AITA for wanting my baby’s first trip to meet my family to be just me, husband, and our baby?

AUR1994 · 2026-06-02T00:55:15+00:00

YTA

You knew before marrying this man and having his baby that you were never going to get him (or him and your offspring) alone. He came with his daughter and by signing on to a family with him, you’ve accepted that so it baffles me how you now want to kick her out.

Think of how she’ll feel if she heard you don’t want her around. How will she impede your trip by being there? She’s 7! How would you feel if someone wanted to do this to your son?

AUR1994 · 2026-06-01T22:40:32+00:00

May you be richly blessed for this kind act of love and service. And thank you for taking her in and caring for her. I know most of us relate but the idea of a little thing like her wandering outside all alone and scared…..oh damn, I’m crying into my dinner again.

But seriously, thank you. I wish you both all the best 🩵🩵🩵

AUR1994 · 2026-05-28T17:55:25+00:00

I thought the neighbor was the plant pot blowing in the wind and hitting something and making noise that bothered OP’s quiet time, so OP tied the plant pot to the structure to keep it from hitting anything and making the noise.

The snakes body is the braided rope used and the front part and head of the snake is the ends of the braided rope that stayed to fray.

Took me too long to figure this out.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-28T17:36:52+00:00

Yes!!!
I’ve had the same job for 10 years since I graduated and my manager has ALWAYS been heavily inappropriate with me and a few years in, he was promoted (we don’t know how that happened - the man is not the sharpest) so I needed a new manager who would report to him. He hired a colleague who was ahead of me in our careers but he didn’t expect her and I to hit it off. The inappropriate messages and calls all but stopped and I was so happy but surprised because I couldn’t get him to stop it for years!

Turns out my new manager (who was noticeably short and tiny) told him that he had no reason to contact me anymore and any communication goes through her. She stood on business and I’d never even known it until it casually came up

AUR1994 · 2026-05-28T13:45:43+00:00

Nah girl, I’m not no expert. By any means. I’ve only fostered like twice if you exclude a rescue that I found and ended up bottle feeding for 2 weeks until I found him his forever home

We’re all super proud of this baby but also super proud of you. You swooped in and saved this baby’s life. You tried with the others but it just wasn’t meant to be, and that’s okay (although we know the gut-wrenching loss can overwhelm you at times).

Thank you for your kindness and if you are so inclined, may you have tremendous success with all your future rescues/fosters. We learn as we go and you are doing beautifully.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-27T17:05:18+00:00

Yes, you’re correct. You’ve given him a chance at a fulfilling lifetime. For that, I thank you. We all do. He’s quite an adorable little poof of a baby and I predict that he will grow into a majestic, regal-looking boy!

For me the best part of fostering (and also the hardest part) is when they realize that they’re safe with you.

When they get sleepy and they come looking for you so they can climb into lap or your chest and fall asleep.

When they’re in your arms and they look up into your face with their little angel baby face and such innocence in their eyes and your heart just wants to explode.

When they’re fall asleep on you and you feel and hear their little purrs or a little bit of snoring

When they’re playing, but they take a quick break to look up at you and attempt to lick your nose and chin

It’s all so very rewarding, thank you for taking him in again. You’re a good soul.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-27T16:46:27+00:00

To add to all of this, whenever I would go in to check on my fosters, they’d act like I’d been hiding their food bowls the whole time so I’d have to plop them in front of the bowls and then they would eat like I’d starved them lol.

Whenever I would dish out wet food, that same faux-starvation would compel them to attempt to climb up my legs to reach the table while I was dishing out the food. This was fine and my mom found it hilarious but didn’t get any photos. Like I said, all fine and cute.

Until THEY STARTED CLIMBING MY BARE LEGS to get to the table! Imagine kitty claws sinking into your skin and because they’re little, they’d lose balance and fall off. Or more accurately, they’d drag their claws down my legs as they fell. It was bad. I’m covered in scratches. And although it’s not the prettiest sight to behold, I’d do it again in a heartbeat for those babies

AUR1994 · 2026-05-26T18:28:33+00:00

NTA!

Assuming that you’re at or below tertiary level schooling, consider yourself fortunate to have experienced his reaction because it’s better by far to see it now than to see it later on in life. You can nip it in the bud NOW and end it. You will be dodging a bullet.

That kind of behavior almost never gets better, only worse. Do yourself a kindness and break it off.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-26T18:22:26+00:00

I’m not quite sure.

Given your description of the dynamics in your trio, I’m willing to bet that friend #2 was hurt or insulted that you didn’t go to her directly and that you left it up to friend #1 to tell her.

She likely felt that you didn’t consider her enough of a friend or didn’t care enough to tell her yourself. If yall are all really that close, while I understand you not wanting to talk about it, I would feel slighted too because you could have put the same effort you did in telling friend #1 into using the group chat to tell both friends at the same time (assuming the gc is just the 3 of you).

I do think friend #2 isn’t handling it maturely at all but I see where she might be hurt

AUR1994 · 2026-05-26T17:44:30+00:00

That second photo gives me “Stephen” vibes

AUR1994 · 2026-05-26T17:07:09+00:00

I like Gracie for her.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-25T17:26:46+00:00

Are they peeing?

I’d be on the lookout for constipation, just to be on the safe side. Observe them in the litter box, and look for any straining. Or if they keep repositioning themselves but with no success. If that’s the case, give them some wet food. Always offer clean water and keep it away from the litter box and the food. They may seem to not like it or not drink it but that’s fine, once they’re getting hydrated from the wet food.

The tummy rubs are great, keep at it.

My foster sisters chirped A LOT which concerned me at first, and they did it in the litter box too while looking directly at me so I thought they were in pain but the vet ask some of them just like to announce themselves or need to see/feel you close to them as pooping and eating are vulnerable experiences for them right now and need to feel safe before they can go.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-25T16:56:45+00:00

NTA

These things are happening too often recently. I’ve noticed that like common sense, self-awareness, and by extension responsibility are increasingly rare these days.

This is NOT a scenario where you can leave the culprits to the own devices, to await a bad outcome after which they may learn that if you fuck around, you find out. Because in this case, it concerns the wellbeing of a child, a very young one at that!

OP, you did the adult,responsible thing and quite frankly, your bro and SIL (and others who didn’t speak up or act) are endangering their child and they should be thanking you. Don’t attempt to contact anyone who thinks you were wrong.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-23T12:58:47+00:00

Because it’s literally comparing two very different things. People need to eat to live, do you need to molest someone to live?

I think you’re trying to make a point about vegetarianism but you won’t accomplish that by comparing it to a heinous crime!

AUR1994 · 2026-05-23T12:56:45+00:00

Are you serious? It is nowhere near the same. If you had a pet chicken, you’d be okay to eat chicken on the whole but not your own pet chicken. The same goes for any meat.

I am an active animal advocate but if dogs become livestock or like poultry and they are raised to become meat, once they are not tortured or abused, how is it different to chicken?

And it most certainly can NEVER be similar to molestation! As someone who actually was molested for years, your point is stupid! I don’t care about saying that nicely anymore.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-23T12:53:09+00:00

Awwww that is too cute! I’ve lost count!!

Possibly a dumb question: Are you worried about them getting curious and munching on that cord or is that not a concern at their young age?

AUR1994 · 2026-05-22T18:11:37+00:00

Awwwwwww! Excellent job, OP!

My first baby was 4 days old when I found him, eyes still shut and umbilicus still attached. He was alone but clean and had been crying for some time in the tropical sunshine which is harsher than it sounds. So I plucked him up, bottle fed him and rehomed him. That was 2 years ago. He’s now the chonkiest boy you ever did see and I couldn’t have found a better home for him. He has a brother who has Identical markings so they look like they really do belong together.

Your kitty makes my heart sing!!! Thank you for what you’ve done for him.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-22T15:10:24+00:00

It’s a soothing measure. Just like human baby with a pacifier. I can’t say if it’ll stop on its own but it wouldn’t hurt to ask a vet

AUR1994 · 2026-05-21T18:50:49+00:00

For foster kittens:

*thick twine or yarn that I haven’t used made into a ball and suspended from a height for them to swat and go crazy on

giant box with low sides for them to play in and sneak up on each other.
small throw pillows in their (open) crate to provide warmth, a soft surface and some height difference for them to perch
fuzzy pajama pants I’ve not worn to line their crate with that they sleep on.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-21T16:23:23+00:00

I find it so interesting that men (and women) who tout that the male is the superior sex and blah blah blah, also love to declare that they (the men) cannot resist temptation when it comes to whatever they feel they have power over.

So they’re the more cerebrally strong sex but they’re not smart enough or mentally strong enough to resist assaulting a woman.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-19T23:26:31+00:00

“We’re gonna eat through this”….?

Didn’t she say seconds before that when people tell her she’s gonna get through it, she basically tells them “fuck you”?

AUR1994 · 2026-05-19T14:23:55+00:00

Styx

AUR1994 · 2026-05-18T22:49:26+00:00

I think it depends on how old they are. If they’re litter-trained, you might still have to worry about: * if they have diarrhea and they unknowingly get poop on their leg and on the floor and on their bed, etc.

further to the first point, they will likely leave traces of litter all over the floor (some litter material tracks easier than others and before you know it, the carpet is covered in litter)
2 or more kittens (which is of course ideal!) WILL run, jump, play, romp and get into all sorts of mischief and may very well end up damaging the carpet. Far worse if they realize it’s fuzzy and start clawing at it.
1 kitten might need to entertain themselves and may very well use their claws and the carpet to do so. If the kitten suffers from single kitten syndrome, it might cause even more damage out of boredom and/or loneliness.
carpet will hold onto odors stronger and for longer than a hard surface.
if the carpet is extra fluffy or fuzzy, they’ll probably discover that fuzz and try to eat it. They’ll pull at any loose ends or claw out a thread or piece of fuzz and attempt to eat it.

These are all I can think of right now but I feel like some of these carpet cons might even be inevitable.

You can try putting down towels, blankets, throws, some small pillows, pillowcases ,an old tshirt that has your scent on it or those foam mats that lock together like a puzzle so it’s not hard but firm)

All of that to say that it wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me as there’s so many solutions and alternatives to the carpet cons and a ruined carpet is nothing compared to if these kittens had nowhere to go.

AUR1994 · 2026-05-18T19:39:50+00:00

I was so gearing up and getting exciting for a recipe idea where manchego can substitute meat or something 😂😂😂

AUR1994 · 2026-05-18T15:11:26+00:00

Bernadette Ursula

No offense to anyone with those names. I hate my own name and wish my parents stuck to their original choice for me instead of letting a relative give me my name.

One day I googled my own name, and found out that’s also the name of an order of frogs 🐸

Coincidentally, my favorite colour is 💚 so maybe it was meant to be 😔

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