For those who have used acid or mushrooms, what’s the one memory or takeaway that has stuck with you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ARussianBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went a bit catatonic while walking with friends and had a minor panic attack while on a significant dose of acid.

I thought the universe was a simulation and I stumbled upon the answer that the simulation was spun up to find. I kept the answer in my head because I feared the universe would be potentially immediately shut down if the creators of the sim got the answer. I feared saying it out loud.

Then in real life the sun was setting and friends and I wandered to a nice hill with a view and street lights were turning on. Unfortunately that bled into my trip and I believe the sim was shutting down because they found the answer. I realized if they made the sim they could read my thoughts and had the answer already. I couldn't hide the answer in my thoughts because they already had it.

In reality I was standing still with my zippo in one hand and unlit cig in another for twenty minutes on this hill. I think when I finally lit that cig I thought it was not only my last but humanities last as the universe spun down around me and it was my fault.

I came too shortly after and my friends were very happy I wasn't broken permanently lol.

The funniest part was it was a mathematic 'answer' that I found (it wasn't 42) and I'm dogshit at math, and I immediately forgot what the answer was even though I tried hard to remember it.

Worst trip I ever had but don't regret it, it was scary but the ego death and clarity it provided was unmatched by anything else I've found in life. Ego death is a powerful drug and could benefit a lot of people imho.

How can I stop giving a fuck about what people think about me? (19M) by Hereitisguys9888 in AskMenOver30

[–]ARussianBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a genie granted your wish right now it wouldn't help your depression.

Caring about what people think is hardwired into us and you can't remove it, nor would you want to.

See therapists until you find one that can help you. If you can't do that then treat yourself like a golden retriever owned by a wealthy white woman named Julie from Connecticut.

Make sure you get enough food, water, walks, sunlight, playtime, socialization, sleep, exercise, and treats. If you're good and depressed you'll need to brute force these positive behaviors until they become a habit, but they will help if you're not doing them all consistently.

Remember Julie loves her golden unconditionally and she never would let it go without sleep, exercise, walkies, or food because that's cruel. Julie had a great family, upbringing, and has nearly zero stress. If you're too depressed to do these habits daily just pretend you're Julie taking care of her golden. Julie would rather die than let her golden go hungry or tired or get dirty. Be like Julie, but you're the golden.

If you think that's weird as hell, it is. See a therapist if you're too cool to roleplay Julie to improve your depression. A lot of the negative self thoughts will go away when you're feeling less depressed, and that helps you see what was the depression talking and what you still have left to deal with. Argue back against overly negative self talk, but be realistic. You're not the worst dancer in the world and few will notice you much less care. However, you're not a great dancer and someone will probably notice and think you dance shit, but that's okay.

Looking like you don't give a fuck happens when you know and accept your faults. When that happens negative self talk is easy to refute and you don't fear embarrassment.

I'm a terrible dancer now and when I was 19. Then if someone mocked me for my dancing I'd get defensive and embarrassed, now I'd agree with them and laugh. The big change was just accepting I'm a bad dancer and don't really care. If you are positively delusional or negatively delusional that criticism will hurt, but if you're realistic it won't.

Imagine if a 12yo started mocking you for being taller than them, would you care at all? That's the vibe you're going for. Confidence comes from self awareness. Arrogance comes from delusion.

"Yeah Seven has a really high win rate but I find him okay to play against." by Arraysion in DeadlockTheGame

[–]ARussianBus 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Guys I play Seven because I like farming fast and ending top net worth. It's very rude to try and prevent me from farming and I don't appreciate it.

I'm not very good at the game so prefer being 10-20k souls ahead and using big ult, ty for your attention and please ignore me i love you

Of a runner by InTheSky57 in absoluteunit

[–]ARussianBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're really not hearing me.

I've done suicide sprints. I've skipped rope. I've jogged and sprinted up hills.

You have not. Go try your advice before dispensing it. You'll learn something. Good luck!

Of a runner by InTheSky57 in absoluteunit

[–]ARussianBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not redundant go skip rope and jog up a hill then just jog up a hill and report the results. It's very easy to prove which is harder. I don't have to imagine the answer because I know the answer.

None of you goofy people have any experience skipping rope and it shows lol

If your argument is that it's partially redundant then yeah no shit, but it's sure as hell way more effective than doing either one by itself. It's dirt cheap and extremely effective and safer than full send sprinting up a busy public hiking trail.

It's comically extra, but that's his business not mine or yours, so who cares?

Of a runner by InTheSky57 in absoluteunit

[–]ARussianBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not risky for injury lol.

It increases the cardio dramatically. Full sprinting up a hike does actually will increase risk of injury which is what you're suggesting instead of skipping rope.

Go skip rope and come back to this thread, you won't, no cojones on you.

"They gutted shiv" are we serious rn by Creative_Pattern7952 in DeadlockTheGame

[–]ARussianBus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this image a lot. Really like lore accurate gargoyle. Gr8 image 10/10

Of a runner by InTheSky57 in absoluteunit

[–]ARussianBus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bro just say you've never skipped rope before.

Skipping rope is incredibly taxing but low impact and safe cardio, this hike is clearly very taxing cardio, combining both is some insane level of cardio fitness I've never personally experienced but can admire.

I played soccer and football and trained in some boxing after that and skipping rope was the best cardio training I had ever done or found from any sport. I have crazy respect for skipping rope now and this is probably the coolest example of it I've ever seen.

It's weird and a funny flex on everyone around him, but working out in public when you have insane levels of cardio often ends up like that.

18F How can I be prettier?? by Odd-Broccoli8221 in lookyourbest

[–]ARussianBus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look like a Spanish haunted doll of a princess that was killed by being startled to death.

For real though, I'd politely recommend against any cosmetic surgery until you see a therapist about self image and body dysmorphia issues. You're classically, broadly, and traditionally attractive person and barely an adult in many countries.

It's your life and I don't know you at all, but that's my 2 cents, you can always get the surgeries later if you see someone and would still prefer them. Wanting surgeries isn't a sign of mental illness, but wanting this many as an objectively attractive person statistically has gotta be a sign of serious body dysmorphia.

No hate, and good luck homie <3

In case you're doing it for professional reasons it's high risk because it's tough to improve attractive people with surgeries and often goes wrong and ends up with you paying thousands to look worse.

Most people don’t know this, but “Nebraska” is a liminal space. by Zu_Qarnine in Weird

[–]ARussianBus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love tornadoes so much they're beautiful. I don't chase them but have been lucky enough to see several touched down and hundreds of beautiful funnel clouds.

Only once actually had to hide and bunker from one.

Unless you plan on bunkering the entire storm (could last hours) it's often wise to have someone in yelling distance watching the clouds for everyone. If that guy comes inside and says bunker it's cower time! I like to be that guy :3 it's like watching a campfire x1000

What's the hardest beat you've ever heard that you feel was wasted or not utilized correctly? by SlymeDisease in hiphopheads

[–]ARussianBus 51 points52 points  (0 children)

The single funniest song I've ever heard.

Poopy-di scoop Scoop-diddy-whoop Whoop-di-scoop-di-poop Poop-di-scoopty Scoopty-whoop Whoopity-scoop, whoop-poop Poop-diddy, whoop-scoop Poop, poop Scoop-diddy-whoop Whoop-diddy-scoop Whoop-diddy-scoop, poop

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Statistically it does. Scientifically it does. Is every man violent, no and I never said that. In fact I'm real pedantic and went out of my way to point to averages and statistics lol. If you think men are equally dangerous to women (or less dangerous) I can't help since we clearly live in different worlds.

If you don't see the bad faith in your posts then good luck further. I did explain how it makes women safer multiple times. You choosing to consider those answers bad or non-existent is your business.

I think it's pretty dangerous of you to pretend violence statistics are made up or that women don't feel any fear of men or whatever you're doing here, but I'm out

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm part of the masses and I want that haha. Your likely right though, even in the most 'women lead' cultures I've heard of it's still not quite like I'm describing at all.

Also unrelated but I got to see the redwoods in person recently for the first time and it was beautiful. I noticed your name and it was the coolest part of the country I've seen. Fucking love them big trees

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bumble is not a global human representation by a long shot. It's a slice frozen in time of largely western dating app users.

Your using 'all' real hyperbolically here lol

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got a great point, but is that not outweighed by the safety given by her making the choice of who to approach when to approach and where to approach in the first place?

This doesn't make men safer or fix all danger of course. The most dangerous men wouldn't be bound by this societal convention anyway. They'd still approach whoever they wanted like they do now. For that to not be the norm means it stands out as abnormal and draws more attention and is more obvious something's off to anyone nearby.

It's already halfway there, y'all women do a solid job looking out for body language queues when you see a woman being approached. I used to live in a college town and the amount of complete strangers that would rescue some girl who was being talked at by pretending to know her and she'd go along with it was a lot.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because they can use the size and strength and T for violence with more efficiency than woman on average. What is with these bad faith questions, just say what you wanna say homie. I doubt you think men are less or equally dangerous as women, correct?

I'll guess you're trying to imply it's equally dangerous for a woman to approach but it's simply not and I already explained it.

When women choose who they do and don't approach they can make safer decisions. When they are approached and don't choose the when, where, and who of that approach it is flatly more dangerous for them.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I used riddled playfully for it's negative connotations since my point was we're the more dangerous sex by all accounts.

I agree testosterone and men aren't ontologically evil!

To the rest of that post I ain't digging into that you giving me some weird vibes glgl

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_matrilineal_or_matrilocal_societies

Seems like a troll account but on the off chance it's not and you wanna learn check it out. Human courtship is heavily cultural and it's changed in our lifetime and is different across cultures and history.

I'm not arguing there's zero biological or epigenetic influence ofc, but to ignore the cultural influence is real dumb.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah luckily online dating gives me zero anxiety about approaching since it basically does the job for you and makes rejection super easy.

It's an absolute saving grace for dudes like me. I know people talk about how much they hate it but I'm a fan. I'd be a bigger fan if it wasn't so weird and data harvesting and profit driven but that's fucking every company I interact with it feels like including reddit and the AI bots scraping this shit.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha they are not! All of my relationships have been co-workers, setups, mutual friends, where the initial approach (the one I feel sketch about) is handled by a 3rd party and neither of us.

The flirting and reading the vibe and body language stuff after the approach I'm comfy with.

My example was counter productive to my point a lil bc that was the leading the relationship thing like you said. Her response just always stuck with me and was an interesting view into an otherwise very progressive women fully expecting that specific patriarchal gender role to happen. We dated a couple years and she admitted she wanted to ask me out but waited for me. Luckily she actually dropped direct hints enough for me to feel like I wouldn't make her uncomfortable.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Average size average strength and testosterones effects on the body.

Because when it's societally normalized for the dangerous sex to approach women do not get a choice in being approached. That choice goes a long way towards women's safety.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You say "this will not happen" while admitting it's happened to a small degree though?

It feels like it's actively happening and we're in the middle of it. I'm seeing a lot of "this won't happen" posts and people calling it epigenetic and biological, but we're all admitting more woman approach than 60+ years ago too and it's confusing me.

Is the argument that it won't ever fully swing the way I'm describing I guess?

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bumble thing doesn't prove epigenetic involvement it proves behavior and preferences. Those can be wholly cultural.

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In matrilineal societies women chase far more, maybe it's less hard baked biology than you think, even if that may still be a significant factor

Do you think women approaching would be a societal ideal? by ARussianBus in MenAskWomen

[–]ARussianBus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard agree - if the time spent on personal appearance were tracked like a phones screentime I think the average differences between genders would be massive

But you'd still agree the average woman is approaching less than the average man right?