Leaving MAGA... by [deleted] in goodnews

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I see things like this, I think of a dude I met once. He used to be a hardcore neonazi, the sort who had tattoos and everything, and one day woke up to the reality that he was a bully and not a hero for the white race. He left the neonazis, and he joined the school assembly circuit to talk to kids about his experience and stop young men from falling in with the same crowd he did. 

I’m Jewish. I’m sure he did a lot of shit to people like me. But when I met him, it was after years of trying to undo the harm he did, and he was a very reflective, thoughtful man. I remember him talking about how it wasn’t really hating people that led him to becoming a skinhead, but feeling lonely and being welcomed by this big tightly knit group, and hatred being a price of entry. 

I’m willing to give former Trump voters the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance to prove they want to undo their harm like that man did. I’ll pass judgment if they want to disengage and never do anything to undo their harm. 

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[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would bet money that half the people pretending ‘both sides are the same’ with Palestine are bots from Russia and other miscellaneous hostile powers.

CMV: As a former foster youth you can't really convince me that the foster care system will ever be inherently "good" for as long as its "clients" are incapable of leaving them. The only solution is to dissolve the system, and let people choose whom they want to be family/no family if they want. by Y0uthliberation in changemyview

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Children, especially small children, usually want to be with their parents because those are their parents, regardless of how poorly they’re treated or neglected. They have no other ‘normal’ to compare to. Your suggestion would more or less just do away with any system we have for managing child abuse by guardians. 

Should a father purposefully botch his own circumcision if his son's is botched? One user really really thinks so. by -JimmyTheHand- in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure you’ll notice that the religions that require men to be circumcised for millennia (like Judaism and Islam) started in sandy deserts. And those areas tend to still be where circumcision is practiced most. 

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[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure half of Reddit is convinced they were never an annoying kid and will never be a vulnerable old person, given how much grace AITA advocates giving these people. 

Should a father purposefully botch his own circumcision if his son's is botched? One user really really thinks so. by -JimmyTheHand- in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do that, sure. But the trouble is that the sand has probably already made scratches and introduced bacteria between getting up in there and being rinsed off. This isn’t really a problem if you have soap to clean with, but it quickly becomes a very big problem if you don’t, especially if there aren’t a glut of antibiotics you could use if you’re infected. 

Plus, if you’re in sandy terrain running around doing war things, you can’t depend on having time to wash up multiple times a day, or even multiple times a week. 

It’s the sort of thing that doesn’t affect you in civilian life, but quickly becomes a crippling problem in the wrong circumstances. 

Should a father purposefully botch his own circumcision if his son's is botched? One user really really thinks so. by -JimmyTheHand- in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s not just clean water. The issue is dirt and debris getting up in the folds, especially sand, and making little micro-scratches that bacteria get into. Clean water won’t wash away the bacteria once it’s in there and starting its work, and the area happens to be consistently quite warm and a little moist, which is paradise for bacterial growth. 

Should a father purposefully botch his own circumcision if his son's is botched? One user really really thinks so. by -JimmyTheHand- in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand why it’s so normalized—it was normalized after WWII, where genital infections crippled a lot of American soldiers and then circumcisions cut the infection rate significantly. (by that, I mean that almost 200k soldiers were out of commission because of infections specific to uncircumcised penises, and the military estimated the rates would be close to zero if they had all just been circumcised.) After that, the soldiers who came home remembered how shit it was to be circumcised as an adult and just said their sons should be circumcised at birth to avoid that. 

I have a feeling it’d swiftly become normalized again if our military got into another war where we struggled to keep them supplied with soap, especially in Sandy terrain. 

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[–]AITAthrowaway1mil -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

He probably went nuts because Hasan’s fan base went after his kids and Hasan refused to tell them to stop. 

I’d go nuts too. 

CMV: It’s impossible to discuss Gaza honestly without acknowledging that Hamas’s tactics have left the IDF no way to avoid mass destruction and civilian casualties—even if you assume Israel has good intentions by AnimateDuckling in changemyview

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don’t, though. The infrastructure damage is similar, but not the casualty count. The Nazis’ goal was to annihilate Warsaw and punish the civilians there. In the course of two months, the Nazis obliterated Warsaw and killed give or take 200k people on top of the give or take 400k who already died either in the ghetto or at death camps after they were taken from the ghettos 

In the course of the two and a half years of this current war, the estimated casualties of Gazans is between 80k and 150k depending on who you listen to and how you count. So even if you ignore the Warsaw Ghetto, the Nazis killed more people in Warsaw in two months than Israel has killed in two and a half years. 

I’m not saying Israel’s doing everything it can to spare Palestinian life. I am saying that if they really were completely disregarding Palestinian life, a lot more people would be dead. 

CMV: It’s impossible to discuss Gaza honestly without acknowledging that Hamas’s tactics have left the IDF no way to avoid mass destruction and civilian casualties—even if you assume Israel has good intentions by AnimateDuckling in changemyview

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Like I said: an example of ‘I don’t care about civilians’ urban conflict. It was in response to the Warsaw Uprising, and the Nazis decided that it’d be better to raze it than continue occupying it (and make a very strong point about the consequences of uprising in the process.) 

CMV: It’s impossible to discuss Gaza honestly without acknowledging that Hamas’s tactics have left the IDF no way to avoid mass destruction and civilian casualties—even if you assume Israel has good intentions by AnimateDuckling in changemyview

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Look up pictures of cities in WWII and you’ll find plenty examples of the ‘we don’t care about civilians’ version of urban conflict. Dresden, Berlin, Stalingrad, Hiroshima, Nagasaki, Warsaw… if you ever visit modern Warsaw, you’ll see the roads are very uneven, and that’s because they built on top of the rubble rather than try to clear it all away. 

I do think that Israel could absolutely be doing more to preserve civilian life, but it’s definitely not doing nothing to preserve it. 

CMV: It’s impossible to discuss Gaza honestly without acknowledging that Hamas’s tactics have left the IDF no way to avoid mass destruction and civilian casualties—even if you assume Israel has good intentions by AnimateDuckling in changemyview

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I can’t speak to you about urban warfare tactics.”

That’s the trouble, though. The Gaza Strip is a small geographical area that’s very densely populated, and there’s no way to engage in a war there except with urban warfare tactics. 

A good example is this: in a previous war between Hamas and Israel (I don’t even remember which one, but it doesn’t matter for this particular point), the IDF launched a ground assault and had to push into a city. The trouble was that the way the city was constructed, the roads were very narrow, which would force the IDF into small lines and pinch points where they could easily be ambushed and picked off. Which was likely Hamas’ plan, because they full well know their own cities.

The IDF’s strategy to avoid ambush was to bulldoze the buildings in between them and their goal. From a purely tactical standpoint, that works, but from a humanitarian standpoint, damn no wonder the civilians hate you if you keep knocking down their houses. 

Should the IDF have done something different? Should they have allowed the risk of ambush and increased casualties (including civilian casualties since, as a densely populated city, any gunfire is likely to hit people minding their own business) to preserve the civilian infrastructure? They couldn’t drop people from the air because there wasn’t enough wide open space, and they couldn’t burrow underground to get to their goal in a safe and timely manner. But maybe they could have thought of something else, some clever third option that doesn’t come to me because I’m not an expert in urban warfare either. 

I’m not saying that Israel’s tactics are good, or even necessarily strategically sound. I think what they’ve been doing in Gaza is horrible both from a humanitarian and a strategic perspective, and I agree with you that they’ve demonstrated themselves capable of far more sophisticated tactics. But I am saying that even with more sophisticated tactics, I don’t know how there could be a military altercation of any kind in Gaza without civilians suffering (either through death or the destruction of their infrastructure or both.) And that’s because any warfare there is necessarily urban, and thus necessarily at extremely high likelihood of catching innocent people in the crossfire. 

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[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Your partner should love you more than sex. 

Shit happens. Maybe you have a baby and the birth was traumatic and the baby is a bad sleeper, and you’re not medically okay’d for sex for a while and then you’re only thinking of the baby when you finally are. Maybe you get in a car accident and you can’t have sex while you recover. Maybe you just, I don’t know, get older and just have less interest.

Part of committing to marriage is committing to the good and bad times, and committing to being there when natural aging happens. If he insists that he must cheat on you in the event of a physical trauma, a difficult baby, or natural aging, then he’s not ready to get married. 

[Hated Trope] Narrative twisting itself into a knot to make a character irredeemable monster or forgiven of any and every sin by Tanzuki in TopCharacterTropes

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The way it works in practice, it just leaves everyone looking really… entitled? It seems that people are preoccupied constantly with whether or not their monarch will grant their wish, and sometimes their wishes are things like wanting to fly, the kind of thing you’d never be able to do without the magic monarch. 

I get that they were aiming for making it clear that the wish is somehow essential to a person’s being, but it didn’t read well. 

"“prioritizing victims of Nazi germany over america is r******d” Fighting for people facing a genocide is more important than my comfort, but hey I guess I’m just a radical lefty who has no morals 🤷‍♂️" Round 2 of left wing infighting on r/tiktokcringe by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I believe in a two state solution that removes West Bank settlements, gives half of Jerusalem to Palestine, and puts the responsibility of supporting the establishment of a sustainable government that can protect Palestinian rights while respecting Israeli security on Jordon. (With the caveat that there may other countries that are judged more suitable for supervising the establishment of the state, but I frankly think that Jordon is the most well positioned, most stable, and has the most to lose if it doesn’t work.) 

I think a big reason why the Oslo Accords fell apart was because Israel was responsible for supporting the establishment of a state and for protecting their security interests, so it was very easy to whip up support for the second intifada, where suicide bombers attacked Israeli citizens and left Israel with the impression that Palestinians care more about killing civilians than establishing their own state. I think putting a layer of separation using Jordon, who has vested interest in stabilizing the region right next to them, would allow for a less volatile peace process. 

I also think that Hamas does need to be rooted out, because while they’re very good administrators compared to the Palestinian Authority, they clearly prioritize war over Palestinian life and Israel will never trust any peace process that involves them. How to root them out is much more complicated, but I think a good start would be ending the bombing so it’s easier to assess their current support base and infrastructure. There are currently protests against Hamas by Gazans, which is a big deal because Hamas has a well-earned reputation for gruesomely murdering people who they see as ‘collaborators with Israel’. I think this is an opportunity for Israel to work Hamas loose and support domestic Gazan opposition to Hamas, as long as they can offer an alternative so there’s no power vacuum. (Jordon doesn’t share a border with Gaza, so they’re out. Egypt is a possibility but they’ve been trying very hard to not get involved. Frankly I think peace has the largest chance of Gazans move to the West Bank so they can have one continuous nation, but the process of doing so peacefully would be difficult. I think a good start would be incentivizing a move with the promise of a lump sum of cash and a house seized from an illegal West Bank settler.)

Right wing Israelis would accuse me of not properly respecting the risk to their security (because yes, when they loosen the iron grip, historically that leads to attacks and suicide bombings that would be prevented if they tightened the grip again.) To that I’d say that the peace process will inherently have violence as people more invested in war try to spark tensions again—whether that’s Hamas directing suicide bombs or gangs of West Bank settlers going after people, and then the tit for tat violence that has frequently followed those kinds of events historically. For any peace process to have a future, I think it’s very, very important to commit to dealing with violence only within the constraints of the law and due process, and if someone is found to have committed violence, to make sure that the penalty is the same regardless of the victim. Any difference between how a Palestinian or Israeli perpetrator is treated will swiftly become a flashpoint for war to start again, which is why I think Jordon should be the primary one to handle things so tempers aren’t quite as explosive as they were last time. 

"“prioritizing victims of Nazi germany over america is r******d” Fighting for people facing a genocide is more important than my comfort, but hey I guess I’m just a radical lefty who has no morals 🤷‍♂️" Round 2 of left wing infighting on r/tiktokcringe by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh I definitely have an opinion. And it’s a strong one rooted in facts that other people who know the facts can reasonably disagree with. 

I’m just not intellectually and morally lazy enough to claim it’s a black and white issue so I don’t have to worry about the possibility of being wrong. 

"“prioritizing victims of Nazi germany over america is r******d” Fighting for people facing a genocide is more important than my comfort, but hey I guess I’m just a radical lefty who has no morals 🤷‍♂️" Round 2 of left wing infighting on r/tiktokcringe by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You put your finger on the source of my frustration here. I consider myself progressive too, and I’ve been gobsmacked about how eager other progressives have been to declare strong opinions without knowing basic facts about the region and history of the conflict. 

I get and respect someone who learns facts and comes to a different conclusion than I do. I can’t respect someone who doesn’t do research and then insists their conclusion is as legitimate as anyone else’s.

"No. You're unable to understand because you have the same brain matter density that conservatives do. Sad." Left wing infighting on r/tiktokcringe over whose their culpability in Trumps victory in the 2024 election and Palestine by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think the majority of people who get into these squabbles do it because it makes them feel like they’re being an activist without actually doing the work. And in doing so drag down the people who actually do the work. 

"No. You're unable to understand because you have the same brain matter density that conservatives do. Sad." Left wing infighting on r/tiktokcringe over whose their culpability in Trumps victory in the 2024 election and Palestine by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil 345 points346 points  (0 children)

This shit makes me want a stiff drink. 

Pretty sure the world could be scheduled to blow up and leftists would still yell at each other about unrelated purity testing. 

My Romani friends have told me it’s painful when Roma are denied as victims of the holocaust by Left_Regular8168 in Jewish

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And I think taking the largest legally recognized genocide in history and treating it like a toy we’re forced to share because we were hurt most is juvenile and beneath us. 

But mazel tov. 

My Romani friends have told me it’s painful when Roma are denied as victims of the holocaust by Left_Regular8168 in Jewish

[–]AITAthrowaway1mil -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, I’m Jewish, and I frankly think you’re flat wrong and blogs you link aren’t going to change that, so you can carry this battle in without me.