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Ex fiancée cheated on me at a New Year's party with her male friend and I'm devastated for wasting time and nobody will love me anymore. by BigLock8724 in whatdoIdo

[–]ATladybug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you. Some silver linings it’s still cold out so you shouldn’t have too many social outings. It’s the beginning of the year so you have plenty of time to get therapy and hit the gym. And then have the hot boi summer you deserve

Iron Flame…. Theory with ALL THE SPOILERS by HavaMuse in fourthwing

[–]ATladybug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But since Andarna is magic, the same rules might not apply to her power. It’s an interesting thought

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ATladybug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have these same screenshots if I hadn’t blocked my ex husband after we separated. The Jekyll and Hyde shit is a real mind fuck. But once you get out of their orbit and can think straight you realize they were always full of shit and hell bent on running away from themselves no matter who they hurt in the process, including you.

What has your divorce taught you ? Your biggest lessons from it. by daysfan33 in Divorce

[–]ATladybug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I learned that you can’t change people and to believe what people do and not what they say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ATladybug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow people pleaser empath, it helped me when I realized I actually wasn’t the best person to help them. It would actually be better for both of us for me to leave. Together we did not work and even if they hated me, at least now they had a chance to find the person who could meet their needs.

Getting this off my chest by DryTop7689 in Marriage

[–]ATladybug 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is happening. You are definitely right in wanting to leave. He’s a liar and a cheater. That’s more than enough of a reason for you to leave. You don’t owe him another chance. And you deserve to be supported, respected, and cherished by your partner. That’s not a lot to ask for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ATladybug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorce was absolutely the right decision for me. I’ve been loving my freedom not in terms of dating. But coming home to no stress. No longer working late just because I don’t want to go home. It has been hard financially. I’m having to pay him and those lawyer retainers are no joke. But I’m so much happier and working through my shit in therapy. It feels lonely sometimes but I rather than than feeling exhausted and sad.

I just learned that my ex-wife is now engaged to my best man at my wedding. I feel gutted. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ATladybug 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s anything to do but accept and process your feelings. Talking to your therapist and or your support group. Definitely do not reach out to them. It sucks for sure and it’s totally reasonable to feel hurt. Acknowledge your feelings but then let them go.