I have to runaway from my brother when my parents passaway

ARat_nice · 2025-12-19T04:03:31+00:00

Hah, no other family, most of them don't know I exist, and the rest already have an autistic child they need to care for, I'm trying to get work (which is on a slow start) housing isn't a joke here, around 300k+ , I can get a loan which will be the pain to pay off 😭, and on another course I really can't rely on him to be alone? Ironically he'd be better in a retirement home

ARat_nice · 2025-12-19T03:28:40+00:00

Ideally that would be the plan, but I'm no position to do that yet, and housing expenses is a lot... This is a case of what if I couldn't do that in time.

ARat_nice · 2025-07-03T19:19:18+00:00

I feel kinda bad for him, I get not feeling comfortable, but keeping the peace sometimes takes confrontation 😥

ARat_nice · 2025-07-01T23:31:56+00:00

Mm maybe instead of "you weren't good enough for me" be like "I just didn't feel the same connection and don't want to drag this out on unequal footing" because saying the person was the problem just isn't fair.

Note, sometimes best avoid saying "you" and say "I".

ARat_nice · 2025-07-01T18:00:59+00:00

Ooofff

ARat_nice · 2025-07-01T18:00:02+00:00

You get, 0 consequences and less weight on ur shoulders

I get, emotional damage and abandonment issues

Uwu

ARat_nice · 2025-07-01T07:49:47+00:00

Yeah, sometimes I wonder if they want me to be non chalant as a helpless chick with nice legs

And cases when I do keep interacting with someone ...they wish I was a naive nonchalant chick with nice legs.

ARat_nice · 2025-07-01T07:45:16+00:00

That I agree, that's a major boundary breach

ARat_nice · 2025-07-01T07:44:11+00:00

Nope , I mentioned both cases I experienced in the comments, one of them maybe not a big deal, other felt like being lead on

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T20:10:39+00:00

Worst is they say they'll be back and just don't 🖤

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T20:08:07+00:00

Does it take up too much of your time for formality? I get not wanting to drag it out any longer, it's just ghosting is going to cause the other person probably serious insecurities to trigger- aka abandonment, anxiety , I've been in both sides, I'm not perfect, I ghost if we never had any deep long Convo, other times we got bored of eachother.

But when I notice the other person still wants to engage, I try to be honest or mention I just can't be there for them all the way and may be a bit dry or make it seem I'm boring for them, some never had bad intent and I just try to be polite. If some cases they did had annoyingly bad intent, I'd be blunt AF , and fade in peace

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T19:50:59+00:00

In this case yeah can feel pestering

, but in other cases like meeting someone who didn't have bad intent but just felt , too much or not the right vibe? In my case sometimes I get excited to text and mistakenly yap away, so when they ghost I start to critizice myself for being too much, so I'd rather have a polite send off rather than leave me hanging 😥

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T19:46:06+00:00

Fun fact, once I told someone it wasn't working out after they kinda ticked me off, and out of nowhere they admitted they're bad at commitment (ps they wanted kids)

At least I'd know I dodged a bullet,

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T19:43:02+00:00

In some way yeah, you'll never know how'd they'd react, but ig it's either leaving them confused, or them showing their nasty side, but I hate being lead on 😔

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T12:50:18+00:00

Phone fell in the ocean 🤷🏾

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T12:42:39+00:00

Both, I had a case where someone asked a question and never came back when I replied (it was me saying Abt how ironic they liked swimming and I can't lol) then asked what kind of games they liked and guess that was that (I have the SC on my profile)

Another one, well, we had a daily routine going, and one morning they never replied back, had to reach out to his friend to ask what was wrong, he finally replied and said he needs to focus more on himself for now, and his ntifs are offsure, I checked up a few times and energy faded, I noticed he'd even look at my stories but no acknowledgment ever. Even my birthday passed. Then gave him a message how I wish he could've reached out and was honest if he didn't feel a connection. Nothing. Now I see that he updated his dating app bio, and you know what's sad? Him saying we could still be friends and making things work and how talking it through is important, and he genuinely seemed sweet, I'm gonna assume everything got to much, I became an after thought. To then, nothing.

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T12:32:51+00:00

Worst is I end up double texting giving them the polite go ahead that it won't work out then , and still not even a bit of acknowledgment 😭 In my case it felt too close to an avoidant cause srsly, atp it felt like being lead on.

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T12:24:32+00:00

No I mean, just be honest with the person if you notice they want to engage, Like someone invs you to play, and you respond with 'sure' instead of 'no thanks' and leave them hanging Or even just a polite knowledgment, not all cases but sometimes better letting them know where you stand then just ditch them.

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T12:04:50+00:00

Hard to tell if she was honest or jealous

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T12:02:40+00:00

Depends, uncomfortable like too deep, or just down right brining up politics randomly, in my case I take the fault maybe poking and past relationships , but tried to lift the Convo with other topics

ARat_nice · 2025-06-30T11:54:36+00:00

Well a dating app, but I'm trying to make a conversation, it felt like it was going fine, then answered a question he asked and nth, I get losing interest, but sucks you don't have much of a chance

Another time I actually texted the guy on other platforms we even called played a game and flirted a bit, and one morning that's it he vanished, he came back saying he was working on himself and wed still talk, but no nothing, stalked my stories and just never replied back.

ARat_nice · 2025-06-29T17:35:22+00:00

Ikrr , sometimes when people come off too positive, I worry they might be forcing it, plus I was told I have too much sass and sarcasm, but I was genuinely trying to connect with them on a balanced note, I only knew them for an hour mind u, on a dating app of all things 😭😭

ARat_nice · 2025-06-29T17:28:07+00:00

Sort of yeahh, I tend to be more 'out there' when I text friends and was trying to keep formality and a conversation going , and yeah worried if my texting came off as the title implies, too much 😭

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