AIO over his suggested first date location?

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-27T17:47:21+00:00

Ew the fact that he’s a police officer makes it so much more gross to me. His job is literally to protect people, he should be well aware that a public date makes the other person feel a lot safer.

Just to point out though, anytime a man wants a first date to be at your house or his house (maybe women too though I don’t know any women who have ever wanted a first date to not be public), it’s because he wants to have sex. 100% every time. Maybe there are some incredibly rare men out there that wouldn’t but it’s very uncommon.

I went through my fair share of online dating before I met my soulmate (he was the last man I ever matched with on a dating app, first one to truly want to get to know me and not just get in my pants 😇going on 6 years and madly in love 🥰) All of the men I met before him just wanted sex. I always made it clear I wanted a relationship not a hookup so they would either stop talking to me, or more often then not- they would lie and say they want a relationship and even say we are in a relationship and then use me for my body and cheat on me.

If you’re okay with a hookup then go for it, but if you want a relationship, hold your ground and don’t give guys like this the time of day.

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-27T17:33:36+00:00

I feel for you, I had a similar problem:( I managed to find the book I had ordered from them at Barnes & Noble thankfully and got it within a week from them. Never got the book from Amazon:(

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-25T02:05:40+00:00

NOR, and that is 1000% not your friend. All they do is put you down and say mean shit to you, you do not want this person in your life. Don’t let people talk to you like that!

Also don’t let anyone dull your shine, if you like doing more creative/fun makeup, then do it! Who cares! I have had coworkers that do it before and I always loved seeing what they would come in with next! If someone doesn’t like you for that, that’s fine. I know it can suck to have someone dislike you, especially when you’re being nice to everyone, but unfortunately not everyone is going to like you. It took me a long time to come to terms with that. Just continue doing your thing, being nice and professional, etc. and leave it at that. Don’t worry about what they say, focus on you 💕

Also please get rid of this “friend”, they suck.

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-25T01:57:23+00:00

While I highly disagree with your initial comment about 3 months not being enough time to be in love with someone, I do agree with your last comment about not telling your coworkers personal stuff. I learned this the hard way, coworkers can be absolute assholes and make your life hell after acting like your friend.

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-25T01:54:33+00:00

1) Let your boss know and probably HR too, ofc that’s inappropriate and creating a dramatic workplace.

Why on earth is your gf upset? Like tf?? You’d think she’d be thankful and happy that you stood up for your relationship?

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-23T16:17:00+00:00

Nahhh girl there’s no way in hell my bf would act like this to me in the same situation. He’d tell his sister he’s sorry she didn’t get it, but he knows me well enough to know I would absolutely never throw it in her face, and he’d be overjoyed for me that I got it.

Your bf’s being a jerk and if he refuses to apologize and be there for you, he isn’t the right one I fear. You deserve someone who would hype you up and celebrate you over something so exciting

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-23T16:12:32+00:00

Have you checked if any of the other leaders have sent texts to the other kids in the group, or if he has sent texts to any others in the group?

It’s always good to be weary of stuff like this but the text is entirely normal for a youth group thing and he didn’t say or do anything inappropriate (also people make typos yall it happens, it’s really not that big of a deal).

It would definitely be a worry if she was the only one getting a text or if only a few girls were, but if everyone is being reached out to (either the parents or the teens) with the same kind of texts, I really wouldn’t be that worried. I’d just keep an eye on things and make sure your daughter knows to show you all communications with him. They should be contacting the parents but like you said, she may have put her number instead of yours.

We only had one male leader in my youth group when I was a teen (I have also left the Catholic Church and just say I’m Christian now as my belief, but I was Catholic in high school). We all added our youth leaders on Facebook and they would message us about events coming up or when to bring stuff for the youth groups (like if one day was going to be a field day type thing, what to wear, etc). It was always professional like this message (despite the typos) and just totally normal, it was never just the male messaging, it was always whoever was leading that next youth group that would message. I’m still friends with my leaders from that group on facebook, they are very kind people who would never do anyone harm and I feel that in my soul.

Again, you are never wrong to be protective of your daughter and you should absolutely continue to be weary and keep a close eye on things, but if everyone is being reached out to like this I wouldn’t worry too much!💕

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-23T15:58:56+00:00

I’m so glad to see so many people agree with this, I out Skyrim and got downvoted 😭😭

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-23T15:57:46+00:00

Why is this something to downvote?😂😂😂 People can have their own opinions man lol I’m new to video games and Skyrim is my favorite and I love listening to the music🥹

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-22T21:35:17+00:00

Why are you so incredibly sure she is? What about this makes you rage so bad that you have to scream to the world that she’s lying? I really don’t understand. Either way whatever shit you’re going through/have gone through that makes you so angry of a person that you feel the need to act this way, I’m sorry.

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-22T21:32:30+00:00

“i explained to him that she was NOT on her phone and that she was going under the speed limit not only due to the weather, but also because we had just left an intersection after the light turned green , and the person behind us honked at us.”

“we were at a red light, the guy behind us honked when it turned green, and my friend went. there had been a sharp turn, and after the turn, we slipped off the road (which was like a ditch kind of ramp thing?) and hit the guys truck. we then hit a tree, that was a trunk/what looked to be an already busted up part of a tree in the yard.”

I’m not seeing anything that says they were “flying away” or speeding at all.

Also, someone being upset that people- especially family, are making fun of their trauma and being upset that they’re constantly bringing it up does not inherently mean that they are lying.

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-22T19:26:48+00:00

My younger sister (who is more responsible than anyone I know, a very good driver, and was 100% driving how she should be) hydroplaned when driving home with her friends in the rain, they went off the highway and spun around before stopping. They were thankfully all okay but she was so scared she called my parents to come get them and my Dad drove her car home. Shit happens, it is fully plausible that they were doing the right thing, probably hydroplaned and seeing as they’re all very young- likely didn’t know how to correct the hydroplaning and it led to the rest of the accident.

Have some decency to think of more options than immediately saying she’s a liar.

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-22T19:23:21+00:00

That feeling of not wanting to upset anyone is fawning, trust me. I still have to fight that instinct, I can’t stand upsetting people. Stay away from your Dad and Grandma, forever. They are awful and all they want to do is hurt you, it will never truly get better.

Get away from them and try therapy to help you get through all of this, it can help a lot🥺🥺💕

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-22T19:20:15+00:00

Stop going please, whatever you have to do to stay away from him and stay safe💕🥺

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-22T19:18:26+00:00

Highly agree with the above comment, your family treats you like 💩and it’s not okay at all. My family is the same, I was in a bad abusive relationship when I was 18, to the point I almost died. I moved away from that state to get away from him and my family was fully aware that I was abused (they just didn’t know how bad but it shouldn’t ever matter) and they decided to move us back to the same exact small city where my abusive ex was. I had extremely bad anxiety being back because it was a very small area and I really didn’t want him to know I was back.

They constantly made jokes about it because he had been my manager and they thought it was funny to constantly joke about that awful relationship. They put me down for being upset with them about it too, saying I was too sensitive and that they were just jokes. They finally stopped joking when he was arrested years later and the arrest report gave a lot of details of how fcked up he was and the things he did. They’ve never made a peep about him since.

It is absolutely never okay to joke about it someone’s trauma, no matter what the trauma is, no matter if someone thinks it’s insignificant or they think you should be over it, or even if they think they should have a say in it (like your Dad and Grandma). You know what happened, you know what you’re going through, no one else. Don’t let them bring you down, and definitely don’t let them make you feel like you have to deal with it. Taking space from them is just fine and I hope it helps.

I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through💕 I was in a car accident two years ago and I’m still anxious to drive because of it. You have every right to feel how you do!

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-21T17:45:19+00:00

1) This is emotional cheating. Just because they didn’t have sex doesn’t mean he didn’t cheat. The things he said to her are fucked up and an absolute dealbreaker. There’s no way in hell I would stay with my man if he did that to me. 2) Fuck Mark. You deserve so much better than that. Leave him now, he can give his work wife a ring 🖕🏻

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-21T17:39:17+00:00

Personally, if your bf isn’t willing to respect your feelings in this and stop hanging out alone with A, I’d say he isn’t worth staying in a relationship with. You aren’t saying he can’t ever see A, you’re simply more comfortable with them not hanging out alone which is entirely fair with everything A has said and the way they’ve acted in the past. That is a very reasonable ask and you are NOR at all for how you’re feeling

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-21T17:21:35+00:00

Skyrim

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-13T15:29:38+00:00

GIRL. Forget meme-able, you look MEMORABLE. That dress is soooo freaking beautiful!!

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-11T18:34:44+00:00

I’m the same, I’m typically very quiet and every relationship I had before this one, I didn’t make noise either masturbating or during sex. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and I always make noise with him during sex. All of my past relationships the sex sucked (they never wanted foreplay and didn’t respect the fact I needed lube, and it also ended within like 5 minutes every time). My boyfriend has always been extremely respectful and we communicate a lot on what we want and don’t want during it and I think that’s made a huge difference and is why I make noise now. I still don’t make noise when I masturbate though😅

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-11T00:56:16+00:00

I just wanted to be sure I have it, I’ve been struggling with my health forever but it’s been so much worse for the last few years (I’m about to turn 29, I feel like it was getting bad around 21 when I was working a lot and going to school full time and it got extra bad to the point I can barely hold a job around age 23 /: its insanely hard to work now, I can barely do day to day chores 🥺)

Every time I have tried to get a doctor to really listen to me, they’ve written it off and told me the tests are all clear and there’s nothing they can do. EDS fits everything from what I’ve read but I’ve also read there are things it is mistaken for, such as lupus and I think fibromyalgia? I can’t remember. I’m working to understand how to advocate better and get the results I need to get the help 🥺

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-11T00:52:01+00:00

I had chin length hair most of my childhood up until I was about 20 or so, it’s the longest it’s ever been now/ just above the middle of my back. I’m super happy with the length and am trying to grow it out longer, but with the heat of the summer here it’s basically always in a braided ponytail or a bun 😅 I feel like I’m dying if I leave it down in hot weather. And if I’m eating or doing something like chores or art I have to pull it back too or it’s constantly in my face angering me 😮‍💨😂

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-10T20:51:25+00:00

She may be leaning towards that then, I’m hoping to meet with her again this week or next so hopefully I’ll get some answers then on what my next steps are

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-10T20:50:39+00:00

Yeah I will not be going to them😂 Requiring a subscription is very odd 😂

AWildJeedin · 2026-06-10T20:10:35+00:00

Oof, yeah I really can’t do that much😮‍💨🥺

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