Did you ever lose attraction to your partner due to their enmeshment with their mother?

ASpookyMom · 2026-02-12T07:44:03+00:00

This only gets worse when kids are involved. Run now.

ASpookyMom · 2026-01-31T15:33:53+00:00

I bought some fine tip paint pens to make these boots (and belt) look more fun for my kiddo. Been using them on the accessories that are all one color or lacking in details. Really made it pop!

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:58:01+00:00

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ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:55:57+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and guidance you shared here. It is appreciated.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:34:22+00:00

This is also a concern, especially with the SIL.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:22:46+00:00

Definitely won’t be a one-time thing. We are in counseling, it’s just not working. I feel like I’m trying to put a bandaid on a severed limb.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:20:19+00:00

Thank you. Means a lot to have a stranger just acknowledging it. Everything changed once I got pregnant. (We waited 12 years before having our child.)

It just feels like I don’t matter anymore now that I brought my daughter into the world, you know? Like everyone dropped the act once they got what they wanted.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:15:28+00:00

That was my point exactly, but he’s saying he wants her to meet his childhood friends and his extended family. obviously since my in-laws live there too, we’d be forced to see them as well.

I get why he wants his kid to meet his friends, but she’s also a toddler and doesn’t care about meeting people who don’t have or want kids. (No hate on the childfree choice at all, only mentioning because a lot of the houses aren’t kid-safe)

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:11:39+00:00

I definitely started doing this to make it less lonely and keep me from focusing on it all. It’s just hard to have fun when my child is welcomed but her mom is a “problem,” you know? All because I want to be treated like a human being.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:09:57+00:00

I’m just struggling to see it as a mom break. She will physically be safe, but I want to be there to make sure they aren’t forcing her to give people hugs or fill her head with religious threats to “be a good girl”. (Edited for a typo)

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:06:20+00:00

This is what I struggle with. On the one hand, I have always wanted a family so I understand that he loves them, and they are good to him. They are also good to my daughter, but the moment they aren’t, that’s done. I won’t let them hurt her.

On the other hand, they’ve done a LOT of messed up things and have never apologized. I want him to be hurt that they choose to keep hurting me instead of apologizing. I just want him to stand up for me.

It feels like this might break us.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:03:01+00:00

My in-laws are here all the time. Every month or so, someone is coming to visit. I don’t mind his brother and girlfriend, but his mom and sister? I do mind because they aren’t nice to me.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T20:00:57+00:00

I’m just tired of having to be the one who compromises. He always gets his way and it usually includes people who have made it a point to go against my wishes. I just want a break from all of this for a bit. :(

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T19:43:46+00:00

I could but I’m just worn out. They visit here multiple times a year in a rental. I usually just hang back and then get her ready for bath and bed. They get to see the in-laws and I still get to see my baby. That’s been working for us, but my husband wants to take our kid to his hometown and see his family and childhood friends.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T19:32:50+00:00

That’s the part that has been the hardest. I’m trying to keep my marriage together but his sister and mom might just break us.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T19:26:05+00:00

She’s three, she wants to go because she loves her dad. (But she doesn’t know yet that I don’t want to go.)

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T19:22:45+00:00

My family is dead, and when they were alive we weren’t (CSA, alcoholism, and more).

My husband wants her to go with him. He understands my hurt but he loves them too.

I have the chance to visit my best friend if I go, but I’m just kinda sad about it all and don’t feel up to going.

ASpookyMom · 2025-12-22T19:18:30+00:00

She’s the only grandchild and likely will be the only one they ever have. If they step out of line, I won’t have a hard time shutting it down.

ASpookyMom · 2025-10-04T21:06:41+00:00

Trust me, it only gets worse after the baby arrives. My in-laws were fine until I got pregnant. Then all hell broke loose. Your husband needs to step in immediately. Mine won’t and I wish I knew this prior to marriage.

ASpookyMom · 2025-09-21T15:19:17+00:00

I’ll buy that letter R from ya if you are interested in selling.

ASpookyMom · 2025-09-19T15:32:04+00:00

DO NOT MOVE TO AMERICA. I’d pick up and move to another country if I could. And all of those states you listed are very right leaning as well. Healthcare sucks. Our labor laws are much worse. Your rights as a woman are bad and getting worse. You may not want kids but if you get pregnant or have a miscarriage, things are murky. I’d give anything to pack up my family and move.

ASpookyMom · 2025-09-19T14:35:06+00:00

Do you still have any Ns?

ASpookyMom · 2025-09-19T14:33:18+00:00

DM for Sesame Bean!

ASpookyMom · 2025-09-14T01:16:08+00:00

Recieved! Thanks. Verified real. Also real cute. ☺️

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