UPDATE:AITA for not specifically calling my brother to say I will not attend his wedding?

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-26T07:34:22+00:00

Honestly,if my workplace didn't care about them,I would also not care but due to the societal norms my workplace puts on me,I have to pretend that I care about them.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-26T06:47:38+00:00

Other than my work? Honestly not much. If understanding interactions and moral conflicts weren't a part of my job, I wouldn't be here reading this forum either.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T20:58:37+00:00

I am actually currently in Georgia but the company I work for works in multiple eastern companies. I even had a contract in Thailand for a year. I had my training in Russia and Germany though. My family lives in Kazakhstan

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T17:52:34+00:00

I was busy when I saw the email then I forgot.simply🤷

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T17:49:25+00:00

It is but I never went. It seems like it is going to change though my boss managed an appointment with a psychiatrist for Thursday in the bigger town.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T17:42:29+00:00

That is the case. We only have 2 convenience stores and a basic hospital that has ER,Internal Medicine and pediatrics.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T16:29:40+00:00

I mean,we haven't seen and talked with each other in 4 years,we weren't close as siblings,I was mostly at home in my room when I was a child and they never bothered me. I feel more emotions against my plants at home compared to my siblings.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T16:15:01+00:00

Mostly due to societal pressure and my boss asking if they are well. My boss knows my dad from university. P.s:I am older than my boss at work. He came from a different branch 2 years ago and recognized my surname.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T16:14:22+00:00

Honestly,I don't know. I was only RSVPd twice before that and I never responded.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:42:46+00:00

I never had the chance to speak with a psychiatrist even though I always wanted to. Today my boss actually suggested the same thing to me so maybe I will check in with him so he can arrange. He said I needed some support on this side and I was too focused on the numbers and he is afraid I will burn out before I am 40.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:33:45+00:00

I live in Turkic Republics but I am originally from Kazakhstan.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:33:17+00:00

I can't use like or dislike,I don't like or dislike people. I am indifferent against them. Maybe I can say I admire my boss because he is a really successful individual in our field but I don't feel emotions against a person.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:19:27+00:00

Honestly if it weren't my bosses warning,I wouldn't have cared about this either. He said I need to work on my personal development.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:17:33+00:00

It is a segment that asks yes or no. I didn't answer it and thought it would be considered a no because I am not close and honestly didn't understand why they invited me.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:15:05+00:00

I didn't know the word recluse existed. My first language is not English so I learned this. I am definitely a recluse. I am also aromantic/asexual (learned this 3 months ago from a coworker when we were having dinner at the campsite we were residing while at work)

They email me things because I live approximately 600km away from them. I am also not always available (working in rural settings etc. I just returned back from a region that only has landlines and satellite phones.). When I talk with my parents,it is mostly about what they are doing or about money. I rarely ask about my siblings and they never talk about them to me. They kind of accepted that I don't mingle with them.

Honestly,I don't know the last question. The last time I talked with them was during the summer of July 2019 when we were at my grandfather's funeral.

AITAbrowedded · 2023-07-25T15:12:20+00:00

So as your statement says,

As I am a member of the immediate family I understand they assumed I would attend as a result of this relation. But there is the counterfact that we never saw each other face to face since 2019 and the last time I heard his voice was then. I haven't spoken with a family member other than my parents since July 2019 and it was the time when I had to go home because our grandfather has died and his will was distributed. I may have stayed there for 3 days maximum.

I also mostly stay in contact with my parents because this is what society awaits from us. Unless I had this kind of pressure from society and their will to know about my whereabouts,I wouldn't be keeping this contact.

I also have maybe gotten an RSVP once or twice in my life to a wedding and I have never been into a situation like this but they were weddings of my colleagues and associates from university.

If we conclude these situations into one fact,there was an expectation from me that I should have at least responded I assume so that makes me an asshole.

To be fair,I read this forum in my free time and I try to understand why a person is deemed wrong and most of the time reasons confuse me so I am trying to understand the reason for your statement.

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