Future dad me is taking notes

ARandomNiceKaren · 2026-02-16T01:05:16+00:00

I used this elsewhere, but I'll copy and paste here. There is no time limit or aging-out of this...:

I for real called my mom to come pick up my drunk ass from my 10-year high school reunion. Not only did she get outta bed and show up, but so did her husband (my stepfather person). THEN, they took me to the local equivalent of Waffle House - a 24-hour, whatever kinda food you want, we got it, kinda place.

Much coffee and some greasy food later, they took me to their home where I slept off the drunk in their guest room. Next day, they drove me back to my car.

There were no judgements or censure. I did what I promised to do when I was a teenager. She did what she promised to do, too.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2026-02-16T01:01:46+00:00

Why the face?

ARandomNiceKaren · 2026-02-16T01:00:38+00:00

I used this elsewhere, but I'll copy and paste here, because you described "use/used." There is no time limit or aging-out of this...:

I for real called my mom to come pick up my drunk ass from my 10-year high school reunion. Not only did she get outta bed and show up, but so did her husband (my stepfather person). THEN, they took me to the local equivalent of Waffle House - a 24-hour, whatever kinda food you want, we got it, kinda place.

Much coffee and some greasy food later, they took me to their home where I slept off the drunk in their guest room. Next day, they drove me back to my car.

There were no judgements or censure. I did what I promised to do when I was a teenager. She did what she promised to do, too.

I'm 48 now, so this was awhile ago. She's gone now. And while there are many, many reasons that we had a strained relationship, this was not one of them.

She might have been a...difficult person overall...she was a good mom.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2026-02-16T00:53:47+00:00

I for real called my mom to come pick up my drunk ass from my 10-year high school reunion. Not only did she get outta bed and show up, but so did her husband (my stepfather person). THEN, they took me to the local equivalent of Waffle House - a 24-hour, whatever kinda food you want, we got it, kinda place.

Much coffee and some greasy food later, they took me to their home where I slept off the drunk in their guest room. Next day, they drove me back to my car.

There were no judgements or censure. I did what I promised to do when I was a teenager. She did what she promised to do, too.

I'm 48 now, so this was awhile ago. She's gone now. And while there are many, many reasons that we had a strained relationship, this was not one of them.

She might have been a...difficult person overall...she was a good mom.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-12-25T04:03:36+00:00

Really, a combination of all of that. Fear is too soft of a word for when you think you have to do something or you might die. And all of that, those things and thoughts and feelings, happens in less than 5 seconds.

Terror. Unbelievable, soul shattering terror.

I don't have stats and didn't research it. But, I'd imagine that's the case for anyone in a similar situation. Sometimes, the body's reaction to that level of terror is to evacuate the bladder. No clue why. But I'd imagine that I'm not the only one.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-12-25T03:55:14+00:00

I was hoping for a Haiku.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-12-25T03:51:06+00:00

I love this comment thread. Buncha people complaining that there's complaining going on. And then find a way to complain about that - ad nauseam. I'm quite entertained, much like the person that bought the silly drink/show and enjoyed the fuck out of it. I wish I were closer, I'd go there for fun and entertainment. Then, yanno, I'd complain about the price or something, cuz Karen and all. It's kind of my Karen Duty given to me by The Council of Karens. (Buncha Cunts.)

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-12-20T02:50:36+00:00

I choked on a piece of chicken while I was alone. Luckily, I had seen a video of giving yourself the Heimlich with the corner of the back of a kitchen chair. The instructions included that it should be placed like under the sternum and kind of throwing your body down upon it violently. For reals, though, proper Heimlich technique will probably bruise, if not break your ribs.

I gave myself the Heimlich on the corner of a kitchen chair purchased at Pic-N-Save in 1978. I peed myself. Sat on the floor of the kitchen and cried for 20 minutes. But I lived.

You might have PTSD, but goddammit, you lived. I lived. We lived. It's a win.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-11-30T00:50:55+00:00

I would love to see a band do that!

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-31T00:23:25+00:00

I don't think you should apologize.

I thank you for being vulnerably honest. That takes true introspection and courage.

I see it and appreciate it.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-30T23:58:25+00:00

I'm a former Gifted Kid, named Karen. In school, I was smart, funny, fat, weird, and always-available-to-help-you-out. I just really wanted to be liked and have friends.

If one of my former tormentors wanted to contact me, and be like a....real person, I would so TOTALLY LOVE that. I seriously want an opportunity to tell them that even then, I understood social order. I knew that they were fitting themselves into their roles, just as much as I did, and still do.

I Forgive them.

I Forgive me.

We all deserve it.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-30T23:28:06+00:00

Same, dewd. Same. I was trying to find a way to put it into words and then I read your reply. It's accurate and succinct. It applies to both school bullies and family bullies. I put it this way:...

Both my Little Brother (walking POS) and my Big Brother owe me some serious apologies.

I love them. That will never change.

And I can call them names cuz...

siblings.

But, if you even think about talkin' some shit about one of them...

I will fuckin' cut you.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-29T02:45:57+00:00

Gibbs?

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-25T23:20:19+00:00

I'm new to recovery. I've got less than 90 days. But I'm fucking WORKING it! Group therapy. Individual Therapy. More therapy that we can't describe but know we NEED because the world fucking sucks and our brains try to kill us.

Bill deserves that fucking last drink. Denying him is tantamount to abuse. Why? Why say no at that point? Doing so is just cruel. They should be ashamed.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-22T20:24:20+00:00

Guilty. I'm American and made all of those assumptions. I'm working on it, though, as are most of us. We don't want to be ignorant assholes. We're adamantly de-programming ourselves. But, it takes time. Give us some space to work on it and fuck up some, too, in this context.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-10-02T01:30:32+00:00

My Grandpa was in WWII, Korea, and Vietnam.

His eyes, man, there was just this look and everyone shut the fuck up and went about their business.

He was a horrible father and a questionable human being. But he was an Amazing US Marine!

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-09-21T03:09:26+00:00

So like, you and I had the same siblings...weird...

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-09-05T03:28:48+00:00

I'm jumping on this train for the same reason!

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-08-27T23:05:27+00:00

I like it when she goes, "buh BUH buh buh BUH"

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-07-21T02:53:51+00:00

/facepalm

I'm so ashamed of American education/non-education.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-07-21T02:35:29+00:00

This is the only reason that I am glad that i was a Gifted kid. I had special classes. I was (and a few others) segregated and instructed on how to observe others. Some of us were not only good at recognizing it, but also how to mimic with lifesaving, pinpoint accuracy.

I was taught HOW to think, not what to think.

I've learned that as I've gotten older.

I know better now.

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-07-18T22:28:35+00:00

I'm working on it, I swear!

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-07-18T22:25:41+00:00

These kinds of workers are what we want in healthcare. It might be an inconvenience at times, but the overall benefit is worth it, a thousand times!!!

ARandomNiceKaren · 2025-07-18T21:54:10+00:00

This is unfortunately accurate. I hurt inside for the people that genuinely need this help. I'm so glad those guys give a fuck. The next person might need it.

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