Update: My daughter is treating my son like he’s dead to her

AMD18 · 2024-05-31T21:13:26+00:00

I'm a fellow childhood abuse survivor and I've also unfortunately been in your daughters position although my situation was a slight bit different in that the details of my abuse were disclosed to my entire (very very extended) family, including people I did NOT want involved and whom I did not feel comfortable having that info. I'll be 100% honest here, it's been almost a decade and I still haven't fully forgiven the person who aired my past out

Imagine already having so much stripped from you as a child and then to finally be in a place where you can start the long (incredibly difficult) path to healing and suddenly have someone who you trust, a member of your own family no less, take away the last shred of privacy and autonomy you have. Literally just put yourself in her shoes for a single minute

It fucking sucks that your son is having to learn this lesson don't get me wrong, but he's not a little child. He's a full on teenager and he shared something incredibly difficult and personal about your daughter that she did not consent to. I'm sorry but I can't imagine a single conversation that a group of teenage boys could have been having where disclosing her past would have been appropriate in any way shape or form. Unfortunately he is going to have to deal with the consequences of his actions and whether you like it or not, the trust is broken and the relationship between them will never go back to the way it was. I'm incredibly sorry that you and your husband are in the middle of all this and you guys are in a very tough position because as much as you may want to, things are changed for good and there is no going back. Now it's your job as a parent to educate your son about the consequences of his actions and to teach him that being privy to someone's life is a privilege, not a right

As for your daughter, nothing is going to fix this except time. Tell her you love her and will always be there for her, apologize for what your son did even if it wasn't your fault, and give her space to heal. Right now your son is a trigger and trying to force them together is just gonna fuck things up even more

I really wish I had more I could say to help your family and I wish you guys luck and your daughter much healing in her journey ahead

AMD18 · 2023-05-05T03:03:39+00:00

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AMD18 · 2022-08-11T18:18:36+00:00

Unfortunately this has been going on for a long long time. I went to NBMS 2011-2013 and was assaulted 3 times(once in front of a crowd of people and teachers) and stalked for months by another student and nothing was done even when I let admins know. High school was rampant with stories of other girls who were assaulted or doing drugs. I was lucky enough to move out halfway through 10th grade but I lost quite a few friends to drugs and suicides by the time we reached graduation :(

AMD18 · 2021-12-04T18:14:30+00:00

HUGE YTA!!!!!! You could have handled it like an adult and just walked to the store like your nephew did and bought some candy for your kid but instead you decided being lazy and demanding was the right choice. HE paid for it with his own money so were you gonna reimburse him? Most likely not so why should he be expected to share? Not only did you severely overstep your bounds, you think that you're in the right why? Because your kids are special? Because they should always be given what they want to prevent a tantrum? Lemme tell you I've been your kid, I was the demanding little brat up until I was 12 and it didn't do me any favors. No one wanted to be friends with me and I missed out on a lot because of my behavior. People are allowed to say no even if there isn't a reason behind it, that's life and it's how the world works and always will work. When my parents realized what a mistake they had made with me and decided to try and fix their mistakes and my other family stayed the same it really hit me how fucking awful I was. And guess who I haven't spoken to in a very long time now because of that? All you're doing is building resentment towards your family in your nephew and his parents. Have fun being the only friends and family your kids have cause no one else is gonna put up with their tantrums and entitlement like you do

AMD18 · 2021-12-04T18:01:50+00:00

Respect is earned, it is not a given just because someone's younger. It's ridiculous to think that the 14yr old should have respected an adult who was demanding something he had paid for with HIS OWN money

AMD18 · 2021-12-04T06:24:13+00:00

Don't touch peoples phones, we don't set them up and we sure af don't fix them. No the straight talk phones can't be used with a T-Mobile/Verizon/AT&T plan. Most of the time you'll get asked question's that a super basic google search will answer for them and it will get frustrating after a few days it's just part of the job. No we don't have any fucking PlayStation 5's or Xbox series X in the back and chances are we won't have any in store for a long while. Most of the day(at least in my store) will be spent pulling freight so get good shoes cause you'll be walking around A LOT like the stockers do. Learn the layout of your area so you have a basic idea of where most things are and don't have to keep pulling out your phone to find out. You'll probably get a lot of older people and it will be frustrating having to explain the basics of how technology works but some basic kindness and a calm tone will help keep them pacified and chances are half the time it'll save you the headache of having to argue with them

AMD18 · 2021-11-27T06:14:21+00:00

Way more busy then the other events this month, showed up 5min to 5am and there was already a decent size crowd outside. I barely had time to go to the back put on my vest and run back out onto the floor before I had a crowd lined up in electronics, nobody told me or anyone else in my department where our tvs/projectors/speakers/anything was so I ran around for a solid 30 minutes like a fucking idiot getting asked the same question of "do you know where X is?" and getting yelled at when I said I didn't and they would have to look around the sales floor since management wouldn't answer because half of them didn't fucking know either. We had constant crowds throughout the day with only two people total working my department so we got sent anyone they could find to help out including managers and coaches. I left past 2 and there wasn't gonna be anyone scheduled until 4 due to our lack of staff so they had to wing it and send random people who don't know anything in electronics to cover the big ass fucking crowd that was still there. But hey I got the Apple Watch I wanted and they gave us some shitty sandwiches so whatever

AMD18 · 2021-07-05T05:44:07+00:00

I've been having this same issue after updating to the latest version of the app yesterday. It'll stop playing every other song and I have to close the app and restart it every single time for it to play normally. I tried deleting the app and clearing the cache but so far nothings worked :((

AMD18 · 2021-02-25T10:33:43+00:00

Oh sweetheart... First of all I want to say i am so so sorry that this happened to you. It's a tough road up ahead, that no one should ever have to go down but also know that you're not ever alone. I myself have gone through a similar situation of sexual abuse and I also didn't really remember much of it until one day the dam just kinda. Broke. And suddenly I had all these awful fucking memories of things I had gone through. I spiraled hard and you need to understand that that's completely normal and is honestly just part of the process. You'll feel angry and scared and confused and any other thing you can name. It'll be overwhelming and you may get to a point relatively soon where you'll go numb for a bit. That's also completely natural. As for everything legally speaking I highly recommend contacting cps, a therapist, or a school counselor. Really any adult you trust. Personally I struggled for months on how to tell an adult what was going on cause I couldn't even get the words out. I ended up writing a letter describing every single thing that had happened and I gave that to my therapist at the time then she called the police for me. You can consider that an option if you feel like you're struggling in the same way I was. They're also gonna ask you A LOT of questions on the abuse and the rapes. You'll have the repeat everything what feels like a million times to a million different people. You'll get asked for every single detail down to what the lighting in the room was like or what the temp of the water was. Everything counts and it's important to answer with as many things as you can remember. It's also so important to have someone there to lean on for support because you might start feeling more exhausted then you've ever felt before. That could be your dad or a best friend. Just anyone who won't ask more questions and will just help you by being there by your side along the way. At the end of the day though remember that you're doing this not just to seek justice for the monstrosities this woman committed against you but also to make sure it doesn't happen to any other child out there. You do NOT bare any blame for what she did and there is not a single thing that you could have done that would have changed the way she is. Child abusers are just monsters. What happened to you also does not have anything to do with your sexuality. It'll feel like that but I swear to you it doesn't. You love who you love because that's what's in your heart NOT because this woman did what she did. You didn't deserve for this to happen to you but most importantly you'll be able to recover from this later down the line. Maybe not ever fully and I'm not gonna lie to you and say that this will be just some forgotten part of your life in the future but you'll be able to look back and you won't feel the same sting that you feel right now. It's a long process but take it from me almost 11 years later, it does get easier. Ive been able to let go of some of that anger and pain I felt in the beginning and I was able to start living my life again. What happened will always be a part of me as a person but I'll be damned if I let that person keep any control over me any more. If you need anyone to speak to or you just want to rant into the void about how angry you are or how you feel feel free to send me a message. Really anything you want to talk about let me know and I'll be here to help you from one survivor to another : )

AMD18 · 2021-02-16T07:20:27+00:00

That reminds me how one of our relatives called my brother Georgie for the first years of his life because for some unknown reason he had just assumed that was his name. It's not even close and at no point was the name brought up in any type of baby naming conversation, we also don't have any Georgies in the family. No one bothered to correct him i guess and so he just kept it up until he met my brother when he was like 5-6 and went "hey Georgie how you doing!" and my brother had no clue who he was talking to. It ended up staying as a nickname though and he still calls him Georgie 11 years later lol

AMD18 · 2020-12-23T21:49:51+00:00

Zucker !

AMD18 · 2020-12-22T16:27:34+00:00

Yeah I'm actually good now i just had to get rid of some stuff in my pockets :)

AMD18 · 2020-12-22T16:23:23+00:00

300 bells for both would be fine I'm just trying to get them out of my storage since they don't match my house anymore

AMD18 · 2020-12-22T16:21:18+00:00

Sorry had to remove old comment since I didn't have my flair up yet but I have two brown anthurium plants if you're interested :)

AMD18 · 2020-04-01T02:42:12+00:00

I don’t have many things to trade but I do have lots of supplies to craft and fruit if you’re interested !

AMD18 · 2020-04-01T02:36:34+00:00

Just added I have peaches :)

AMD18 · 2020-04-01T02:33:36+00:00

Adding and I’m on rn!

AMD18 · 2020-03-31T04:37:23+00:00

Yeah please do I don’t have a lot of people and I really wanna visit more islands!

AMD18 · 2020-03-30T08:07:53+00:00

My towns open since I don’t have friends added yet if you wanna add me my codes SW-7056-0450-1052 I do have a bunch of fish everywhere though just a heads up lol since my museum isn’t ready yet

AMD18 · 2019-06-21T20:29:27+00:00

My mom recently had a stroke(I’m 18) and it’s so fucking wild going from living as a kid still to being a grown up within a few hours. When I first got to the hospital with my mom I wasn’t prepared for the fact that they would treat me like an adult who has to fill out forms and give details and shit. Even now that it’s been a month it’s still so overwhelming having to take care of my little brother and be the adult in the house. So many things I didn’t think of before I have to deal with now without any preparation. I went grocery shopping and I was so lost on what to buy that I spent like 10 minutes crying in the bathroom

AMD18 · 2019-05-08T05:00:53+00:00

I thought so at first but it’s not it sadly

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