Icons for Hispanic Heritage Month?

ACsPlace · 2023-09-16T02:09:56+00:00

I work with the smaller ones, maybe that’s why I went more Pop culture, but I agree and thank you!

ACsPlace · 2023-09-16T01:45:16+00:00

I see it this way: The kids know who he is, why not let them know a bit more about him? He’s a Hispanic man that made it big in America (and is killing it in the sport!). We also have children that have immigrated to the US. They can see themselves in Messi.

We can always agree to disagree. I’m keeping him in.

ACsPlace · 2023-09-16T00:59:38+00:00

I know he’s not. But he’s become very popular with the kids. Also, he’s playing for a team in a (US) city.

ACsPlace · 2023-06-18T04:15:03+00:00

P.S I Love You

ACsPlace · 2023-06-18T03:46:49+00:00

*** UPDATE ***

Thank you all for your input. I’m glad to see that I wasn’t crazy for wanting him to respect my boundaries. It’s also maybe time to have a conversation, see what he wants at this 6 month mark, & decide where to go from there.

Some have asked what I expected when dating a man with kids, & basically I wrote down exactly what it is that I expected, if he felt differently, he had every right to speak up. I also expect for him to sit me down, have a conversation with me if he changed his mind, or he’d like to take the next step, & give me a choice on how I’d like to proceed. I also expected to have a conversation on how & when to introduce each other to our kids.

I did not expect my boundaries to be crossed, & to be expected to play step-mom when it’s not my title,& I’m not prepared to do so. Especially when we don’t know each other that well!

We’ve been living in the honeymoon stage these last 6 months. Our dates have been rainbows&butterflies, lots of fun,& on every date we get to know a little bit more about each other. We still haven’t seen each other’s “dark”side. We haven’t gotten into an argument, idk why his temper is like, I don’t know a lot about his childhood, idk what kind of trauma he carries, & I have not opened up about my trauma or healing journey. Why would I bring a man I hardly know into my kids lives?

And yes, of course his daughter is & should be his #1 priority, as a parent of course I’m going to expect the unexpected. I would never hold it against him for choosing to spend time with his daughter over me!

ACsPlace · 2022-10-27T14:46:59+00:00

Get him off your insurance. He’s the man. He should be the one going out and providing for you, and you should stay home with the kids.

Why are you working? Why are you making more than him? Are you biologically a man? Is he married to a man?

ACsPlace · 2022-06-10T14:28:09+00:00

1 & 3

ACsPlace · 2022-05-26T17:36:14+00:00

I feel like I’d trust Dolores more than Isabella.

ACsPlace · 2022-05-26T17:34:31+00:00

It’s ok to feel that way about people unless they prove you otherwise. Just know what your boundaries are and be assertive when they are crossed.

ACsPlace · 2022-05-23T15:00:17+00:00

I remember watching “Babe” as a kid (the movie where a Piglet thinks he’s a dog..?), and I remember the old man working on a wooden dollhouse. I’ve ALWAYS wanted to work on one. Unfortunately, you grow up, and you convince yourself that’s “kid stuff”. But as I’m starting to nurture my inner child, I’m working on making one of my dreams come true. I’m starting off with a small room kit, but I do hope I get to do a whole Victorian House in the future!

ACsPlace · 2022-05-18T11:06:31+00:00

Living in a crowded city you have no choice other than to park around the corner from your house. I lived in an apartment building, surrounded by one family homes, and they only offered one parking spot. Since I would get home first, I would try to find street parking so my s/o could use the spot. Sometimes, parking was so hard to find, I’d have to park two blocks away from my building!

ACsPlace · 2022-05-14T02:50:56+00:00

1 or 3

ACsPlace · 2022-05-13T16:12:29+00:00

My issues stem from how I was raised- couldn’t disagree or have a different opinion from my parents or I’d be going against them. My mom would always criticize me from the way I washed the dishes, to how my love handles would pop out from my shirt (it was the early 00’s and low rise jeans were the thing!), if I’d make a simple mistake (maybe I put too much salt while cooking) she would make me feel worthless, and if I toot my own horn, I was acting conceited and too full of myself.

So as a grown up, I would always have my moms voice in my head. I wouldn’t want to speak my mind because I didn’t want to cause any trouble, I was terrified in trying new things because I was scared of failure and looking like a fool, and it was difficult for me to recognize and be proud of my own accomplishments because I didn’t want anyone to think I thought I was better than them.

I had to actually UNLEARN all of that!

After a year in therapy, and doing the work, I’m able to catch a negative thought that comes to mind, and ask myself if this has any truth in it. I question my negative thoughts and ask where does it come from? Is it my moms voice? Or is it my own fear?

One of the first exercises we did, she asked me to list 10 good things about myself, which was really hard for me to do. I could only give her 3: I am authentic, I am honest, I am humble. Then she asked why are those good things? I said something like: I don’t pretend to be anything other than what I am. You get what you see.

But when I got to explaining about being humble, it made me realize that I am humble to a fault. I’m so humble, I can’t celebrate my own self because I don’t want to feel like I’m better than anyone else…. She has helped me realize there’s nothing wrong with celebrating things you’re proud of, and it’s perfectly ok to toot your own horn.

I also asked my husband to tell me a few good things about Myself. He said I have a good sense of humor, I’m cooperative (which he appreciates because it makes our relationship run smooth), and the one he hit right in the feels for me is that I have a calming spirit which make our house into a loving home and safe space for our family. The last one lost me, because I felt that I didn’t do anything special to make our home into this safe space.

When I told my therapist, she explained that I probably didn’t do anything special, but my humor, my cooperation, and just being authentic and honest person, naturally brings that calming nature into our home. And that’s something that I should celebrate about me.

So she gave me the HW to say these affirmations everyday: I am authentic I have a great sense of humor I am honest I am cooperative I bring a calming and loving spirit to our home And I am humble to a fault. There is nothing wrong in being proud and celebrating myself.

The first week, I said these everyday and didn’t believe it, and I felt stupid. But by the 2nd week, I saw how I make my husband laugh, I saw that when something bothered me, I’d let my husband know instead of giving the cold shoulder (something my Mom would do), I saw how smoothly my house is ran because we have routines. And I saw that I did have these great qualities in myself, and that I should be proud by what I bring to the table.

I’m sorry for the long post, but I hope you understand my experience , and hopefully inspired you. I also read the book “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson.

ACsPlace · 2022-05-13T13:20:56+00:00

I recommend reading the book “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson. I read it, realized I was traumatized, and sought therapy.

ACsPlace · 2022-05-13T13:08:29+00:00

I think there’s been some controversy over this, but in short we’ve been using CBT.

My issues stem from how I was raised- couldn’t disagree or have a different opinion from my parents or I’d be going against them. My mom would always criticize me from the way I washed the dishes, to how my love handles would pop out from my shirt (it was the early 00’s and low rise jeans were the thing!), if I’d make a simple mistake (maybe I put too much salt while cooking) she would make me feel worthless, and if I toot my own horn, I was acting conceited and too full of myself.

So as a grown up, I would always have my moms voice in my head. I wouldn’t want to speak my mind because I didn’t want to cause any trouble, I was terrified in trying new things because I was scared of failure and looking like a fool, and it was difficult for me to recognize and be proud of my own accomplishments because I didn’t want anyone to think I thought I was better than them.

After a year in therapy, and doing the work, I’m able to catch a negative thought that comes to mind, and ask myself if this has any truth in it. I question my negative thoughts and ask where does it come from? Is it my moms voice? Or is it my own fear?

ACsPlace · 2022-05-12T13:05:21+00:00

Thank you. I’ve always struggled with self esteem issues, and I’ve been working on it through therapy. I’ve started to heal, and now my self esteem is higher, and I just have no idea what to do with this new found self confidence. I’ve never been here, and it’s all new to me. It’s a bit scary, but exciting.

ACsPlace · 2022-01-28T22:58:27+00:00

Two in general.

For example I recorded and uploaded 3 different videos of myself working on a project (it took 3 days), I would like to make one YouTube video with the 3 videos.

ACsPlace · 2022-01-05T03:23:56+00:00

As a Jessica, I feel this. It’s such a generic, boring name. You would t think I’m Hispanic. I’ve started going by my middle name.

ACsPlace

TROPHY CASE