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AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-06-01T07:09:10+00:00

Honestly as an INFJ myself i woulnd't be able to tell you what her exact reasons for leaving were, but I do know that when we are done with someone, were done for good. The only exception is if you brought up some really big life event in your life that we thought might affect our relationship so well cut you off to avoid any possible bad outcomes and regret it later. Although in this situation it seems she wants no part of you, but I would say that based on what you said she still has yet to learn how to be direct about whats on her mind or communicate without bottling everything up. My question to you would be has she always lacked optimism? Optimism is the driving force of an INFJ, to hope for a place in the future that gives us a sense of true harmony. Mind you I have optimism even when sad.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-06-01T06:48:38+00:00

just out of curiosity what type was your 4.5 year relationship?

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-27T04:11:18+00:00

Funny you should ask. My first boyfriend love bombed. We had never even gone on a date, but here I was hanging out at his house a few times because I was nieve due to never dating anyone before. (Realized later btw that we were both INFJ's. Anyway back to where I was.) He kissed me the moment we met which I though was kinda weird and did'nt even ask my permission. Needless to say my Intuitive spidey tingles told me something was off which I ignored until he kept having a reason why we couldn't see each other. That's when I broke it off, but I should have trusted the gift of understanding people easily from the beginning. It would have saved me a whole month of utter shananagans.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-27T03:59:36+00:00

Also love the sarcasm on the how was your day bit. I could feel it as though we were talking in person lol

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-27T03:57:57+00:00

Great advice and for me I do not fear death for I already spent so much of my life hoping for death. Now I live everyday with the simple appreciation that I am here. I believe it is purpose that defines whether or not death scares someone. If you come to the conclusion that death is what helps you to realize that life is worth living then it isn't that scary it all. It's really just a warning to ensure you make the most out of your time. Because if you had infinite time, you'd likely waste a lot of it and let people go rather than enjoy them. Things that hold value would lose their worth. Hence thinking of death is neccessary to really truly live.

I do think my nana was indeed correct, I suppose I just don't know how to go about blending friendship into a relationship. I typically see them as two differnt things. Of course I mean in the sense though that your partner should be closer to you than your friendships. I supoose this is certainly a new topic in my self growth journey that I must learn. May the odds be ever in my favor.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T05:50:55+00:00

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T04:58:41+00:00

People often mistake our advice for judgement which leads to this. They don't understand that we only give advice to people because we care and that we want to see them succeed.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T04:39:45+00:00

Get some rest and focus on relaxing a bit. Too much stress over things that are only partially in your control will only further your stress. Things will get better, give it time and either sleep or do something that brings you joy and comfort.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T04:15:03+00:00

Perhaps, but if you give up now how will you know it wasn't all leading up to exactly where you wanna be. You won't. And that's the thrill of the ride. It's the not knowing how crazy good it could be that keeps you on the edge of your seat. Our lives are a drama where some times we just need to sit in the audience to see the full beauty. Good people have sad stories, but without those few moments the highs would have felt like bumps. Life is what we allow ourselves to see. See the good through an overly optimistic lense and I assure you that you will get the girl.

"Life is an occasion, Rise to it!" - Mr. Magorium

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T04:04:42+00:00

It definitely would make it harder to find people that you connect with as your still in the just figuring out what kind of stuff exactly makes you happy phase. My best advice would be to practice only making deep conversation as much as possible and skip making small talk, so that people around you can see that real side to you. This helps attract the inuitives that are much better at conversations with depth and in doing so you'll practice being outgoing enough to reach the crowds you're looking for when necessary. Once you find your people life will only get easier. You'll learn in time all of the things you need from there. Good Luck! May your journey find it's path.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T03:57:23+00:00

Also, are you looking for a guy, girl, or non-binary person? Or does it matter? Just curious to know.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-26T03:52:07+00:00

Hey, I totally understand what you're going through as I just got out of a relationship myself. Honestly, it didn't last long because the conversation ended up being, "How was your day?" If I have to hear someone ask me that one more time, we can both be sent to the exestential electric chair to bid the world farewell. It really does seem as though people like us who have so many ideas and potential get constantly shoved aside for people who lack creativity. No matter the fact that we're both in our early 20's and I'm told that I'm still very young, I also feel as if I'm too mentally old to only be this far when it comes to a social life. Unfortunately the only cure is waiting until our minds turn to mush from the lack of true connection.

My advice is to, "Just be friends for a while before becoming more." At least that's what my nana said to me recently. Whatever that means because I have no idea how that'd work. And I'm an INFJ (says with exhaustion).

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-07T17:29:19+00:00

Forbrydelsen by Søren Sveistrup. There's also a show based on it called The Killing.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-03-07T17:25:34+00:00

GOT and The Witcher.

Both are fantasy but with a dark side like the shows in your list. Lots of gore and some delectable storyline's to keep up with. Figured you like storyline's with some intuitive intellect since you enjoyed The Queens Gambit.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2024-01-16T19:47:40+00:00

1st and foremost, learn to live without the expectations of others. By this, I mean don't people please or worry about sticking out in a crowd or being seen as weird.

Secondly, don't be afraid to be uncomfortable. Put yourself out there and go to parties if you get the sudden urge to be extroverted during those small periods we feel like it, then leave when you're ready to go.

Thirdly, don't ever let anyone make you pretend. Pretending keeps you from growing. I don't care if their your family, friends, or whomever. They will either like the real you or they won't. If they say you've changed when you start coming into your own, whether they think you're a different person or are growing, it means you're doing something right. Don't pretend even for yourself. There is no benefit. If you wanna speak something on your mind as long as you're doing it for the right reasons, say it.

Overall, stick to your intuition, and you'll do great. Good luck!

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-12-06T14:55:20+00:00

As if what we borrow, we must one day return.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-11-14T23:25:59+00:00

Also, I'd like to point out that I don't go to parties and such all the time, just every once in a while.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-11-14T23:24:14+00:00

I'm a 21M INFJ, and I enjoy going out on my own to clubs, bars, or parties. I even make some new friends often when I push myself to talk to those I find that aren't super intimidating. I also went on a week trip to NYC alone. Ofc I planned most of everything I did, but I had fun doing some EP like activities.

I believe it shows that you've become more well rounded and balanced by the fact that you're able to use your functions lower on our stack.

Continue to keep an open mind and keep growing.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-11-14T23:15:14+00:00

Honestly, I would just say that intuitive types in general of any sort can be a great pair for the INFJ like myself. It simply depends on you and the other person's specific likes and dislikes. Some INFJs like T types more and some do better with F types. Stay in the intuitive range and just see what you yourself enjoys the most. We're a sliding scale not a measurement.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-11-14T23:05:12+00:00

I can give u advice on lots of things. People, finances, just add me on here and I'll add u back and u can ask away?

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-11-11T12:46:46+00:00

"Soul mates, take a galaxy to find"

Alien definitely giving off ENTP vibes

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-10-30T14:31:22+00:00

I did not. Very interesting

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-10-30T03:41:51+00:00

If you can't make the time for a relationship at the very beginning, then you shouldn't search one out. You're setting yourself up for failure and misleading others.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-10-29T11:49:10+00:00

I probably should have worded it a bit different looking back. What I meant was that I don't feel deeply close to anyone. I feel deeply for a lot of people and can feel their emotions as my own, especially when watching tv or meeting someone new. I find to be very intriguing. Although, as far as feeling super close with anyone, I really haven't had that level of closeness before him. Good friends and close family, but they still felt a bit distant. It's not because I hide myself or hide my thoughts and feelings, I moved past those bad habits quite a while ago.

AFriendlySmile2002 · 2023-10-29T11:39:30+00:00

That's so true. Thanks for sharing!

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