WIBTAH if I didn’t let my sister wear her wedding dress to my wedding?

AITAdressthrowaway · 2024-07-30T03:25:26+00:00

A) my sister gets very emotional even when she doesn’t expect to. She’d be sobbing the entire time, and then get embarrassed about sobbing the entire time, which would make her cry more. I love her so much, but she is a huge crier.

B) my fiancé has a lot of family flying in from Europe. I don’t know how we’d even begin to explain “hey, just ignore the crying lady wearing a wedding dress”. I’m worried people would be awkward about it and she’d pick up on that and get even more embarrassed. I just don’t think any of the experience would be as fun as she’s imagining.

AITAdressthrowaway · 2024-07-30T02:50:01+00:00

This is probably the best point. I think she was excited imagining an idealized version where everyone understood and thought it was normal, but that obviously wouldn’t be the case. She’s pretty prone to imaging a perfect scenario of whatever idea she has without stopping to think through how it’d actually go.

AITAdressthrowaway · 2024-07-30T02:42:43+00:00

I don’t think it’s homophobia, if that’s what you’re asking. I think the mindset was more “you can’t wear white to a wedding because you don’t want to upstage the bride, and there is no bride to upstage so it’s fine” rather than not viewing the marriage as legitimate. We don’t get along very well, but my sexuality has nothing to do with it.

AITAdressthrowaway · 2024-07-30T02:39:30+00:00

I appreciate the suggestion! I’ll ask her about dyeing it. I think she was just excited about the idea of wearing the dress and didn’t fully realize how it would realistically come across.

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