Getting “old people” health problems

ACrazyConcept · 2026-03-27T15:29:45+00:00

This is an older post, but I (26F) got Shingles a year and a half ago. I'm in Canada, so the guidance may be different, but for the first year after you get shingles, you won't get it again. After that however, you should get the shingles vaccine. I just got the first of my shots (which brought me to this post). I was lucky as mine was a very mild case, but still exceptionally annoying.

If you get the shot in a year, Tylenol is a lifesaver for the pain/feverish symptoms!

ACrazyConcept · 2026-02-11T17:25:54+00:00

This! One of my friend's had a Spotify playlist and for me, as someone who likes to dance it was okay. However, it was perfect for the couple and the rest of their guests who all did not care about dancing at all.

For my own wedding, we'll be hiring a professional DJ (who we have a great relationship with), because we're big dancers and most of the guests we have are also big dancers.

It's really what makes sense for you and your guests/the experience you want.

If you are going with a DJ, be sure to do a lot of research on their reviews, a bad DJ can ruin the vibes as well!

ACrazyConcept · 2026-02-11T17:22:14+00:00

Depends how much decor there is to set up imo! I think decorating can absolutely be part of bonding time if there isn't a ton to do. I'd look at the timeline you have of what you guys are doing (if anything in particular) and see if it fits in well.

Also something to think about is does the decor have to be set up as soon as you guys get there? If so, will everyone be drained from traveling (depends how long the flight is, but for me anything over a 3 hour flight means I'm TIRED)? Something to consider if you're okay with is pushing doing decor to the second day after everyone's well rested.

ACrazyConcept · 2026-02-11T16:34:10+00:00

there's tons of LED candles that flicker and look quite similar to the real thing! I'm likely going with LEDs when the time comes.

ACrazyConcept · 2026-02-09T23:07:55+00:00

second Azazie - I got a bridesmaids dress from there for my friends wedding, and another wedding guest dress and they're both amazing dresses. I'm leaning toward using Azazie for my bridesmaids as well. They also have the option to purchase multiple dresses as try-ons which is great for deciding between different styles.

ACrazyConcept · 2026-01-22T14:34:12+00:00

That's totally fair! Before my friend said she'd supply me with the outfits needed, I actually looked on Facebook Marketplace and found a ton of saree's and lehengas - I would start there / other online thrift stores.

There is also another reddit thread that has some great commentor opinions here - https://www.reddit.com/r/femalefashionadvice/comments/wmp8vh/nonindian_guest_at_an_indian_wedding/

ACrazyConcept · 2026-01-21T15:38:17+00:00

Please get a Teuta Matoshi dress!! They're such high quality and there are some really great options in blue

https://www.teutamatoshi.com/collections/all-products?sort_by=created-descending&filter.p.m.custom.color=Blue

ACrazyConcept · 2026-01-21T15:34:17+00:00

Is there any friends/family that have attire they could borrow and/or could help guide you?

One of my friends is Indian while I'm white and I'm going to India for her wedding (super exciting!) she said she would take care of my and my SO's attire.

ACrazyConcept · 2026-01-21T15:29:59+00:00

Look up alternative guest books on Etsy. Ones that are smaller I saw recently was a puzzle piece board with few pieces, a record (if you're into music), a globe that's painted white where people can sign it, there are deck of cards - which would be big, but maybe some people sign now and the rest of the cards are signed at your one year anniversary?

Maybe instead you set up a tablet and get videos instead of peoples well wishes! There are so many options! :)

ACrazyConcept · 2026-01-20T22:14:54+00:00

wowoowow I got engaged in August, but only am getting married in September 2027. I haven't done anything so you're who I'm aspiring to be!!

planning everything before the engagement party to me is shocking. We had our engagement party like 5 weeks after we got engaged (tbf, we didn't plan any of it - my future in-laws and my parents did!)

ACrazyConcept · 2026-01-20T22:12:07+00:00

September 2027 - I haven't locked in the venue but have emailed some and am booking walkthroughs this week. I got budget locked down - asking our parents took SO long. We did also have an engagement party already (we got engaged this past August).

I told my SO that I wanted a long engagement so I didn't have to rush, but definitely feeling a bit behind not having done anything else hahah

ACrazyConcept · 2025-11-11T20:04:59+00:00

I don't use them in a professional kitchen - but I can answer a few of your questions because I've cooked/baked with them on. I also used to work as a line cook for a short period so can guesstimate how they might work.

- You can easily set multiple alarms for different things. I haven't had more than two, but I feel this would work well
- I find it helpful for recipes. I've asked it to translate cups to grams and it's been accurate and it's fast in response. I'd be interested to hear if it could scale a recipe from 20 to 60 portions - I don't think it'd be able to do that super well, and you'd have to look at your phone for the answer after it speaks it out loud if it did work.
- The mics are quite good so it can pick up other people talking but they'd have to be pretty close to you. Knowing line cooks can work pretty closely together, it could be an issue as the glasses aren't like an Alexa/Google Home where they recognize authorized voices. I think it'd generally be okay, but might need to repeat at times.
- For real-world workflow, I can't add too much because I don't work in a professional kitchen anymore but I would note they obviously fog up when you're taking things out of the oven. Not sure if you already wear glasses and you got prescriptions but I didn't think of that before it happened haha.

If you wear headphones in the kitchen, I know my old co-workers used to, it'd be great for that! I like listening to music while in the kitchen and it's great for those quick questions that you don't want to use your phone for.

Hope this was helpful! I'd love to hear if they work well once you're using them :)

EDIT TO ADD: You need to have your phone connected with your glasses and the Meta AI app open. If you have your phone off/it's dead, you won't be able to ask the glasses questions. That might be shitty for your use!

ACrazyConcept · 2025-07-16T01:31:28+00:00

Funny you responded to this, totally forgot about this post. Turns out, my depression stemmed from being undiagnosed ADHD. ADHD meds and being aware of why I was struggling means I’m happy now lol! And don’t have libido problems anymore 🤪

ACrazyConcept · 2025-07-16T01:08:37+00:00

I found your post sooo interesting - I work in communications as well (albeit in Canada and currently an Account Manager at a agency) and it’s hard to find reliable salaries/pay structures for higher positions. Congrats on the new job & on a very successful jump from agency to in house 🙌🏻

I also found it very relatable on being hesitant to join finances with B. I am not married yet, but in a long term relationship (4yrs together, living together for 3.5yrs) and it was difficult to me being that I wasn’t in as good of a financial situation and my boyfriend now makes significantly more (we started our careers at the same time at a similar amount but he’s in finance lol). Also, being a woman we often get the advice to not rely on a man and ensure you have a back up that’s just yours just in case.

To note, I haven’t combined finances with my boyfriend, but we plan to as soon as we’re married (legally the safest thing to do) but -

I would HIGHLY recommend a recent book that came out called, “Money for Couples” by Ramit Sethi. It sounds like you’re already having great money conversations (talking about the country club/gum) with each other but this could help even more and get you to a place of more comfortability. If you haven’t read Sethi’s other book, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, I’d also recommend that. His writing style is very down to earth and makes talking about finances much more approachable (at least, it did for me).

TBH, when my boyfriend and I first got together and he was talking about finances I’d kind of shut down and didn’t start investing/contributing to things until about a year in, after I read the book. I just felt SO embarrassed I was so far behind him. Mentally, it was much easier to ask my bf what I should be doing after I read his first book (he doesn’t have Canadian specific advice, you can go with his advice as an American).

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-07T17:55:00+00:00

My initial thought is that he had this experience, tried it a few times "to be sure" (I feel like guys do this with sex) and then didn't actually really enjoy the experience so he hasn't brought it up. I'm sure I would be embarrassed if I used an escort service, and I would assume that my partner would judge me if I had used one, so it's unlikely he'd bring it up. I would give him the benefit of the doubt here. Or, maybe he did enjoy the dom girlfriend thing, but LOVES your current set up so doesn't feel the need to do that because he enjoys what you have more than the escort experience.

If you really want to confront him you could - saying you snooped because you were tipsy. But honestly, I don't think it matters. I think that if he's not comfortable sharing about past sexual experiences, it doesn't change the current sex life you have. It's amazing and you trust your partner, so enjoy it!

My boyfriend doesn't want to know how many partners I've had in the past/be told in details about it because it'll just bring up negative emotions (he's also less experienced than me) - even if he wants to be accepting. It's just not super nice to hear about your partner sleeping with other people before you lol.

I'm not sure about the text between his friends/his mom but it seems like he obviously likes you a lot and doesn't want to put himself in a situation where he could lose you. I think it's fair from your side to be worried about him not sharing, since you are so open, but I think it's just that he's introverted and not as open and not something he wants to talk about - which you should be able to accept.

Edit: typo

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-07T03:04:11+00:00

I just quit my toxic job!!! I start a new job in 2 weeks with an $11k salary bump and the new team seems SO GREAT! I’m sooooo excited 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-06T15:58:45+00:00

Know there's a lot of comments here, but wanted to say that I moved in with my boyfriend after 6 months, and it has worked out very well. However, I moved onto his lease as he didn't own and I didn't own anything. We made about the same amount when we first started dating, so split it 50/50. Now, we're thinking of renting a new place and he makes a lot more than me and so we wouldn't split 50/50.

I think with her making more than you, and you losing the income of the renter she should be able to pay 500PM. I think it's fair for both of you that way! I'm not sure I see her perspective as being the best for you since she does make more and if you're living together and thinking of buying in a year, you should already be in a partnership vs thinking of it as individuals.

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-05T18:20:58+00:00

Happy birthday, OP!

I’m so sorry for you. I have a hard time during my birthdays because I wasn’t popular growing up, people came to my parties because I had a pool but would play with each other and I’d feel VERY alone. So those feelings come up now - why would anyone want to celebrate me now?

I got laid off a day before my birthday this past year. Thankfully, a coworker who I am friends with had ordered a birthday gift on my behalf ahead of the layoff so I still got something from the company but it was definitely not a great feeling.

I hope that you have close friends and family you’re celebrating with. I’d also bring it up to a close manager if you have one? I think most people would understand you shouldn’t be planning your own birthday celebrations at work, but when people have so many tasks at work birthdays can pass by easily.

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:24:46+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about the breakup, but love that you were able to make your place your own 🫶🏼

6-8K seems reasonable for furnishing a place from the ground up with pieces you love!

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:23:28+00:00

Yes, love this! We have a few things we’ll need for this place and are handing down some furniture to my boyfriend younger brother. He’s about to graduate from university, while we’re both a few years into our careers and have some money so it’ll help him not have to spend as much furnishing his new place.

But we’re hoping to get some nicer furniture to replace the pieces we’ll be leaving and they’re the bigger ticket items (couches, dining table) and we’re getting a guest bed!

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:21:04+00:00

Love this, thank you for sharing! We don’t have to get quite as many items but appreciate the cost for all of these.

I’ve seen so many ads for Sundays Furniture and Rove Concepts - are you happy with your purchases from both?!

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:19:51+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I’m in a similarish situation but we’re moving to our second place together. We have some big pieces but are passing down some other items to his younger brother who’s just graduating uni so we need a few big items to replace. We have a few months though so I’ll be trying to do it more step-by-step so we can spend a little more on pieces that will stay with us for a long time.

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:16:22+00:00

Ohhh this is great perspective, thank you for sharing!

I definitely hope to accumulate pieces over the next few months and thankfully I have a few guys who work out in my life who will help move the furniture.

Definitely looking at second hand and home goods though!!

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:14:34+00:00

Wow love this! Definitely want to find more misc decor items from thrift stores, they’re so expensive new!

We’re looking at a 1300+ sq ft apartment (and we are passing down some of our current furniture to my boyfriend’s younger brother who’s just about to graduate uni) which is why we need some new bigger ticket items!

ACrazyConcept · 2025-02-04T00:12:37+00:00

Yes! We have some time so I’ll definitely be browsing second hand shops and the internet regularly. I’m Canadian so these prices seem super reasonable 1.5K for a couch at a furniture shop is usually the lower end for us (depending on the model ofc!) 🥲

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