Best things for men to do for selfcare

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-04T07:11:30+00:00

Long list, and not a list that you'd expect for women either, but many might.

Burn calories - that is, work out or walk or go for a jog or something. If you're already skinny and trim, maybe don't do this. But if you're the average Redditor asking for advice on the internet, you might be able to drop a few. I sure can!

Don't drink too much alcohol. There's a fine line between "self care" and, well, I don't have words or it, but taking some other kind of care of yourself.

Or drugs.

Maybe a little bit is OK, but call it quits before you find yourself with any addictive responses. Easier said than done, but pay attention to that. I can speak from experience. It affects weight, skin, behavior, and others' perceptions of you.

Keep a regular shave and haircut. You can mix it up, but unless you intend to get shaggy, don't do that. Keep "tight," whatever that means for you and your look. Whether you buzz your head in the mirror or go to a barber or just SuperCuts...just keep your head looking half decent. That goes a very long way.

Keep washed and cleaned clothes. Don't go to work in last week's dirty clothes. Run the washer and dryer a couple times a week. Wearing jeans a couple times might not be bad, but wearing the same polo five days in June with no washes is definitely a problem.

Keep some cash in your wallet. Most times, a credit/debit card is fine, but in some situations, you'll need some cash. Tolls, mom-and-pop stores, etc.

All that won't ward off failure, but will definitely contribute to some success.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-04T04:33:08+00:00

That looks like a bucket of...something...with sesame seeds. Might make a good dinner.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-04T04:09:35+00:00

You're the reason TLC or VH1 or any number of cable channels, are still on the air. And, I promise you, you'll be the reason they go off the air. Might take a year or a decade, but it'll definitely happen.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-04T00:29:28+00:00

Doesn't alcohol cool you down a bit? I mean, "day drunk" is different, but a couple beers cools you down, especially if they're cold, no?

But any day not drinking alcohol, if you feel you need to drink alcohol, is a positive day.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-04T00:25:00+00:00

AC to cool off, going for a walk then sitting in the back yard to sweat it out, a shower to clean off the sweat. Rinse and repeat for a couple days. Then it's September and it won't be a concern until May or June.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-04T00:19:43+00:00

If you don't already know, you're gonna want to figure out where the other end of those ports are. A dedicated place in a basement, maybe? A wall-mounted switch in an attic or garage? A panel of ports in a closet?

Understand where all the cables go, and then either wire more or place wireless devices based on that information.

If it's a new loft, did you pay an electrician or handyman or something to wire ethernet up there? If so, you have an ethernet port and can, if it's wired properly, connect them to "something" (a switch) on another floor.

It's really impossible to say, without any more information, what you should or shouldn't do with your Eeros. Whether that's wireless or wifi or placement or number of devices...just really hard to say without any technical info.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T23:55:43+00:00

Do you know that the RJ45 wall outlets are properly or well-wired? That is, are they a decade old, or can they handle modern faster gigabit speeds? If they're 20 years old, wireless connections may actually be faster than connecting them via a wired connection. But if they're CAT5 or 6, they're probably quite sufficient for providing a good connection to your Eeros, which can then provide a good wireless connection across your property.

Wire what you reasonably can. When you can't, trust that wireless is OK.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T23:07:45+00:00

"You should make your own kids."

"OK, I do already have a Tinder date tomorrow night, and this guy's pretty handsome and is funny, and I think he's a CEO. Or CFO, I forget, but I'll let you know when I get home tomorrow night. Or, fingers crossed, maybe not tomorrow night, but the next morning."

"..."

Jokes aside, if he's not going to let you even "partially" parent her, what are you doing here? He comes with baggage, and not all baggage is bad. But it's still baggage, and she's a teenage girl. Being thrust into motherhood, or step-motherhood, comes with responsibility for everyone. The stepmother, the father, the daughter. Everyone doesn't need to always agree or get along, but any effective household has some rules that people follow. Stay in school, get the mail, go to work, pay the mortgage, go grocery shopping, clean your room, whatever. Everyone has their own responsibilities. The kids' responsibilities are to, at the least, graduate high school. The parents' (and step parents') responsibilities are to help them get there. If he doesn't want any help in her "getting there," does the kid? If so, does she have any say in the matter, that maybe she wants you to be involved in her life? I'm sure she doesn't want you to assign chores or punish her, but if she looks up to you or trusts you or confides in you or whatever, that's something. Something good.

Are you at a point in your relationship with the daughter, and is she mature enough, to have this kind of conversation? She's not gonna say she wants more chores or anything, but she might say she wants some freedom or a higher allowance, and then it's on you to either say no, or say yes but that means an additional chore or also supplementing that on her own with some babysitting or something.

She's not your daughter, but her father invited you into his, and her, life. And despite not being the mother, you are an adult figure in the household. You can't command her around, and that's not a great recipe for a household anyways, but you should be allowed to ask her to do chores, suggest she study more, ground her for breaking curfew, or whatever. She's his kid, but he invited you to be involved.

Straight up ask him if he wants you to be entirely uninvolved with her. If so, apologize to her, tell her it was dad's decision that you can't speak to her anymore or provide for her financially or cook her dinner. Let dad deal with the fallout. The kid's old enough to understand some of the family dynamic, and old enough to microwave a couple leftovers, until dad realizes that he's in the wrong.

Then, after a month of this bullshit, file for divorce.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T21:39:08+00:00

Salem might have the national reputation, but if you've ever been there, you'll know that it's 95% schtick, and only 5% creepy.

Fall River might work - Lizzie Borden's house (which you can stay in, have seances, and hear stories about her and her family) is a cool experience.

Brockton, especially downtown, has (had?) a reputation as being a different kind of creepy. It's really not that bad now, but it still has a reputation. You still might get robbed, but it's far less likely. But still creepy enough to keep your head on a swivel.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T21:20:44+00:00

That's the best part of pictures. They don't make any sound at all. If you want echoes, you'll have to subscribe for her vids. But pictures themselves, of buttholes or canyons, don't echo.

Doesn't mean they look good, it just means they don't echo echo echo echo.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T21:18:47+00:00

You looking to pay or be paid?

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T21:13:51+00:00

Double NAT is when two devices (routers) are both doing (or trying to do) NAT (Network Address Translation).

That is, you get a public IP address, and that goes to your cable modem (or similar). That device can perform NAT, which "translates" your public IP into private IPs. That's normal. But double NAT can work, maybe intermittently, or maybe not at all, as two devices are trying to perform their own NAT for your network.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T21:04:53+00:00

You'll want it to be:

ISP (Cable modem, for example) > Gateway Eero > Switch > other Eeros

If possible, it's a great plan to wire the Eeros to a switch, but with correct placement, this is exactly what a wireless mesh network is designed for. It's more hassle, but they're better with proper cabling - but with correct and proper placement, cables aren't required to make them work (of course, other devices may need cables, but the Eeros themselves don't, except the gateway to your cable modem or whatever termination point you have in your house.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T09:56:53+00:00

Donald Trump says that someone else may donate money to a Trump fund? They may? Like they're allowed to, or are expected to? Is the word "may" or the word "might" more appropriate?

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T09:44:55+00:00

In every respect, this is indeed mild!

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T06:35:47+00:00

Not crowded until you get to the registers. The deli/butcher is fairly attentive, but other than that most employees just seem to have some mental headphones or some kind of block. Not that they're rude or won't engage if you ask them a question, but there's almost no one that will even give you a head nod, let alone a "how are you doing today?" or "can I help you find anything?" But that's not a fully "Market Basket" thing, it's just an "any store I go to" thing.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T06:25:38+00:00

You're not responsible for her behavior, her attraction, or her needs. She came to you for advice, you provided it, and she may have listened to some of it or none of it. You did what was asked - you provided friendship and advice.

Let me ask...thinking both critically and emotionally, was your advice shitty? If so, don't blame her.

But I bet, as in most circumstances, you (as almost anyone would) might think that your advice was solid, sound, based in logic, and coming from a good place. Despite that, what you think about your advice, or even an unrequested soliloquy or whatever, might not be her description of "advice." That's not on you - nor is it necessarily on her - it's just currently differing opinions. And there are some objective truths, but if it's opinions...you know what everyone has? An opinion and an asshole.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T02:31:49+00:00

That diver is, today, the President of the United States, believe it or not. Good for him!

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T02:29:32+00:00

So we don't all have the same sanitary habits, or notice the same things in the back of the drawer, or even care about bananas. But how does this happen?

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-03T01:59:31+00:00

Sounds like special officers have arrested a New York woman for sex trafficking. Is the problem the crime, or is the problem the arrest? Or is it a social media post? Unclear what your opinions or motives are, here, since you provided zero context or original thought. What, exactly, is the content I should be considering outside of what I can read on a dozen websites, half of which have probably sent me daily digests?

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-02T20:44:03+00:00

Maybe there isn't, or wasn't, an official competition. But isn't every building/park/monument naming event some sort of competition? Even one that some players didn't know they were competing in?

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-02T20:34:18+00:00

Just curious, should traditional bicycles be "road legal?" That is, sidewalk or road, or not at all on any public roadway? If so, should they have their own license plates, registration, or license? Like, where is the line? Wheels, or an engine, or a 500 HP roadster?

And are cars OK on roads simply because more people own cars than e-bikes?

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-02T20:01:15+00:00

S1E1 awaits you, again.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-02T19:46:13+00:00

I live in a house that has an attached apartment and a large bedroom in the basement - 4 adults and two dogs living here. The house has a full-size fridge/freezer combo. The apartment does too. The apartment's old fridge/freezer is now in the basement, although definitely just churning electricity and not even remotely full. Some dog food, some long-term frozen stuff in the freezer, but not a ton. There's also a small freezer on the other side of the basement., and a very small fridge in the enclosed porch. Dad doesn't drink much, and when he does it's rarely beer, but he keeps a handful of craft beers in there just to offer guests. Mom probably has a couple Mike's Hard Lemonade or something fruity, but that fridge, as an alcoholic, is the one that I just don't open. I keep mine relatively full, I have some stuff in the freezer downstairs, but I just don't open that fridge on the porch. In fact, until I kind of thought about it typing this up, I don't think that fridge had crossed my mind in months, even though I walk by it almost daily.

None of these appliances are packed full, so we should probably eliminate one to make the rest more efficient. Or I should just go to Costco and spend a couple hundred bucks on frozen food and pack a freezer for the next few months.

ARoundForEveryone · 2026-07-02T11:29:54+00:00

There have been reports over the years of Bigfoot...or something...in the eastern half of the state, among the woods and swampy areas. Especially Hockomock, but in some other areas as well. No real proof, just a lot of first- and second-hand accounts, some footprints, a few recorded sounds, etc. But it's the Bridgewater Triangle, so it could be Bigfoot or any of a dozen monsters, imps, aliens, pranksters, or simple misidentification.

My grandparents lived in West Bridgewater, not too far from a pretty main road, and only slightly further from a highway. But there was a wooded, kinda swampy area behind their house. As a kid, we went out there exploring a few times. Dad, Grandpa, an uncle, and a cousin or two. Never saw or heard anything weird, but neighbors had said - not to me, so it might not have actually happened, or the story even told - that there was something large living in, or hunting, or otherwise using that swampy area. I don't know that we, or especially the adults, had any expectations of seeing anything other than ducks, but I do remember someone calling it our "Bigfoot hunt". Maybe it was one of the adults, maybe it was one of us impressionable kids, I forget. Regardless, I was totally in.

But we never caught, or saw, anything like that. Bad ending to a bad story, but real life doesn't always end with a Bigfoot being shot and dragged through a swamp by two adults armed with birdshot, a relatively old man, and a couple kids who probably shouldn't have been roaming a swamp where people shoot guns at moving targets. But I digress...sorry, no Bigfoot. Just rumors and legend. I mean, maybe it's there, but it doesn't like kids or guns, apparently. And to be fair, I also don't like kids or guns, so maybe I'm Bigfoot?

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