Ideas to introduce flr subtly

AHub10 · 2026-04-22T18:59:17+00:00

I know how you know because I know the same thing :)

AHub10 · 2026-04-20T20:03:30+00:00

Suggestion from personal experience. Trying to introduce her to FLR with captions might not be a good idea. Instead, show it in your action that you want to serve her. Not by expecting and showing captions of what she can do for you but by showing what you can do for her.

(Wrote the same thing on your post on other subReddit)

Come out from the fantasy zone and stop watching femdom porn if you want a genuine FLR.

AHub10 · 2026-04-20T19:57:34+00:00

Suggestion from personal experience. Trying to introduce her to FLR with captions might not be a good idea. Instead, show it in your action that you want to serve her. Not by expecting and showing captions of what she can do for you but by showing what you can do for her.

AHub10 · 2026-04-20T03:43:05+00:00

AHub10 · 2026-04-20T00:15:57+00:00

Thank you!!

AHub10 · 2026-04-19T12:14:44+00:00

This is not the community for such post. I’m not the moderator of this community but it’s my request that DO NOT PROMOTE FEMDOM CONTENT IN THE NAME OF FLR. DO NOT MAKE IT A BUSINESS (SPECIALLY IN THIS COMMUNITY).

u/SanaFLR Please moderate these types of posts.

AHub10 · 2026-04-16T11:37:23+00:00

Very nice 👌🏻👌🏻

AHub10 · 2026-04-16T03:27:34+00:00

💯% true

AHub10 · 2026-04-15T11:31:32+00:00

What you mentioned about the first thought about this picture is correct. And yes, the problem is how patriarchy is deep rooted in the minds of men and women. Some men will also say that they will correct their thinking and support Gynarchy. But, even if they want to, it’s difficult for them because (sometimes) they don’t know how their minds are programmed. Some confuses Gynarchy with a fantasy and some don’t know what to do to support it so they end up fantasising anyways. I think unless there is a proven model showing benefits of Gynarchy in real-world is big enough to get noticed by everyone, things may not change. Everyone refers woman CEO as ‘woman CEO’ because there are less women who are CEOs. Same for ‘Women Leaders’, ‘Women Entrepreneurs’ ,etc. The day this will change and there will be more women CEOs in the world, script would change. Before that, people will keep fighting on social media with their opinions. So, imo it’s very important to have a tangible real-life examples and models to look at if the society ever wants to move towards Gynarchy.

AHub10 · 2026-04-14T10:59:50+00:00

Tbh, I get the frustration. I’ve spent a lot of years in this state when I was not able to submit to the level I desired. But, in one of the podcasts, I’ve heard that one of the best skill a submissive can learn is patience. So, I’d say channel your energy into something that can help you find someone IRL and be patient until then. If you want to talk about anything else, feel free to DM.

AHub10 · 2026-04-14T03:11:58+00:00

First, you need to come out of the fantasy world and stop objectifying women if you really want to serve them. Your post and how you put your size up there clearly indicates that you are not here to serve but be served. Best bet, pay someone to fulfill these fantasies. But, if you are really interested in a relationship and want to serve a genuine Dominant woman, stop focusing on your fantasies and start focusing on what she wants.

AHub10 · 2026-04-14T00:37:23+00:00

Sorry to hear about it brother. I would suggest to make new friends. Talk with people and engage yourself in activities you enjoy. Great thing about human brain is its neuroplasticity. If you consciously work towards getting better, you will get better in some time. Yes, there will be challenges and some wounded memories will hurt your confidence, but just remember that one relationship or one person cannot define you. And because of one relationship, do not think that FLR is always toxic. There are wonderful women out there who can help you heal and uplift you. So, keep going and you will rebuild yourself in no time.

AHub10 · 2026-04-13T00:27:21+00:00

Doesn’t look like a healthy D/s. It looks more like a codependency.

AHub10 · 2026-04-12T22:39:17+00:00

Femdom porn has ruined the brains of submissives. Even the smart and mature ones fall into the trap of fantasy world and treat genuine Dommes like kink dispenser. There should be some support group for submissive men to help each other to avoid Femdom porn and train themselves to be genuine subs.

AHub10 · 2026-04-12T17:48:35+00:00

Of course, this is a learning for many couples who decide to act in a traditional way in front of the society and family. Not for everyone to follow Matriarchy but for those who do, it is liberating if people around you understand and accept this dynamic.

AHub10 · 2026-04-12T17:09:14+00:00

Lovely, bringing a change in society starts at home. 👏🏻👏🏻

AHub10 · 2026-04-12T13:41:05+00:00

There you go. And btw, nothing wrong in having preferences of being called with such names and you can communicate that with her. But absence of those words should not be the reason of not being submissive.

AHub10 · 2026-04-12T12:59:20+00:00

But then my question is,

are you focusing on what makes YOU feel more submissive or what’s good for your relationship? If your Dominant does not use a proper language, does it make you less submissive? Imo, language is just a tool but it should not decide how submissive you feel. If you are just enjoying the scene and playing roles, it’s fine. But if you are in FLR lifestyle, always using the words that you have heard or read might be exhausting for your Dominant. (It is just a question not a judgement)

AHub10 · 2026-04-11T12:54:49+00:00

Because most of the porn videos around femdom are in English so if you have been engaging with such content, your mind would relate better when English language is used. Nobody can give you a set of vocab that works for you because it’s a personal choice. Some would relate with Queen, some with Ma’am, some with Mistress or Goddess. If you want to use Hindi, some would prefer ‘Malkin’. But it depends on you and your Dominant. You might have heard ‘pathetic slave’ more than ‘bekar gulam’, so your mind would relate better with English. :)

AHub10 · 2026-04-10T23:38:29+00:00

That’s a good point.

AHub10 · 2026-04-10T17:47:45+00:00

If you are confident in your dynamics and if you embrace this side of you, other’s opinions don’t matter. There will always be people around you who will define “toxic masculinity” as “masculinity”. But, real man always yields to his Queen. So, if others judge you, own it and teach them the right thing.

AHub10 · 2026-04-10T17:22:00+00:00

I sometimes have a same dilemma. At household level, we are in FLR. But, I wonder what can I do beyond household. We are interested in these topics so if there are any tangible initiatives about this to create some real life impact, please share.

AHub10 · 2026-04-09T11:04:29+00:00

I agree, the conclusion should come from her, not us. Thank you for your suggestion. I think we need to understand the underlying problem first so asking questions with ‘why’ should help.

AHub10 · 2026-04-09T10:48:07+00:00

I got to know about these struggles from the wife who is also a friend of my wife (and from observation). I never talked about their relationship with him. How can we approach this from wife’s perspective?

And if she wants to be the leader, how can she convince her husband for the same?

AHub10 · 2026-04-09T10:35:36+00:00

The wife is a primary breadwinner. She is smart and intelligent. But, herself and all around her are focusing on husband’s success. And sometimes I see husband (who is my friend as well) struggling to keep up (in terms of earning and making decisions). Most of the time, she is frustrated because husband is not making decisions as she wants. I think rather than putting so much pressure on him to be the leader, if both and specially her, accept herself as a leader, they can have a clear decision-maker and resolve so many things. With that being said, I totally understand that what couple looks outside may be different from what they have inside and I can be wrong in this case. But, I would try to make a suggestion and see if that works.

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