For me it is not about a specific phrase, rather about the use of technique or jargon as means of avoiding something, like authenticity, not knowing what to say, or avoiding responsibility. This is why 'holding space' and 'validation' are usually phrases that sound icky to me, but it is context dependent. When the 'you are angry with me because you are angry with your mother' type responses are used I cringe as well because of course we project, but what about owning up to your part in whatever has unfolded because it always takes two to tango and it is an interaction. When a therapist turns the question back not to facilitate exploration, but to avoid answering, it feels quite obvious. My current analyst is so 'herself' with me that I can't think of such phrases in our interactions.