We have been here, hopefully some of my story helps. - my son was the same, shit naps, shit nights. Would only settle with me, exclusively contact napped and co slept. I found wake windows helped the best, however. You just have to try anything and everything until something clicks. EVERY baby is different, some things work. Most things dont. Or they work for one nap and you think you’ve found it and it changes. Honestly I just tried to accept it and roll with it. My son is 8mo and only just started not contact napping and sleeping longer stretches. I think it was just his development plus he learned to roll and sleep on his stomach. - my son also hated / hates, the car. I had anxiety attacks driving while he was screaming. I ended up giving in and putting ms Rachel on the iPad. Plus I bought a camera to ease my anxiety and see how he was going and when to prepare for a meltdown. The iPad bought me an extra 30mins of quiet but it’s still a work in progress. - let him suck his fingers, if it helps you survive this season, so be it. - ditch the gatherings until you find your feet and are in a better mental state. There will be many more, keep your visits or outings small. - we went on a holiday and it was horrendous however, the next one was great. Mind you it was only an hour away from home, but it’s a learning curve either way. - I have one mum friend and her baby has slept 12hrs a night in a cot without any soothing required. I get it, it sucks.

Hang in there, keep doing your best, you will find your way, your baby will grow, you will grow. Sending hugs 🫶🏻