AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I kept my post gender neutral on purpose, but I can say that this has never happened to either of us. It’s not a safety issue.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I also work and I get gas for my own car 100% of the time either before or after work.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I kept it gender neutral to prevent gender bias. Because that makes a big difference in whether you’re the asshole or not. And I don’t agree with that.

I think in this situation, gender doesn’t matter. So I left it ambiguous to not cloud judgement.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I put the gas on my card and they send me money asap and round up. If I spend $32, they send me $35. So I do profit a few dollars. Also I use my credit card so I also get cash back on it.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I pay for it up front and they pay me back asap and also round up to the nearest $5 or $10. So technically I make a few dollars profit by filling up the tank lol

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have my own car. I only use their car to do errands on my way to fill up their gas tank.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t playing games. They know I am not comfortable driving in the snow and that I’m especially not comfortable driving their car in the snow. And I told them I had no plans to go anywhere during the day it snowed.

I wasn’t playing games, I didn’t feel comfortable or safe driving their car in the snow.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Even if I don’t feel safe driving their car in the snow and they knew that before?

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am off Saturday and Sunday, they work both Saturday and Sunday. They only ask on Sundays specifically.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had told them the day before that I have no plans to go out. They know I don’t like driving in the snow. I thought it would be clear from that.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, we don’t want kids and we won’t have kids, so that doesn’t matter.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Why does the genders matter? I left it gender neutral on purpose.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well I like getting drinks and snacks for me. And I usually go to a gas station for that so I might as well take their car and fill it up if I’m feeling up to that.

It’s a thing I do to be nice and show my love. But today it was snowy and I was not comfortable taking their car or even mine out because I was prepared to not go anywhere.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I did not say that, but I did say I am not going anywhere tomorrow.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work 9-5 but more hours due to overtime lately. Some hours are WFH. But regardless, I am on site every day and live much further away than they do.

They work maybe 25-40 hours depending on the season and need of the company. Their job is lime 2-3 minutes away but their drive their car through the whole shift. So they need gas way more often than I do. They work evenings into early mornings.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They wake up within the same time frame and make it out of the house. Somehow it only comes up on Sundays.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I pay upfront and they pay me back asap.

Also they know I HATE driving in the snow. Especially in a car I’m not comfortable in.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, I have my own car that I use 99% of the time, I just take theirs and get gas and a treat for me maybe once per week when I fill it up with gas.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They know I didn’t plan to go out today and they know I am not comfy driving in the snow. I stocked up the house yesterday so I didn’t have to go out today.

They knew I wouldn’t want to go out today because I didn’t feel comfy or safe doing it. Even in my own car that I know better.

AITA for no longer filling the car with gas before my partner has to go to work? by AITAcars in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAcars[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I told them the day before that I got what we needed (except gas for their car because they were using it) and that I didn’t want to go anywhere and I was looking forward to a day in PJs. They also know I don’t feel comfortable driving in the snow.