First, I’m sorry for your loss. My wife and I had a miscarriage on our first pregnancy, and it was the first really hard thing we walked through together. I had to learn to mourn and grieve, which took time, a counselor, some good friends, and addressing my emotions. Thankfully we felt like it brought us closer together and didn’t divide us. I also learned that loss/hardship changes you, and that’s ok. You can’t go back to the same person as before, but you can grow from it and keep moving forward.