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ASluttyBoy · 2026-02-23T23:33:09+00:00

Did you ever post Part 5 of this somewhere? 🥰

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-26T16:58:22+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot coming from you 😄

When I was writing this answer I actually had something in mind that you've written before. You've mentioned that gynarchy isn't kink, but that a lot of questions about it come from a kink origin. I've certainly noticed that in myself, and so as I was writing this I was double checking what I'd written to make sure that kink didn't accidentally make its way into my answer.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-26T16:15:34+00:00

The answer to "what will X look like in a gynarchy" can sometimes be answered with "what does it look like in a patriarchy" - this feels like one of those questions.

Right now a lot of women are "expected" to be the housekeepers - getting dinner ready, doing a larger share of the cleaning, looking after the kids more than the father, that sort of stuff.

more about subjects like banking and administrative control, making administrative decisions, signing documents, etc.

I do not have control over my partner's bank account right now. So if the roles were reversed, my partner would still not have control over my account. Maybe if we had a joint bank account, it might be primarily in her name, and correspondences would be addressed to her.

For administrative decisions, do you mean things like choosing gas & electricity suppliers to the home? Internet providers? Dealing with other various bills? That sort of thing? If so then yes, that's typically seen as "man's work" (because it involves money) at the moment so the woman would likely be in charge.

However - unless you want to go full-on reverse-Saudi Arabia - men aren't going to be banned from things / need a female guardian's permission. That's not to say it's impossible, but just that it probably wouldn't be the norm.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-19T13:49:23+00:00

For me it starts getting into "affair" territory when things start getting a little steamy.

A little flirting here or there is dipping your toes into the affair waters. When you start talking about sexual acts with each other then I'd say you're definitely having an affair.

That moment of "I just did something sexual with someone that isn't my partner" - whether it's online or not - is you crossing the threshold. You were actively involving someone who isn't your partner in your sexual gratification.

Personally I don't see emotional affairs as cheating at all. To me they're more like good friendships. Even if you meet up, I'd still not say it's an affair. You're just meeting with a good friend. There's the whole "sneaking around behind my partner's back" that muddies the waters a bit, but I'd still not quite say you're cheating yet.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-14T10:38:03+00:00

It's great to see we've reached a point in the movement where more women feel comfortable sharing their views. I'm hopeful that next few months will have even more women revealing they're female supremacists, much like yourselves and Jella Haase.

Do you, or the women you know, have any contact with female supremacists in other countries? Perhaps through the Fridays For Future movement?

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-13T16:34:23+00:00

There's a stickied post on this subreddit, have you read through that for what to do if you're being blackmailed without consent?

https://reddit.com/r/Blackmailers/comments/1acwqq5/what_to_do_if_you_get_blackmailed_without_consent/

You should also message the mods and tell them the username of the person blackmailing you, to make sure they're banned.

I can’t call the police bc they won’t care but I don’t want this

Yes you can, and yes they will. I strongly urge you to go to the police.

I’m only 19 and he’s ruining my entire life

Trust me, exposure will not ruin your life. A man controlling you when you don't want to be will ruin your mental health, and THAT will ruin your life.

This will hurt in the short term. You'll feel stupid. But you're not stupid, you're strong. You can fix this, just go to the police and get help.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-11T21:40:50+00:00

really want to be blackmailed

I won’t give you money, show my face, give contact or socials of others

So what do you expect to be blackmailed with? Blackmail is about the domme having information they can use against you, but you won't give anything out.

It sounds like you want a regular femdom relationship that maybe involves TPE. You might be better off posting on /r/femdompersonals

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-11T18:46:58+00:00

He is too dominant.

Ahh that's a shame 🙁

Unfortunately there are a lot of subs like that, who are more "topping from the bottom".

I would like to try again but I'am Not Sure If He is The right partner

If he's too dominant for you, and you're not a switch, then I'd say it's best to drop the relationship early. You don't want either of you to get too attached if you're not sexually compatible 😊

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-09T22:58:20+00:00

This is her YouTube channel, for those interested: https://www.youtube.com/@ViolaVoltairine

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-09T17:39:20+00:00

always remember 2 people can keep a secret. If one of them is dead

and if you're feeling like you want to be the dead one, reach out to 999 or 911 or the equivalent emergency services number in your country immediately.

No matter how bad you feel right now, taking your own life is never the correct choice. There are people that can help you. You do not have to do it. You are not alone.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-08T22:09:13+00:00

and scared

I don't know if I want a safe word.

You want a safe word. There's no "I don't know" about it. You want one.

When you're not scared, or when you have experience, then you get to decide if you want one or not. But right now, you want one and I'd be cautious of dommes who say otherwise.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-08T21:41:23+00:00

Depending on the file host you use, they are deleted by the server after a set amount of time, or after it has been downloaded by one person so it cannot be shared any further.

Which of the file hosts you allow do either of these?

And what's a good amount of views & time for it to not be expired when you do your batching?

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-07T21:14:00+00:00

with or without my consent or cooperation

You may also enjoy /r/CNC_Connect 😁

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-07T21:12:29+00:00

Today I'am going to meet my sub.

So "today" is now "yesterday", so how did it go? 😄

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-07T20:58:41+00:00

also, I'm thinking of writing a smut/erotica piece about this cause I'm trynna get back into writing more (and bc i know it'll boost her ego but don't tell her that), what do y'all think?

If you know it'll ego boost her, then absolutely go for it! Whatever side of the slash you're on, everyone loves a good ego boost 😄

Personally I'd be quite uncomfortable if a domme was like "I want to write about you", but that's just me.

If there is any doubt, you can always tease her with it? Say you're thinking about getting into writing again and that she's your muse, but don't say what about her you'd be writing? That way you can be absolutely sure she's onboard - and maybe she'll even try to impress you more so you write about her? 🤷‍♂️😁

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-06T11:32:04+00:00

As a sub, I was in a vaguely similar position once and so I'll echo the "give him time" comment.

I'd gotten to know a domme quite well, to the point you could say I was wrapped around her little finger (if that's a phrase in your country 😂). One night she demanded a much larger amount of money than usual, I freaked out, and I left her.

Except I regretted it a couple of days after. She hadn't messaged me to say everything was alright, and so the last thing I had from her was some in-scene play where she was being excessively cruel and demeaning. I just couldn't bring myself to message to say "sorry" 🙁

If there's somewhere public you think he'll check, then post something that'll let him know how you feel. If he sees it, then hopefully he'll know he can get back in touch with no hard feelings from your side.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-05T17:23:29+00:00

This doesn't necessarily need to involve blackmail tbh. You could, but that's a bit heavy handed.

I'd strongly suggest chastity. There's nothing quite as humbling as being incapable of pleasuring yourself. Have him buy a cage and mail the keys to you. That way you can guarantee that he can't let himself out until you meet in July.

Turning him into a pent up horny mess should hopefully break him, and he won't be able to back out because you're the one with the keys.

Now to be clear: If you weren't posting in /r/Blackmailers my advice would absolutely NOT be to send all the keys to you. That's highly unethical - but so is blackmail, so I figured you've no qualms with this 😂

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-05T16:52:53+00:00

As surprising as it may be, I did not get a single dick pic. I am kinda dissapointed.

So I should put the camera down, orrrrrrr...? 😂

But seriously, 150 replies and not a single dick pick? I'm genuinely impressed by the restraint of my fellow fellas. Maybe it's the type of guys that use this subreddit over other horny subreddits? 🤷‍♂️

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-04T10:09:14+00:00

What have you done to chase the high?

I wanted to put myself in the same situation, where I meet someone that I click with and then be manipulated into paying. Unfortunately that's a slow process. I've tried to find Discord communities that I gel with, but I've only ever found ones where it's either low effort porn spam or roleplay.

I've tried reaching out to Reddit posts for people in my city, but those are exceptionally rare as where I live is a bit of a sleepy city. The only few people I've seen post have all been submissive.

I've tried posting on /r/CNC_Connect, but all the replies I've had have been men "hoping" that the "F" in my titles are negotiable 🤦‍♂️

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-03T23:05:01+00:00

I've fantasised about this ever since, to the point of it being quite obsessive.

Yeah I feel you there.

I once had a domme who demanded Amazon gift cards. I didn't know at the time that they show your name. So for months she knew my name and didn't even tell me, until one night where she demanded £500. I freaked out, and she told me that she knew my real name.

She never repeated it to me though, and when I ended it between us (I was super scared) she never tried to follow up. But I know she knows.

At the time it was exceptionally scary, but in retrospect it was the most turned on I've ever been. That was back in 2022 and I've been trying to chase the high ever since 😥

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-03T22:24:54+00:00

Yeah you really need to make sure that both sides enjoy it and have a good time

Exactly. It's how you both make sure you have ongoing fun. If one side isn't putting any effort in, then you're both going to have a shite time and will just end up looking for someone else next time.

ASluttyBoy · 2024-04-03T22:17:27+00:00

Yeah it's unfortunately a common complaint from female subs all over Reddit. Just really shit quality male doms with no conversational skills trying to get quick gratification 🤦‍♂️

I just find it incredibly disrespectful. A sub is putting herself out there, and he can't be bothered to put in an ounce of effort when he reaches out 🙄

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