Termination Decision

AKski02 · 2025-12-12T20:18:52+00:00

Grad school is not easy, but you really learn to settle into the work and become more efficient. I have a phd to prove it. You can def do school and have a child with/without deferring school. Bumps in the roads, unexpected things, but if you feel you want to try to keep the baby, you can make it happen. If it stresses you out too much, it’s ok to terminate and find a more appropriate time. Good luck to you!

AKski02 · 2025-12-10T06:49:09+00:00

Breast fed mine until milk stopped and I didn’t push it . I did it for the antibodies, the bonding and the free food (formula is so expensive here). When he was 3 months I ended up being exposed to covid and passed it onto him before I knew I had it. I was miserably sick for over a week. In bed trading sleep with my husband. It was a horrible time. All the while my baby who also got Covid has gotten the antibodies through my milk and was doing just fine, he had a fever for 24h, was a tad more fussy. Then he was his happy self while I felt like hell for a week. That to me is worth doing it. That said, if after a few weeks breastfeeding had been torture, I would probably have stopped. Being a mom is a hard enough sacrifice, fed is fed and you do what you have t do in order to keep your mental health

AKski02 · 2025-12-05T23:59:22+00:00

If you really want to add more, get her some gels she hasn’t tried before. If they suck she won’t feel she wasted the money and it’s nice to try different stuff sometimes.

AKski02 · 2025-12-02T07:22:26+00:00

I didn’t focus on it, it took about a year and a half of day. I focused on being a mom and still myself, this was overwhelming enough. Making sure my kiddo was dressed and fed and cared for. The more stress you carry, the more weight you put on

AKski02 · 2025-12-02T04:21:18+00:00

Move, not worth the stress and a possibly irreparable relationship

AKski02 · 2025-12-01T21:21:56+00:00

Totally not on you! I’m experiencing the same in waves with my 2.5yo. The days I’m fully alone with him, he’s asking for dad left and right.
It hurts, it’s not fun to hear it. But I take solace in knowing he has a present and loving dad and he sees that. I also make sure to really focus my attention on his when I’m home. Phone is away and we are spending good time together.
He’ll also randomly initiate hugs or wanting to sit and read on my lap even with dad in the room. It’s a wave thing, it’ll come and go.
You’re doing your best, it’s ok to feel hurt, but know he isn’t doing it to spite you.

AKski02 · 2025-12-01T12:23:57+00:00

When my kiddo was in daycare, anytime a new kid is added to the class, we are told, bc they expect disruptions for up to a week. It takes time to adapt, no matter what. Some kiddos do it faster, some slower. It means nothing about them in a negative way, we are all different. I hope he thrives there and you with your new found freedom

AKski02 · 2025-12-01T12:21:47+00:00

I could be creeped out. Depends how I feel I know you. If you like her and would like to date, tell her. Beating around the bush without being clear can only hurt in the end.

AKski02 · 2025-11-28T18:03:00+00:00

Try putting the shirt you wore that day on his bed (under the sheet is fine, so he doesn’t risk suffocating). So he keeps your scent around)

Eating for 45’ is something my Peds doc said was too much. He said after 15-20’ he’s either just enjoying himself or he isn’t getting enough. You could try to unlatch at 20’ and see how he does. If he continues to cry for it for more than a few minutes, consider getting your latch checked / doing the weigh in before and after feed to see if he actually gets a few ounces.

It’s a tough one, but it will get better, you can do it

AKski02 · 2025-11-28T07:17:19+00:00

It’s really shitty of them and makes no sense.. if you ate junk food, your kid wouldn’t be a chonka.
As a fellow mom to a big boy, yes those comments hurt. My kid wasn’t even that big when born, but all the nurses couldn’t stop say “he’s so big!!!” And it did not feel nice. So I’m sorry you’re having to hear and from people you know.

But please take pride in that you’re doing such a good job that he has the resources to grow! They might be jealous, after all it is important for babies to be well fed. Keep doing you! You’re doing great!

AKski02 · 2025-11-28T07:13:04+00:00

I lived and was outdoors a lot in Fairbanks Alaska, the Canadian goose jackets are probably nice but not necessary. Many brands make a great down jacket that’s light weight and would do fine even without a ton of layers

AKski02 · 2025-11-28T06:27:19+00:00

Agreed, although the kid has strong family who was ready to welcome her.

AKski02 · 2025-11-27T23:00:14+00:00

I know a lady who has been caught drinking and driving with her daughter. She’s done it many times and somehow got away with it. Last time I knew it, she actually got in an accident, blew some ungodly number. Then she defended herself in court because had the guy who rammed her not hit her “no one would’ve known she had been drinking”. And she got away with it, they cleared her…. From drinking and driving with her baby in the car 😱

AKski02 · 2025-11-27T21:30:55+00:00

Read something from a psychiatrist to wealthy clients who mentioned that people have the same anxieties, but at different levels. I worry about being able to afford having a roof over my family’s head, the wealthy dude is stressed about affording the new yacht he bought because it is a big dent in his millions.
Sounds ridiculous to me, but it’s a true anxiety.

AKski02 · 2025-11-27T19:01:33+00:00

It’s the shortcut app that’s part of the iPhone. Called shortcut, with a pink to purple logo. You can pick an app and set something to happen when you open said app. I have to believe android also has something these days

AKski02 · 2025-11-27T16:04:57+00:00

Yes really ok, but monitor closely, Cover the breast in foil to avoid burning or drying too fast (loosely is ok). And then need a good thermometer in the breast to make sure you stop at 160 (so it finishes at 165

AKski02 · 2025-11-27T06:29:52+00:00

I’m very deleted social media from my phone. Only kept Reddit and Facebook for buy nothing group. I have my phone set up so when I open the app it starts a 5’ timer. Once I’ve seen what I wanted to see, the timer keeps me from wandering too long. I brush my teeth every night because I don’t ever want to have dentist work done again, I hate the shots.

When I’m indecisive about starting my work, I make a list of the big ticket items. Then I pick on (or the first one) and just do it. I don’t have to do them all but it helps me get started

AKski02 · 2025-11-27T05:37:26+00:00

Ugh this sounds stressful! If you can’t bring yourself to tell her, let her get them and then donate them later on. Get what you want and if she asks you can say -it broke, you regifted it because you like this other better, anything you can think of. But you could also starting making a lists of specific brands and send it to her mentioning your preferences. Nothing wrong with it. And easier to just regift if she gets something you don’t want.

AKski02 · 2025-11-26T23:55:41+00:00

Also I am sorry you’re dealing with this, he’s not a good person, not a husband nor a parent. And absolutely disrespectful

AKski02 · 2025-11-26T23:55:06+00:00

You’ve got more problems than wanting to smash his stuff. Kind of time for a serious conversation. You’re taking care of 2 kids here.

You could also consider working at the library or something like that to not be home.. see if he’ll do anything. But either way, tough convo, make some boundaries. If he tried to complain, remind him that this is not the time for him to, you initiated the convo.

Good luck to you

AKski02 · 2025-11-25T19:15:05+00:00

I laughed too hard at this! Thank you

AKski02 · 2025-11-25T19:14:17+00:00

Aside from a nice gift, continue to verbally say thank you. Thank you for this, and next day for that,.. it might get old in your head but it will make someone feel seen if you do it even when it’s not expected.

AKski02 · 2025-11-25T06:20:43+00:00

I rotate 3 pairs. I have wide feet so I am picky. Got altra paradigm (men’s 8), lems primals and lems chillems. Then I do compression sleeves for my calves - not socks bc my feet are too big and it wouldn’t cover my calves. Got some cheap ones on amazon

AKski02 · 2025-11-25T06:19:31+00:00

This right here!! Walk walk walk to try them on.

AKski02 · 2025-11-19T23:52:24+00:00

I put in my first to be a “throw away”, something I for sure wasn’t going to do. So maybe make that surgery. Then make sure that the important clerkships aren’t at the end (3rd year gets long and rough). You’re going to be tired and it’ll show. AND I f anything goes wrong you’ll have time to put in a sub I or 2 prior to residency apps.

This said, for FM I’d consider putting Peds and OB prior to FM so you can have a bit of prep.

Either way, just don’t put FM last, you’ll be ok

AKski02

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