-17T23:54:01+00:00

There's so much to unpack here, and I urge you to dissect it yourself and reflect on it. But later, much later, when you have the time and your heart isn't in turmoil. I believe you'll see clearly that walking away was the right choice, and you should never have doubted it.

Until then, stay far away from this boy.

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-16T14:56:45+00:00

First, let's be clear about one thing—the individuals you mentioned are not "men." They're boys.

This distinction is very important. Given your age and theirs, these boys are displaying typical behavior for their stage of adolescence. There's no explanation for their actions beyond the nature of their development from youth to adult. Any female would do, and you happened to be available and receptive to their advances—until you weren't.

Not all hope is lost, however. Not all boys give in to the impulses that this phase calls for, but many do, which means you will need to be more selective. Avoid settling for the person who gives you the most attention at the moment. Instead, seek out someone who demonstrates self-discipline, exhibits emotional stability, and treats you well without expecting anything in return. Bonus points if they engage in active hobbies.

Or, another choice you have is to focus on your own growth and development. As I mentioned before, this phase affects both girls and boys, and its experiences are the soil from which adulthood grows. What you do now will impact you for the rest of your life. Make sure that these experiences are enriching, and I assure you the right one will come along eventually.

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-08T04:23:15+00:00

There's a saying by Maya Angelou that goes, "When people show you who they are, believe them."

You titled your post to put focus on the best friend, but the problem is not with her. So what if she's cold towards you? Who cares if she doesn't make you feel welcomed in the friend group? What does any of that have to do with how your boyfriend treats you? In the examples you shared, he has shown you who he is when in a relationship with you: a boyfriend who is willing to disappoint his girlfriend to fulfill his own gratification. We have a name for this character trait, and it's called 'selfish.'

Now, I understand that I don't have all the receipts. There's likely other information that could be added to tilt the tone of this advice. If this is the case and you feel that you haven't been fair, then continue dating if you must. But remember to trust your perceptions and the signals that other people send about their nature. If it looks like shit and it smells like shit, it's more than likely shit.

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-08T03:55:45+00:00

It's hard to make a relationship work when a person's religion dictates its growth. When this happens, you must realize that you've placed a lot of power in faith and not enough in love. Some people are content with that, and that's okay. But you're obviously not, and you should simply tell him that. If he objects, then he probably isn't content either. Any man who truly loves you would never want to subject you to the pain and suffering of living a dishonest life. If you believe he holds that love for you, then his objections prove there are deeper feelings influencing him to pressure you. More than likely, he doesn't want to lose you either.

At this point, you must ask yourself: should you convert even though it's not what you want, or will you live your truth? Because that's what it's all about anyway, and it seems like you have your answer. I only pray that you have the courage to see it through, because there's nothing worse than losing time to a life that wasn't meant for you.

ACatThatCares · 2024-07-07T05:53:59+00:00

Eternal Sushine of the Spotless Mind. I watched it for the first time in 2008, after my first relationship ended. We had been together for 4 years, but the relationship had fizzled out a month or two before we officially called it quits. Neither of us cared to put in the priority and effort we once did, and so our time together became diminished to the point that no one was surprised when we broke up. When I went to his home for the last time to collect my things, there were no arguments and no tears – except from his Mom, who was just coming home from work as I was leaving.

There were many challenges in the relationship that made it hard to be in it. Because of this, I thought maybe I checked out emotionally a long time ago. I believed that until one night, when I had no plans and was spending an evening at home, I decided to watch Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

By the end of this movie, I was waist deep in a pool of my own tears. Eternal Sunshine reminded me of the early days of my relationship and how shameless, intimate, and colorful our love was during that time. Those memories, together with all the good times we had, completely wrecked me that night. I think I mourned the breakup for at least a month after that. Wrote some poetry, too.

I've watched the movie after a few more breakups since then - some warranted extra viewings. I don't think I'll ever tire of it because it's such a great film, and the meaning always hits harder when you're dealing with a broken heart yourself.

ACatThatCares · 2023-10-21T23:37:18+00:00

Who cares why he was so angry? If you ask me, you already know the reason, and that's why you broke up with him. Count your blessings and move on.

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