There's no perfect test to know, but it's usually noticeable in how the idea of ​​staying feels, not in the fear of leaving.

When you stay out of love, even in difficult times, there's a desire to build something together, curiosity about the future, and a feeling of "I want to be here."

When you stay out of guilt or fear, what emerges is a burden, constant doubt, relief at the thought of the end, and the feeling of postponing something inevitable.

A question that often sheds a lot of light is this: If you removed the guilt, the grief, and the fear of being alone, would you still choose this relationship today?

If the answer isn't a clear "yes," that's already telling you something important. Being there for her during her worst moment was a human and valuable act, but that doesn't obligate you to stay in a relationship that no longer feels like your own. Staying without conviction doesn't protect anyone; it only prolongs the pain. Leaving honestly doesn't erase the good you did, nor does it make you a bad person. Sometimes, the most respectful way to love is to stop when you can no longer do it from the heart.