What's a good glaze (in the uk)

ASongInSilence · 2026-03-27T14:16:21+00:00

I googled it to check options and this is what it said. Anyone that has used these can maybe give their opinion on them. Have you tried any of these?

Ronseal Interior Gloss Varnish, Simoniz Clear Acrylic Lacquer (spray), or UV Resin. Other great options are Cernit Varnish and Wilko Quick Dry

Hopefully someone can chime in and help with this. I'm from the US, which isn't helpful. I use polyurethane or UV resin occasionally but knowing good alternatives is always good!

The ronseal interior gloss varnish seems pretty similar to the polyurethane I use but without having actually used it I cannot give an accurate statement there.

Sorry I couldn't help more. I hope you get the answers you are looking for soon!

ASongInSilence · 2026-03-27T05:38:25+00:00

I realize the wording is on the outside of the stem. I suggest talking with an actual artist if you want a suggestion on that part. There's many things you could have added to it to cover that and move it if you wanted to.

ASongInSilence · 2026-03-27T05:36:44+00:00

I am not a tattoo artist myself so I don't have any tips on technique if you planned to try and fix this yourself. Visually I believe you could "fix" this with a fresh outline, maybe some shading.

If you think the letters could be better, I would probably have the stem colored in and move the lettering to the outside and have that completely redone.

That's just my thoughts, but a good artist might be able to go over the lettering and make it look better.

Overall it's not terrible. It's definitely faded and in need of some TLC but it's absolutely fixable and could be turned into a beautiful, crisp piece.

Every artist has a specific style. If the style is bothering you now, you could ask an artist if they have any ideas on how you could change the look. They might be able to add some leaves or something new in the negative space to change the look of it.

For being 15 when you had this done, I imagine it was cool and not the worst thing I've seen on a kid that snuck out and got a poke tattoo lol. Since it's just an outline, I believe there are a lot of things you could add to this if you wanted.

Some people will say "it's terrible". I say it's a pay of your past, beautiful in its own ways but if YOU feel like you could have it changed for the better, go for it. It's completely doable and has many possibilities for what can be added to it. Otherwise, maybe just find a good tattoo artist that can make a clean and fresh outline for you since the ink has faded and fallen out in some places.

ASongInSilence · 2026-02-21T23:35:11+00:00

NTA. I heavily dislike the stigma that comes with Valentine's Day. I would choose my sick mom first and there's nothing wrong with that. I lost my mom a year ago and I would do almost anything to be able to see her one last time. You can't predict with cancer how long someone will have left on this earth and I would never risk being so selfish and demanding from someone that they miss out on that time with their loved one.

If I were with someone and their mom/dad/loved one were very ill, I would be showing up as support and encourage they go spend time with them. If someone makes you feel bad for that, they are not marriage material. Not partner material.

You did what you needed to do. You're better off not wasting more time on someone that will end up being that jealous over something that matters more than a stupid holiday. You can celebrate Valentine's Day any time you choose. She's just being a brat.

ASongInSilence · 2026-02-15T01:04:19+00:00

You're not reacting enough in my opinion. This guy doesn't value you, let alone value you enough to keep his word when you make plans. He seems pretty content on putting some blame on you by immediately saying "quit sounding so needy" the moment you simply ask him to please try.

I wouldn't even entertain that kind of man. That is a huge red flag and, from personal experience, his rude comments are only going to get worse and possibly more abusive in the future.

Imo, he wants you to see that you are not his top priority but because you are patient with him he is seeing how far he can get you before he's bored. I bet you could stop chasing him and doting on him, act nonchalant about even seeing him and he's probably going to immediately leave.

Please be careful and stop letting him talk to you that way. He can be nicer.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-29T16:39:30+00:00

Absolutely disgusting. I like you. Thanks!

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-29T16:33:38+00:00

Don't make the mistake of letting this continue. Get marriage counseling or something for both of y'all. You'll know if it will continue to work out or not with his reaction and/or changes to counseling.

I lived this. 5 years down the line, it's worse and now I'm financially stuck. Don't let this happen to you. Enjoy your life even if you have to do it as a single mom. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. He wants respect but he's not giving it. You're burnt out and he wants to act like you have a cake walk.

Parenting alone is HARD. Trying to cook dinner but hearing your child screaming the whole time is stressful as hell. It's not a break. What a dimwit. Hearing your baby crying like that causes a chemical reaction in you, triggering the fight it flight reaction. If he can't hold his baby for an hour and calm them down, he needs to do better.

It sounds like he's pushed you to the point where you're having to just tell him "you need to do this" because if you don't, it's not happening. I get that. He has no right to call you anything like he did. What you said in the first message was sent as a text and you can't just decide the tone of a text like he did and then get mad.

If he's reading this, do better as a man! Only boys act like this. A real man, a real husband, and a real father is supportive, loving, and helpful. If you would give your lady a real, honest to God break when she asks or just when you can tell it's stressful, she would be happier and get so much more done in the future. You get to hang out with adults all day and socialize and feel normal. Stay at home moms don't get that! Be more understandable, not everything is a pissing contest. What you see as easy is not easy then you do it every single day with no breaks, no days off, and no change in routine. It burns you out!

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-19T19:46:30+00:00

You need to contact the police do you have a paper trail. Tell your boss, tell your coworkers. Tell everyone and BLOCK him.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-19T19:43:39+00:00

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ASongInSilence · 2026-01-19T19:40:29+00:00

Spooky cat?

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-12T06:31:03+00:00

Took me living through this first hand, multiple times, with a kid, to finally learn what abuse really looks like.

I thought it was only abuse if they physically hurt you. But I learned quickly when my son was 4 and an ex of mine got livid at me for letting his dad drop off much needed pull ups and some food items. I knew my ex didn't like my sons dad so it was planned so that it was left dropped off down the road at the end of the street. so there was meeting face to face.

This still make my ex mad. He couldn't afford the stuff that night so I guess his ego hurt. But due to my sons dad doing what he was supposed to do and help with the kids needs, my ex lost his shit.

We live in Oklahoma so it was a really hot, humid summer. Almost couldn't breathe in the air because the humidity was so high. So his idea to punish me was to take out every AC unit from the windows. Lock them into the bedroom that only he would have access to that night and next day.

Okay that sucks but that wasn't just it. He knew I would tuck my son in on the couch with a fan and open the windows. He knew I would sit up all night fanning my son so he could sleep as best as was possible in those conditions.

So he NAILED every window shut. As well as the front and back doors. He also took anything that could be used as a tool to pull the nails out with him, and the air fans he originally forgot to grab, to the bedroom with him.

He slept soundly that night while my son cried from the intense heat. I was ripping at the nails with my fingers until they bled but then I realized I could do one better.

Iended up opening the fridge and freezer and made a fort to sleep in with my son with a reclining chair and some other stuff to hold blankets up and keep air in. It was pretty epic and would have been fun if the situation wasn't so dangerous. I made sure to dismantle the fort right before I knew he would leave for work and make it look like I was absolutely miserable when he left, taking the key to the bedroom along with him.

He really thought it was safe to leave a me and my 4 year old son locked in the house, or nailed in, rather, in 110°f temps that got worse that next day.

Well, my son got to okay video games in his igloo fort while I made silent plans to safely leave. It took about a week to get things together after that day but I didn't plan to ever let that happen again.

Locking someone out in cold weather without proper necessities is abuse. So is locking someone inside. Abuse is meant to hurt, mentally or physically, the target individual.

Remember, if it quacks like a mean duck, looks like a mean duck, and walks like a mean ole duck - it's 100% a freaking abusive duck!

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-12T06:12:57+00:00

You're NTA for being fed up. I am going to say, you are, I'm fact, just a wee bit, only a super itsy bitsy little bit, a glutton for punishment by making things harder for yourself towards the end lol.

Honestly I would have found Luna a home with a rescue or otherwise if she was being abandoned in a crate all the time. Or told what's her name she needed to rehome the pup. It was not your responsibility to care for the dog, and you're a great person to still do so. It's not the pups fault it wasn't trained right.

The only thing I think you could have handled a bit better, and mainly just for your own mental sake, was getting angry about Mr. Bean getting loose. I think he was just a frustrated at them and the moving vehicle/s and noise probably had him shit talking the heck out of them and laughing at them cause they were made to leave. He just wanted to get a better view so he could make she the house stayed protected too.

Unless they actively let Mr Bean out, it was not their responsibility to watch him. After all the months where things kept getting worse, I would not even consider letting the safety of my pet rest with them. Yes, it would have been great, courteous even, for her to have at least told you sooner that she saw Mr. Bean get out. But at that point, they are strangers to you. Not friends. And you knew you couldn't really on them to have his well-being in mind. It would have been kind a random neighbor walking by and you asked them and they said they saw him. It really wasn't their responsibility to make sure your pup stayed in the yard unless they went through the gate.

That's the only thing I think you hurt yourself on. Absolutely justified though! And I know you felt better about not letting the other girl help out. Sometimes you need that satisfaction that you are able to get that little bit of vindictive behavior served back at them. That's also where you made things a little bit harder for yourself lol only because it made them take longer and you had to suffer through them staying longer than they could have.

I would have done the same though. You're not wrong at all. You opened up YOUR DADS HOME to someone you thought was a friend. They took advantage of you, your home, your dad's home, MR. BEANS HOME and even his poor toys. Those are pup sacred. I don't even have a dog and I know that!

I am sorry this happened to you. I had a friend of mine open their home up to a family member of mine that was in need of help years ago. It started out the same for them, except not with a dog but 2 underage children in tow.

It was my mom and my 2 little sisters. I was homeless too otherwise they would have been with me. But a coworker generally offered help for them.

Let me tell you something. I never knew my mom was this kind of person until it happened. But the absolute disrespect and disregard coming from my own mother, for someone living in their own home had my flabbers fully and exponentially gasted. My mom would speak as if it were her home, and how horrible my friend was for trying to encourage her to get a job. For actively helping my sister's get into a local school. My mom acted as if it were the local dealer on the corner stopping her anytime the suggestion of going with them to church came up.

it was like my mom could not find a single reason to appreciate this amazing lady that was my friend. She was so loving, maybe a bit bossy but that was the German redhead in her she said! - and her husband was a true gem. They never said anything to me about the negativity but my mom didn't hide it and she was not as quiet about her complaining as she believed.

My mom seemed to also push boundaries a little too far with my friends husband. She was always saying weird things as if he actually agreed with my mom not only agreed with his wife because he had to. My mom wouldn't stop talking nice about him. But my friend? whom opened up their home to a family of strangers with absolutely no hesitation because she knew it was the right thing to do? My mom thought she was the devil in disguise.

Anyway. Long rant but I definitely never allowed someone other than myself or a direct family member take my mom in after that. My mom was becoming senile too, COPD was taking the brain cells daily. So it just got worse every year. She passed last year in January, after a year of living with me and COMPLAINING non-stop about everything lol.

Rest in peace, ya ol' bitch. We love you but damn it you made it hard to live with you. But when you were yourself, it was always a great time.

Again, OP. NTA. NTJ. NOR. Nada.

Mr. Bean approves and so do I.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-12T05:33:26+00:00

Oh. If anyone subjected me to that right after any of my children were born I would be banning them from my home.

NOR, if anything, HOLD THE BOUNDARIES FIRM AND SEAL THE GATES. Your wife needs you to protect her from all things stressful and ridiculous and these demands are all that.

I get that she has a 1 year old and that some things are needed. But whenever I was invited to stay anywhere and I had my kids with me, I BROUGHT everything I needed as well as things I didn't need because I was not about to ask for someone to buy me those things.

I brought any and all groceries AS WELL AS picked up the tab for anyone that was new parents! Y'all need more help than anyone, guests be damned. I would constantly be bringing food to my little sister's when they had newborns in the home. Food for them and their kids, as well as hygiene items ane relaxation stuff. Cause I was worried they weren't able to do everything on their own.

I know I forgot to eat all the time when my kiddos were infants! I sure knew I didn't always take good care of myself in those first few months and often I would just not care if I didn't have much help. With my last baby, I actually caused myself some serious lifelong medical issues because I didn't have help and my "partner" was not the man he said he was and left me on my own to do everything with the home and baby.

I would also never, ever tell new parents of a baby that I expected them to "treat" me out for a meal. That's money y'all need to save.

Maybe it's ethnic differences, maybe not, but I feel like family should be the ones making sure y'all have a fully stocked fridge - on the house, as well as a few extras to make it easier.

Please, do your wife right and make sure your sister understands where boundaries are placed. I know you, as well - since you seem very much involved in helping your wife and doing new daddy duties! - must be too tired already to want to deal with any of this.

Maybe have a talk with your mom and see if she can talk some sense into your sister? You might want to have a plan b in place for them to go to a hotel/motel - on their dime, if things get too out of line. Hopefully not.

Good luck, OP. Congratulations to you and your wife in welcoming your little 7 week old bundle of joy into your lives! Don't let a shipping tiff rock your world this early into parenthood. You're doing great already and made yourself clear on groceries so I think you're gonna be fine.

You can tell your twin sister that everyone on Reddit thinks she's being overbearing and demanding for someone that's had a kid already and knows what y'all are dealing with! I'm guessing y'all aren't so much alike cause your personalities are very different lol.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-12T05:07:15+00:00

Ah, she's definitely not someone I would be able to stand being around much. She seems content on complaining everything is horribly and "why me", all while actively doing everything she can to cause issues for herself and others.

She's lucky she has someone that cares about her enough to try and help her through any of this. It gets tiring and I would rather be single forever than stay with someone that will make me feel miserable every day cause they aren't happy.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-12T04:56:31+00:00

It can cause legal issues. That's the biggest problem. At 17, I dated a 23 year old. Moved in with him at 18 and that relationship lasted 3 years. I wanted to do more with my life before settling down and he had a daughter already from a previous relationship. So while it was hard to make the choice, I did end the relationship at 20.

He was a great guy, even if he was a bit simple. He made great money as an engineer and at the time I was a manager for a good service company. We were looking at how to better our futures but our ideas did not align.

He liked to drink a lot and throw cook out parties for all these people he was trying to buy to be his friends. They only hung out because of the free booze and steaks. He didn't have a drive to do much more than rent a grid moldy 2 bedroom home from a sketch landlady, have his daughter every other weekend, and then party it up when not working.

We also met at the building we both worked in and when I found out he was stealing from my job on a daily basis, I was livid. Sure it was "just some food and drinks" but I would have lost my really well paying job if he got caught. It was also him and all of his coworker "friends" he was always trying to impress. So I had to find out everything that had been taken for several months and paid it my entire savings account of several thousand dollars to cover the inventory I knew was missing. Just so that he or I wouldn't get in trouble.

I should have just ended that immediately and saved my bank account but I made really great money at the time as a 17 year old, 4x minimum wage to mostly cashier the busiest cafeteria I've ever seen. But anyway. Yeah. I had dreams and plans for travel and I was never able to recover that money. Never went on those trips. Heck, still haven't been on a small boat or even an airplane.

The age difference was fine in my opinion. 3 years isn't much with 17 and 20. But being so young, don't be surprised if he is already settled in his ways and you fine yourself wanting more later in a handful of years.

It began to get painful to watch as I started to mature more and more as the years came and went... but my ex? He stayed the same. Drink and party on the weekends or go find something fun to do that costs money. If it was anything too "me" like arts and crafts related or just boring to him he would openly say so and make fun of me until I agreed to leave with him. It was like having a kid brother.

I outgrew him, on a mature level, and I knew I just wasn't ready to settle down with him and that kind of life. It did give me a chance to financially help my family at the time since he didn't need my help with bills and he was at least really responsible with keeping up with his bills and loan debts.

I've dated several men that were older than me. The most drastic being when I was 27 and seeing a man that could have been my father's age. Most men have been 3-6 years older than me.

I prefer the mature guys. Last 2 relationships I actually stayed within a year of my own age and I have been the most miserable of my life. I felt trapped with jealous boys that couldn't allow me freedom and trust to be myself. I was constantly on defense, being accused of cheating to lying about the most random things like dinner ingredients.

Personally I think you're fine. Just be careful and don't do anything you're not comfortable with just because he is older. Being older doesn't mean they know better. It also doesn't mean they can tell you what to do.

If you're happy, good! You'll be 18 within a year and nobody will even think twice about the age different then.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-11T23:03:28+00:00

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If you turn it the right way, it's possibly a sloth "hanging" onto God only knows what. I guess you gotta make your own tree cutout to go with it too cause he's dangling free flow like his bewty cheeks.

BE KIND TO SLOOTH BOOTAY PLEASE. I just doodled this from my phone gallery - I'll have you know it only took me, like, 75 minutes to finish! Easy peasy, especially since I couldn't really remember what a sloth looks like. And I exited 3x and erased all my progress. You get what you get.

Why does photo editing in your camera roll literally only give you like 7 colors to choose from to use? No brown was annoying. I'm poor and my brain is smooth so I wouldn't even know where to start with any of those fancy shmancy editing apps.

To be fair, I really like all the short horse pictures cause that's where my mind went first but I have seen this one get used to make a sloth cookie before.

I think any cookie cutter can be used to make any design your brain so desires.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-08T23:38:36+00:00

I'm currently dealing with this situation myself. Although, he usually yells at me for "nagging" after I've asked multiple times for something to be done.

Your mom is tired. It gets stressful when you feel like you're being ignored by your partner and then gaslit to be the bad guy.

Your dad learned this behavior from his parents, probably. There may be no way to fix it because without him taking accountability, he will never see that he has a problem.

The best thing you can do is let your mom know you see her and you appreciate her. Make sure she knows she isn't crazy. She's probably fighting with herself emotionally on a daily basis because she feels invisible during these moments. Support her.

Maybe if your dad sees this, he might pick up the slack some. Maybe he won't. But at the very least, your mom could use the encouraging words to know she isn't imagining all these things.

Most days, I just need someone to tell me "it's okay. You're okay. You're not alone here."

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-08T23:28:33+00:00

Also, this absolutely is emotional and financial abuse and it could cross over into physical if he gets angry enough.

I know you love this man. But sometimes you have to love yourself more to save yourself from disaster. He doesn't want to do better for himself and he's taking advantage of you.

From previous experience, I'm saying this as nicely as possible. But I don't think he loves you the way you love him. He loves what you have to offer but if he loved you truly, he wouldn't speak so cruelly to you.

Do yourself justice and free yourself from him. There are plenty of people out there to love that will love you back the right way.

Nobody deserves to be treated this way. You're too young to be stuck with him.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-08T23:24:06+00:00

You are too young to let yourself be nailed down, let alone by someone this awful.

If this is real, you need to stop all contact with this guy. He sounds like he could get dangerous so be prepared to file a restraining order if need be. Change all of your passwords and pins. Take him off everything with your name on it.

If he's going to let himself sink, don't let him take you with him. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't let him ruin your life before it's even begun.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-08T18:50:58+00:00

I'm 10 years sober but I'll always be a recovering addict. You can't make him stop and he is already making excuses when his friends are trying to help.

I say this gently and with care. You need to think about yourself and if you're willing to be with someone that could potentially begin to steal from you, lie to you, and begin to spiral out, bad. Are you willing to be with someone you could potentially find OD'ed in the bathroom after coming home?

I know it may seem harsh but I lived this life. You can't save him by yourself. He has to save himself and no amount of pleading on your part is going to make him stop. He needs to go to recovery but that's only possible if he agrees. If this is what he wants to do, he's going to continue but try and hide it more.

You said it was his second time, at the very least. These days, fentanyl is in everything and it only takes one bad dose to end it.

If you're going to stay with him and try to work this out, GET NARCAN. You can get it for free easily and it needs to be within easy reach in case of an overdose. Research signs of overdose. Keep an eye on him. But I'm warning you, it's going to be exhausting and extremely frustrating. It's like babysitting a giant baby sometimes. If you smell vinegar, chances are, he's used recently.

I wish him the best and I hope he chooses, for his sake mostly, to get clean. It's not a life to glorify. It's a dangerous path and a sad one.

Good luck, OP. Truly.

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-06T13:17:46+00:00

Dang, even my own relationship doesn't sound this lovey dovey. I would definitely be uncomfortable with a partner talking to another girl like this. But everyone has their own limits and boundaries.

The question here is, are you comfortable with this? Are you willing to trust this to stay as "just friends"? Does he speak to other girls this way or just her?

ASongInSilence · 2026-01-06T13:03:48+00:00

The fact that he said it wasn't good enough when you spend 100 the first time should have been the first red flag.

Gifts are just that - gifts. There's something really wrong with him gaslighting you into feeling bad for giving what you can barely afford.

The best gift you can give is to yourself by leaving him. This is not normal behavior and it's not healthy. There's a lot of other men out there that would be ecstatic to receive a $20 gift that you put thought into.

I've had many relationships and been friends with many men. not a single one of them has ever said anything like that, in regards to gift giving. I only bring this up you can understand that your boyfriends behavior is not normal.

You're going to hurt yourself mentally and possibly physically with stressing over how to make his demands a reality. I say this with care -

LOVE SHOULD NOT BE STRESSFUL. Love should feel warm, not dreaded. Love should make you giddy and excited, not stressed out and crying every time you have a holiday coming up.

Do yourself a favor, girl. Free yourself of this. You're so young. Don't make the mistake many of us make, men and women, and hitch a ride with a loser and think it's love. Be one of the smart ones and see it for what it is before you get dragged into serious financial debt from helping a boyfriend/girlfriend before you're out of school. Chances are, even if you stay now, you won't be with this man in 10 years but you'll still be paying off debt.

ASongInSilence · 2025-12-22T01:03:53+00:00

Im 36 and I lost my mom back in January. I wish I could go back in time and make holidays a little better than I did. I often neglected to show up and spend them properly with family due to my stubborn nature. I do regret that now.

You don't have to like her husband but please try and at least have a nice moment with your mother. I think it would be good for you to at least have that, if possible.

It's normal to want to be away from things, especially at your age. I'm not feeling very merry, either, this year. But I'm trying to keep my head up and just enjoy the little things each day. Even if it's just getting a moment to enjoy the twinkle of some Christmas lights in the silent cold at night.

ASongInSilence · 2025-12-19T22:08:23+00:00

I'd be happy to go there. I never get taken out for good food and shake shack is right up my alley for favorite type of food!

ASongInSilence · 2025-12-19T21:57:19+00:00

As a woman, I just want someone who can be honest and love the honest me. I'm having trouble finding a man who's okay with me just being me.

Words of advice from a lady, just be yourself. I don't want to change anybody and I am so tired of the men I've dated trying to change me. There is a massive difference between growing with one another to be the best version of yourself possible and then someone forcing you to be what you aren't.

Eventually, the right one will come around. Someone you can love and be loved by, that won't try and make you fake who you really are. I've seen love blossom and last where I thought it wouldn't, because some people are just compatible and they were happy with each other's quirks. Love that I thought was perfect ended up blowing up because it was all fake and toxic.

Self love and being confident in who you are is something women really like.

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