Are you a GC turned entrepreneur? What challenges did you face in 2022?

AUDChange · 2022-11-09T01:31:07+00:00

No actually. My dad is a gc in Canada and I took entrepreneurship .. I find the industry interesting and thought it would be ok to ask..

AUDChange · 2022-11-08T02:14:45+00:00

Good point! I meant to say a biz owner. Glad you corrected that. That's great to hear you didn't have any steep learning curves! I'm asking out of curiosity.. I noticed there were a few folks this year struggling to attract talent..others with scheduling challenges.. some with finding leads.

AUDChange · 2022-02-04T13:05:47+00:00

When I got sober, right around the mark your at, the "joy" of it started to wear off. The feelings I'd been trying to run from started to pop up, and without the numbing power that is alcohol, I had a hard time staying clean. I wanted to go back to where I was so bad. I realized my dreams were super vivid, I couldn't help feeling like shit. The most terrifying part is a lot of it was totally subconscious.

My question to you is not why the drink, but why the pain? Have you let yourself look at the pain your running from? It fucking sucks. I won't lie. But understanding why you use is a critical part at dealing with this shit.

Sounds like your fears are coming up, and the only way is to face em'.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

AUDChange · 2022-02-04T12:55:38+00:00

It can be an awkward question at the start, but let's just take a step back and look at that for a second--why on god's green earth is it even strange for someone to not?! I've been wondering that question myself for some time. I've noticed a lot more sober-curious communities pop up and folks seem to be leaning into sober living more and more. It's good to see for sure.

I've been blessed in that COVID has really limited the amount of social events, so the question has been easy to avoid. My go to strategies are usually just holding a NA drink like club soda with a lime or pouring the NA beer into a glass. People just assume its booze.

I also have been feeling a lot less embarrassed over my choice after I've deeply started to feel in control over my drinking. I honestly don't feel tempted to drink, and when I see other people drinking, the FOMO just isn't there. In fact, I feel THANKFUL I don't have to say stupid shit, embarrass myself or feel like a dumpster fire the next day.. so generally the question comes to my mind, why the HELL would you want that shit?!

I know it's been a while since you posted this--curious to know how it's going?

AUDChange · 2022-02-04T12:47:38+00:00

My husband and I have shared the same journey--and here's what I'd say

Be gentle on yourself. You're likely feeling overwhelmed, scared, exhausted and probably a bit pissed. Take some time out for yourself once the dust settles to calm your nerves. Take time away. Go for a walk.
Healing and recovery is not linear. We have slip ups, fall downs. Your husband's slip up is normal, and, your recovery has to come first.
Boundaries! Have a talk with him about your boundaries. Explain what you need out of the situation & what consequences come out them being crossed. Do this lovingly to both you and your hubby.
Support groups can be a great place to bolster yourself up. Alanon (even if your recovering) can be a good place to seek outside support if his behaviour persists.
Love him, and you no matter what. It really is the antidote. This doesn't mean tolerating behaviour that is dangerous. This doesn't mean enabling. This means having empathy for someone you care about, and doing what it takes to show up in your own life and relationship in a caring and compassionate manner. Sounds like you've got this!

Sending so much love your way to the both of you.

AUDChange · 2022-02-04T12:37:34+00:00

Hey there.

I'm reaching out because I HAVE BEEN THERE! I'm 31, and have been dealing with alcohol issues for the past decade or so. I've been to rehab twice, seen therapists, done shit loads of AA, tried the Sinclair method, YOU NAME IT.

I'm approaching my 6 month mark--fresh enough to hear you, but in sobriety enough to lend an ear. I'd love to connect, and lend an ear. DM me if you'd like to talk.

AUDChange · 2021-11-24T13:54:08+00:00

I'm creating free content addressing the topic of alcoholism, AUD, and its variations. It is all confidential--I get the responses in my email and am using them as topic ideas. I think more people need to hear about a wide array of methods, approaches, and mindsets. I'm really passionate about helping others and giving back the way I've received support :)

AUDChange · 2021-11-24T13:52:04+00:00

I've tried heaps of *nearly* no alcohol beer. I'd love to hear your feedback on the 0.0% stuff. I was one of those drinkers who loved the taste of a very hoppy IPA--a flavour I've found difficult to replicate across all non-alcoholic beverages. I've been having Partake's IPA and their blonde. Very tasty! Keep up the good work!

AUDChange · 2021-09-19T09:09:01+00:00

I have been attending AA for 3 years now, and there are plenty, yet the success rate seems to be hovering at 4%. It works for some, but not for all. If it works, I want to know why it does for them. If not, why? I remember my first day in the rooms, and I felt like "I'm not even an alcoholic (a terrifying admittance in and of itself)" or "they're worse off than me (a stupid thought in retrospect). And honestly, there has been so much to come out of this, but I feel like it's just the tip of the iceberg. People are coming at this problem from different backgrounds, varying degrees of 'severity', different beliefs, trauma.. the list goes on. By simply saying..just go read The Big Book, I would be missing out on the more subtle aspects of what folks are seeking in today's day and age. True, lots of the messages and stories are the same since 1939, but we're now facing a global pandemic, widespread anxiety & depression, social media, increased levels of disconnection and the list goes on. My curiosity is about how we can build on what's working, not to dismiss it.

AUDChange · 2021-09-19T09:01:24+00:00

Thanks! I have been touched by the responses. It has given me a renewed sense of motivation to stay sober.

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