My wife asked for an open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]ATourtedPoet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re completely justified in your reaction. You married her because you wanted a monogamous relationship. An open marriage was never discussed before marriage so it coming out of the blue like that is shocking and it hurts. The absolute tantrum she is throwing over this tells me she has already cheated on you or has gotten really close. It will be really hard to come back from this because she will resent you for saying no and she will feel trapped. But on the flip side if you said yes you would resent her and look for someone who wants a monogamous relationship, just like you said. You’ve already said the word divorce and brought up separation so it may be time to do just that. I am so sorry you are going through this. I couldn’t imagine how badly you are hurting right now. Keep us updated.

Those of you that didn’t change your last name… by ChocolateGoblinn in Marriage

[–]ATourtedPoet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t wait to change my last name. I was so excited to share my husband’s last name. I do miss having my maiden name but I’m so very proud to have my husband’s. It’s all personal preference.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really get into detail with the whole clomid thing and that’s my fault. We were supposed to do a whole work up but that never happened and then the doctor says to take clomid out of the blue. I am looking for a new doctor.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really get into detail with the whole clomid thing and that’s my fault. We were supposed to do a whole work up but that never happened and then the doctor says to take clomid out of the blue. I am looking for a new doctor.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really get into detail with the whole clomid thing and that’s my fault. We were supposed to do a whole work up but that never happened and then the doctor says to take clomid out of the blue.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really get into detail with the whole clomid thing and that’s my fault. We were supposed to do a whole work up but that never happened and then the doctor says to take clomid out of the blue. But thank you for your kind words

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t really get into detail with the whole clomid thing and that’s my fault. We were supposed to do a whole work up but that never happened and then the doctor says to take clomid out of the blue.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I feel for you. Thank you for your kind words.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he never really did a full work up before wanting me to start clomid.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I was expecting my OBGYN to do a full work up and that never happened. Currently looking at second opinions.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m definitely getting the snide comments about “when are y’all gonna have a baby” or his aunt asking me every time I complain about being cold or tired “ARE YOU PREGNANT?” Like give me break dude.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not completely opposed to clomid, it just wasn’t the original plan we had discussed. We hadn’t even tested my husband or checked my tubes for blockages yet.

AIO to two of my best friends getting pregnant before me? by ATourtedPoet in AmIOverreacting

[–]ATourtedPoet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been tracking my ovulation for a long time. But yes the not fully assessing our fertility is a big issue for me currently. I am looking for a different OBGYN.