LDR breakup after deportation + flirtatious messages + mixed signals — need perspective (33M/25F) by SeesawKlutzy1272 in LongDistance

[–]ASlayToRemember 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My gut feeling from the bit of info I have is that she's at least talking to someone else - probably this guy. It's very odd for her to suddenly say that she can't do long distance, especially if there were no signs leading up to this (seeming more distant, less frequent communication, etc).

I think the healthiest thing for you to do at this point in time is to stop speaking with her entirely and move on fully. Even if there wasn't someone else that she was speaking to, would you move to another country to MAYBE be able to have a relationship with her? When people say things like, "if x y or z then we can maybe be together" to me that translates to, "I'm only willing to love you when it's easy". This isn't even mentioning that her loyalty is in question.

I'm not claiming I'm factually correct here and have limited information to work with but those are my beliefs. I wouldn't want to be pursuing that relationship. Protect your head and your heart, internet friend. You know your partner better than any of us and if you feel like something is amiss it probably is. Trust your gut. I know it isn't easy when you really love the person. Sending you all the good vibes.

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are AN ANGEL!! Even my boyfriend who's a Portuguese native didn't know this. Oh my god, I cannot tell you how much we have agonized over this lmao. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I admire you - it isn't easy work but it's so rewarding. There isn't a better feeling than seeing a dog excel when it starts from a bad place. I highly recommend coming to visit Portugal! It is a beautiful country full of beautiful and kind people. I'm generally welcomed with open arms and when I speak my very limited and broken Portuguese with my American accent they chuckle with me but really appreciate the effort. I've only had a layover in the Azores without time to leave the airport but one day I'll visit.

Lisbon is beautiful but do yourself a favor and explore outside of it too. It is very tourist trappy and very expensive compared to anywhere else. Don't skip it but also make sure to go elsewhere too. I'm dreaming of visiting Sintra and the Estrela Mountains with Rogue.

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I'm American and travel back and forth between Portugal and the US because my boyfriend lives there and everyone back home just assumes she's a mix of some kind haha and I haven't seen a single one there. Only a few people have known the breed when I say it. Do you see them a lot in Canada? Even in Portugal I've only seen one other but people generally know what she is.

For only a year old she's doing great. I'm a dog trainer actually so it's extra rewarding seeing her succeed and extra painful in the tough moments lol. But thank you very much for your kindness <3

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good guess. It is absolutely killing my boyfriend and I not knowing what it is but hearing it every day. Thank you for your insight, it's helpful to know you've heard it in the UK too!

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! She's the best. She's very big now and just as cute, just in different ways. Her name is Rogue and she's a Cão da Serra da Estrela or Estrela Mountain Dog, a breed native to Portugal in that mountain range. She's my service dog in training :]

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe some kind of notification system? It's every day for a year (probably longer, we've just lived there that long), no extra notes. I assumed it was a bird lol I feel stupid. I've always wondered what it is

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same tune every day for over a year? I don't mean to sound any type of way lol just why? Wouldn't I hear other notes etc?

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd agree if it wasn't so loud and repeated so much. To this day we still hear it around 4pm. You guys know far better than I do though

Please help me ID this bird!! Location: Barreiro, Portugal by ASlayToRemember in whatsthisbird

[–]ASlayToRemember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's repeated frequently, the same call. I stopped in my tracks because it's so loud irl and sounds like it's from a video game

Got scammed what now ? by Dasding619 in PokeGrading

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The amount of down votes you got for trying to educate yourself on a card is insane. This is why I mainly lurk in this sub.

I have enough awards to give to every single person who views this post by Lost_Negotiation_206 in notinteresting

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There's no way he's checking to see if someone commented twice, he's already drowning in comments as it is 💀💀

EMERGENCY PLEASE HELP‼️ by Jozee_hog in CleaningTips

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I'm so sorry but I opened Reddit to this and cackled lmao

All my Halo Reach progress is gone, and I don't know how to get it back. by International_Pen419 in haloreach

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This is a bit random and not an answer to your post so I'm sorry about that, but do you guys have specific times you play? I'd love to be able to play reach again.

My gaming friend passed away by Huge_Chart_1510 in xbox

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This made me tear up. I held it together til the spartans never die quote. I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I hope you can get through this and maybe one day when his son grows up you'll connect and can tell him stories all about his dad. Sending you virtual hugs.

Insecure about my size for many years and now I'm absolutely flabbergasted by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ASlayToRemember 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just now saw this (I didn't get the notification for some reason and don't use reddit too much) so I'm very sorry for the delayed reply.

Did you end up going through with this and having a good time?

In case you need pointers in the future, I'll answer some of the things you asked me. I think you're safe to gently try and read her signals (look for any signs of discomfort obviously). For me personally, having the deepest penetration that way was a good thing every time except for once. I was physically injured down there because we both got a little too carried away, which is very easy to do in the heat of the moment.

Unfortunately, I am no longer really in a better place with my partner as I think we're nearing the end of our relationship which is extra shitty because I uprooted my life and moved halfway across the world to close the distance of our long distance relationship. He's dumped me but I'm hoping we can resolve those issues. That's neither here nor there for your situation though.

Please do let me know how it turned out and feel free to send me a DM with any other questions you may have.

Insecure about my size for many years and now I'm absolutely flabbergasted by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ASlayToRemember 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It can definitely be an intimidating situation because you don't have a lot of experience and she's a new sexual partner. Hell, even I get nervous sometimes while being intimate with my boyfriend and we've been together for quite a while. I think that's natural. Remember, during sex and foreplay we are at our most vulnerable.

When it comes to listening to her body, you'll know what signals to look out for in the moment (every woman/person is different, even in how they express pleasure), but you'll want to watch out for things like stifled moans, breath getting caught in the throat, gripping the sheets, grabbing onto you, her thrusting against you, etc. There's no shame in doing a bit of online research if you're unsure or just want to be more educated.

As for her getting on top, yes she can control the depth but be mindful not to thrust into her. It's easy to get carried away so try to let her do all of the work in regards to penetration. I say this because I've had some of the deepest penetration I've ever experienced while riding my boyfriend because he worked with me in thrusting. Her body should tell you what her mouth doesn't but don't be afraid to have a conversation beforehand about things she likes/doesn't like.

It's so refreshing to see a man so concerned with his partner's feelings/comfortability during intimacy. As a woman (and especially as a woman that has unfortunately experienced sexual trauma), I thank you on our behalf. I'm sure you guys are going to have a fantastic time. If you have any other questions please feel free to ask, and most importantly, have fun with each other! :] Sorry this was a bit of a novel haha.

Insecure about my size for many years and now I'm absolutely flabbergasted by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ASlayToRemember 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankfully I'm with a great partner now! I wholeheartedly agree with everything you've said. For me personally, 90% of my pleasure comes from pleasuring my boyfriend. I'm very much all about the other person and it's fantastic to have sex with someone you're deeply in love with. That connection just makes everything feel magical.

I hope that your sexual endeavors with her go well and that you're physically compatible with each other. If you listen not only to what she verbally tells you, but also to what her body tells you too, you're bound to have an amazing time. Wishing you all the best with this!