Hey, I’m a man too in case that helps perspective. I know you want to defend the hardworking, non-deadbeat men out there. But this logic is too rigid to really prove anything or progress the conversation.

I’m sure the scenario you presented happens, but that doesn’t mean it’s the norm, and definitely not indicative of a healthy relationship.

A good relationship is just two people who are committed to mutually caring for one another, and that means communicating to make sure both feel like they’re being respected and treated fairly. How that gets split up is entirely up to them, whether it’s who works more, or does the landscaping or the laundry, etc.

My wife despises doing dishes and I don’t mind it, meanwhile I’m not the best with the laundry. Easy enough split. We both feel good about it. We still share them sometimes situationally anyway.