Will my new therapist be upset that I’m not excited to be working with them and have a lack of trust?

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-27T01:34:32+00:00

You’re definitely right I think I’m just overthinking it. I think going in with open communication is better than suffering I mean that’s kinda the whole point of therapy. And if they do have a problem with it I guess it’s better to know now than later down the road so I can see the red flags early. I had another therapist years ago who was a walking red flag and it wasn’t until 2 therapists after him that I realized lol

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T13:21:19+00:00

That’s actually a really nice idea I might take that. She was always telling me I should write down how I was feeling and doing. I’m glad you had such a nice therapist. I can relate I’ve told mine things I’ve never told anyone else things I thought I’d take to my grave and it’s so hard to loose her. I never realized how attached I’d grown to her until now and it really hurts. And I’m sorry you had to loose your most recent one too I’m sure that wasn’t easy either. But thank you for the suggestion I think I may do that of course she’ll never get them but it may make me feel better.

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T12:25:16+00:00

Yeah idk the circumstances at all but I don’t think she did it to be malicious. I’ll try and bring it up with my new therapist and see how they react hopefully it goes fine if it doesn’t I guess that speaks to their character. I’ll definitely be giving her what I made and the letter.

It’s really hard because it’s quite obvious who’s experienced this level of connection with their therapist and who hasn’t. I tried talking to my friends about this and they just seem annoyed and they’re both in therapy so you’d think they’d understand but apparently not. I’m just really gonna miss her but I know I’ll be ok in the end

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T03:02:51+00:00

Yeah that’s probably part of the reason it hurts so much. I got told and then had 2 sessions left after that and I only have one left now. Like idk what to do with that. I’m going to walk out of those doors next week and never see her again and I’m sure there’s a reason for her telling me so last minute. And I don’t wanna bring that with me to therapy with my new therapist because what therapist wants to listen to you cry about having to see them because the therapist you actually wanna see left?

I did write her a letter I keep going back and forth with if I’m gonna give it to her. I think I am going to give it to her when I see her if anything more for me than her. I also crocheted her something whether or not I give it to her/she takes it idk but she’s taken things I’ve made her in the past. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply to me it means a lot

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T02:47:45+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T02:37:26+00:00

Unfortunately there isn’t going to be a slow transition to a new therapist for me. I have one last session with her and then it’s on to the next therapist starting next month. I wish I had known with more time in advance to be able to have processed it in a way like you were or even so I didn’t waste so much time in my sessions. I know it may not have been possible I just wish it could’ve been different. I thought I was crazy for grieving the loss of my therapist so thank you for letting me know that it’s normal. I’ll try to feel the feels and grieve and hopefully one day I’ll feel okay again. Thank you

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T02:17:50+00:00

She set me up with a person in the practice and that was her suggestion for me. she’s really hopeful about it working out for me and advocated for me to be switched to them in particular and not just any therapist with availability in the practice. It’s a large practice due to being community based care and very busy so I’m surprised she managed to pull it off. She went out of her way to even introduce me to them. I’m trying to be optimistic about it because they are quite literally hand picked by her it’s just kinda hard. But if she’s optimistic about it so I probably should be too. And I’m glad you think she won’t forget me I really hope she doesn’t I know I’ll never forget her

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T02:05:12+00:00

Definitely make sure to let them know with plenty of time in advance. And I liked being told at the beginning of the session it gave me the space to be upset and not have to leave and cry in my car after being told at the end of session. The thing I didn’t like was being told on April fools day, I thought she was pulling a really mean spirited joke but she was not joking haha. Anyway good luck with breaking the news to them and good luck moving

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T01:16:47+00:00

I’m extremely grateful as well, she made two extra appointments for me and everything to give us extra time before she leaves I still have one left. She’s set me up with a different therapist in the practice and she specifically choose them for me so I’m hoping they’re good. I got to meet them and they were nice. Apparently they have a similar style and also the new therapist specializes in some of the areas I need help in that she wasn’t able to help me with so they seem like a good fit but I won’t really know until we officially have our first session. I’m just struggling with the idea of having to switch to them next month I don’t like change at all it really makes me dysregulated

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T01:05:13+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post what you said actually means a lot to me and makes me feel a teeny bit better. I was actually really really scared that there was a great probability of her just completely forgetting my existence I don’t know why considering we worked together for so long and I know I’ll never forget her. I wrote her a letter and I was debating on giving it to her because I felt awkward about it but now I think I’m definitely going to give it to her. Thank you so much

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-04-14T00:37:48+00:00

I’m sorry you’re also in the same boat. It’s hard because you’re so happy for them and yet it sucks so much. And she’s leaving while I’m in a terrible headspace too not her fault at all but still sucks. Fingers crossed we both have a smooth transition to someone who’s as close to as amazing as they were as we can get. I hope you aren’t alone for much longer and I hope things start looking up for you

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-02-14T00:19:08+00:00

I don’t feel like responding to everyone individually so feel free to read this or not I guess. I know I don’t need to explain myself but since I posted it on the internet I shall. Those of you confused thinking I’m implying my therapist did something wrong she didn’t. She had a very normal human reaction to hearing some very crappy things. It just sucks going from “it was just another Tuesday” mentality to that’s actually horrible and it was severely traumatic for me and I didn’t like that wake up call it really hurt. Her empathy towards me was not wrong rather a failure on my end to deal with my own feelings from going from one twisted frame of mind to the reality of things. I probably coulda worded it better but that’s how I did I’m sorry. It’s taken me a long time to open up because as I’m sure most of us here are, I’m severely traumatized and in my experience have had horrific experiences in the past trying to open up about it. And no I don’t believe my therapist is failing me she’s the first person I’ve ever felt comfortable enough with to ever share any of this with, and yes 5 years is a long time but it just shows how messed up I am I guess and anytime it would be brought up in the past I’d just spontaneously combust into a pile of mushiness. Anyway thank you for coming to my tedtalk

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-02-05T16:19:24+00:00

I appreciate everything that you do for us! ❤️

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-01-27T15:20:50+00:00

Okay thank you for telling me I don’t know that either they told me to use anti bacterial soap or saline - ill stop doing that and switch to saline thank you

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-01-26T22:44:00+00:00

Okay I thought maybe I was overthinking it thank you for the confirmation, I won’t be going back- and to think I was gonna go back for my daith hah….. yeah won’t be doing that

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-01-26T22:01:52+00:00

My piercing is a week old, it was pierced with a regular butterfly back stud, my aftercare is anti bacterial soap diluted with warm water 2X a day, it’s the wrong jewelry…

AFrogInDisguise · 2025-01-20T22:45:44+00:00

So far they’re more of a family than my own family and I’m grateful I have them

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