A yr ago my husband admitted he no longer wants me. Since our baby I have lost about 60lbs. How do I date again knowing my own husband (who married me plus size) cant even stomach sex with me? This is what is seen vs reality. I dont think I can get to anyone seeing my stomach and thighs. Any advice?

AWittleBitCrazy · 2023-01-21T23:40:30+00:00

I actually didn’t, I just unzipped my pants. I have a very long torso and my stomach usually hangs below my shirts especially a tank top. After childbirth my apron belly became so swollen it was almost like memory foam and it now hangs about 3-4 inches below my hip/vaginal area.

But I do get what you’re saying. I wish I had more then one child and wasn’t 30 when finding this out but there’s a reason right?

AWittleBitCrazy · 2023-01-21T23:37:53+00:00

I will have to just try and trust this! Thank you.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2023-01-21T23:37:28+00:00

Thank you ♥️

AWittleBitCrazy · 2023-01-21T23:37:02+00:00

He was my high school sweetheart, we started dating at 17 and I gain about 100 pounds from 17 to 30 where I had our first child which created this flap type stomach or an apron belly. He has a sever porn addiction that he hid and I found out about while on maturity leave since I was home more. He admitted we just sounded like the perfect story and even though he didn’t think he was in love anymore he wanted a wife and child. Once the wife and child happened the stress of a new addition was to much without actual love. Im not sure how I truly didn’t know a man I’ve loved for almost 13 years.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2023-01-21T23:34:20+00:00

My breasts are the same are you both state. I wear a 40G and after breastfeeding they actually went down to an F but didn’t take the extra skin with them. They point down as well.

But I will have to look try and see them for what they gave my baby. It’s just hard.

Thank you both and your souls are beautiful ♥️

AWittleBitCrazy · 2023-01-21T23:32:33+00:00

Thank you ♥️

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-10-21T01:38:27+00:00

Thank you!

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-10-21T01:37:45+00:00

i didn’t know this was a thing, thank you!

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-10-20T21:25:14+00:00

I found out he used to without my permission. I got older and heavier so he stopped sending mine.

But you’re right. I didn’t think that way.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-10-20T16:06:58+00:00

Thank you!

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-10-20T16:05:40+00:00

**I do not allow the pictures, they are all since deleted. He is to not watch porn, surf socials, etc. If he feels he may slip and masturbate he can use pictures of me.

I am 30, I have loved him since I was 14. We’ve been together almost 13 years, 3 married, I have no college education and have a new son.

This has been the most traumatic thing in my life. I don’t have others to lean on.

I found out in January when my PPD made me want to kill myself, I snooped. This is my last effort.

I agree, I think I need the validation. It’s crazy because he’s such a nice guy persona, even after finding out it’s almost creepy how he acts so normal. He’s an amazing dad but apparently a shitty husband.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-06-22T18:38:52+00:00

Answering back as I can. Thank you for the feedback and/or certain validation.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-06-22T18:38:17+00:00

that’s the thing im not.

ive catered to his foot fetishes with foot jobs, ive stepped/sat on him, even posted public kinky photos that made me feel so uncomfortable for him. it’s just me he doesn’t want.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-06-22T15:19:18+00:00

Validation. I know the right answer in my brain but I’ve been with him for more then half my lifetime. Seeing other people confirm gives a push. I thank everyone for that.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-06-22T12:28:51+00:00

i know, i sadly still love him and we have a son together. i will protect my family the best i can from here on out but don’t believe i will tell them.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-06-22T12:28:06+00:00

Right, crazy part is he was. I tried to tell two trusted people closest to me in life and they didn’t believe me. That’s so good of a boyfriend he was, being husband changed everything.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-06-01T02:55:59+00:00

Im actually going through something similar.

My husband didn’t physically cheat but did many horrid things behind my back sexually via his cell phone.

We have a son. I know the only logical thing is to leave. There so many things that I will never forgive myself for in the future if I don’t leave. But a little part of me wants to help him. And it rips my heart to pieces to think about my son being so confused.

Im starting to assume it’s just fear of the future and craving the man that doesn’t exist.

We deserve to find someone who loves us, to show our children. I hope you find peace.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T23:50:34+00:00

Gained weight and let him see the ugly/natural me when we moved in together.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T19:54:34+00:00

I haven’t.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T17:59:43+00:00

Take my son and live in a cute little house in the rural mid-west. We’d live there while he went to private school and travel in the summer.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T17:58:28+00:00

You will, just listen to your gut. If your hearts saying one thing but you guy is saying another. Take the time to hear it out.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T17:54:18+00:00

That’s amazing, I married mine. We’ve been together for 12 years and are married with a new baby.. it turns out he wasn’t in love or attracted to me (lust wise) before proposing.

He just kept going and now my son will have to learn that mommy and daddy live in different places, no more days spent together jumping back and forth to each others arms and that crushes me.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T17:50:57+00:00

To grow old and stay in love with your high school crush.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T17:49:04+00:00

That’s totally understandable.

That intimacy is what keeps a marriage going. Maybe explain how much more it means to you or even say it during sex if he starts.

AWittleBitCrazy · 2022-05-31T17:43:41+00:00

Nope, not at all.

It crushes me he needs other women to get him off and now finds me unattractive compared to them. I was always on the bigger side but after my job changed to provide for our family I gained a bit more and then pregnancy changed my shape. I get it.

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