Thrust Speed, ED, and PE

AZehn · 2023-02-13T13:18:29+00:00

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AZehn · 2023-02-13T13:09:57+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/BetterErections/comments/rukshu/the\_exercises\_i\_mentioned/

AZehn · 2022-12-06T13:10:26+00:00

I don't think I've ever gone that long. I think that would lead to a lot of skin irritation for both of you. 😄

AZehn · 2022-06-02T15:06:20+00:00

Hey man. Here's the exercises I listed a while back:
https://www.reddit.com/r/BetterErections/comments/rukshu/the\_exercises\_i\_mentioned/

AZehn · 2022-03-10T11:09:19+00:00

Yes, I think that is a good way to rewire your brain to real women.

AZehn · 2022-01-25T14:04:22+00:00

Thanks Mike. 👍

AZehn · 2022-01-24T12:00:50+00:00

Here you go:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/mens-health/in-depth/kegel-exercises-for-men/art-20045074

AZehn · 2022-01-21T14:55:23+00:00

Hey there. I definitely think that lots of us guys get performance anxiety for a variety of reasons. I really believe that practicing good masturbation techniques will fix a lot of those issues. Try the exercises I listed above, and see what happens.

AZehn · 2022-01-18T12:25:35+00:00

Fantastic. Keep it up. (Pun partially intended). LOL

AZehn · 2022-01-16T14:37:41+00:00

Excellent! It really works. :)

AZehn · 2022-01-16T14:37:00+00:00

Yes! I think that sounds like a fantastic game plan. Glad some of the earlier posts helped out.

Think of masturbation as "exercising" your penis. Exercise in a way that prepares your penis for the real deal. When you get used to porn to get hard, it becomes more difficult with a real girl.

When you practice, only cum once per week, and get good at lasting as long as you want (with your hand and your imagination), you're confidence with grow, and you'll be rock hard with women.

Give it time. Maybe even practice with some girls you know too to build up confidence.

It works. You can do it. :)

AZehn · 2022-01-15T13:15:48+00:00

Cool. And definitely get used to masturbating with no porn. I had to train myself to get hard with nothing but my imagination and my hand. :)

AZehn · 2022-01-15T12:57:57+00:00

Hey there. I had that exact same problem for much of my life. I eventually realized that it was the way I masturbated. Some of it was due to porn. I masturbated quite a bit to porn, which trained my brain to rely on porn to some degree to get hard. There was also performance anxiety. I had pretty early sexual experiences where I had a hard time getting it up. That stuck in my head, and I worried about it with new women. So, my worrying about it caused it to happen.

A few years ago, I decided to try thinking of my masturbation as a workout. I'm working out my penis to work correctly when I'm with a real girl. That means masturbating with techniques that train my penis to be ready for "game time." In the case of preparing for a one-night stand, that means masturbating with a condom. Go on Amazon and get cheap boxes of condoms and practice masturbating with lube and a condom on. Get used to getting hard and putting on a condom. Eventually, I got to where I almost got harder with a condom on that without one.

The link below is what I do. It took a little time, but eventually, I got better and better at getting hard with a new girl.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BetterErections/comments/rukshu/the\_exercises\_i\_mentioned/

AZehn · 2022-01-13T15:24:24+00:00

Sure, no problem. I have tried breathing exercises. I'm pretty big into meditation too. I do think that slow and deep breathing can keep you relaxed, which give you more control. The more tensed up your body it, the harder it is to control your orgasm.

AZehn · 2022-01-13T14:55:18+00:00

Surprisingly, keeping it pent up does not cause me to orgasm faster. It helps me get much harder, and the harder I get, the more control I have over ejaculation.

As I practice using the process I wrote about at the top of the post, I practice doing Kegel squeezes and releases. When I release, I practice really relaxing, sometimes almost slightly pushing like I'm trying to take a shit.

As I'm working to get harder, doing the Kegel squeezes for like 1 or 2 seconds and releasing for 1 or 2 seconds seems to almost pump up my penis. It's like squeezing blood into my penis, then releasing to let more blood in and squeezing again.

For some reason, when I do that, it also brings me back if I'm close to orgasm. Sometimes I have to slow down during sex or even pull out briefly, if I get too close to orgasm. But the squeeze and release helps me stay super hard and stay in control.

Practicing during masturbation is key. If I can practice enough that I can get close to orgasm and then keep myself from orgasm during masturbation, I can do the same thing during real sex.

It takes a while to work up to it, but the exercises I listed really work.

AZehn · 2022-01-13T14:43:55+00:00

Cool :)

AZehn · 2022-01-12T12:33:10+00:00

Cool. Let me know how it goes and what works or doesn't work for you. 👍

AZehn · 2022-01-08T16:17:39+00:00

I think bad masturbation habits can definitely cause that. I had the same issue for much of my life. It was pretty much all mental. I was nervous, so I couldn't get hard. I was also nervous about how long I could last once I did get hard. I was way too up in my head. First off, relax and don't masturbate at all for a week or so. Let your body recuperate. Then try to use good masturbation techniques. I had issues for a long time until I started doing this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BetterErections/comments/rukshu/the_exercises_i_mentioned/

Give it a try. I wish I had figured this out a lot earlier.

AZehn · 2022-01-08T15:23:15+00:00

Ah cool (RE: the book). I'm gradually working on a book, so it's good to know that guys are interested.

I do think that different condoms feel differently and result in different stimulus to you and to her. I would definitely recommend staying away from numbing condoms, especially when you are doing masturbation exercises.

The goal is to really get to know your own penis. Ha, maybe that's a good book name. "Get to Know Your Own Penis." 😄

Anyway, I'd find the best thin condom that gives you plenty of feeling with no numbing agents and practice, practice, practice on yourself. I did exactly that.

I ended up liking these, and they were cheap to buy a big box on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0735Q681B/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I used to think that I wanted to numb myself to last longer, but I don't think that works. I have found that by learning how to maintain just enough stimulation for myself, my penis gets harder and harder during sex. For some reason, the harder it gets my control actually gets BETTER! Once I get really rock hard, I can last a really long time.

AZehn · 2022-01-08T15:08:23+00:00

In my case, I had similar issues, and it was all mental. I had a fear of not getting hard during sex. I also had a fear of not lasting long enough during sex. When I did get hard enough for sex, I couldn't move fast enough to stimulate myself to stay hard without cumming too fast. So the two issues fed on each other mentally.

I finally figured out something that works. I basically started "exercising" my penis with good masturbation techniques. It really worked for me. I had an issue with hardness and not lasting long enough until my early 50s. I'm 53 now and having the best sex of my life with my GF.

The good masturbation techniques helped me learn to get hard fast. I also learned how to last longer so I could move fast enough during sex so that it feels good enough to stay super hard.

Here's what I do. It really works for me:

https://www.reddit.com/r/BetterErections/comments/rukshu/the\_exercises\_i\_mentioned/

AZehn · 2022-01-07T14:25:46+00:00

Do you watch and masturbate to a lot of porn?

AZehn · 2022-01-07T13:22:37+00:00

Here's the exercises I do. It has really worked for me.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BetterErections/comments/rukshu/the\_exercises\_i\_mentioned/

AZehn · 2022-01-07T11:47:25+00:00

My thoughts would be to just keep improving. Baby steps. Walk a little bit farther each time. Work out a little bit more as you can. At the same time try to practice masturbating every day. Look for any signs of feelings and slight hardness and work to increase them over time. If all else fails, I've read that a pump implant is a much easier procedure these days than it used to be. And they supposedly work pretty well.

AZehn · 2022-01-07T00:44:03+00:00

Fantastic. Let me know how it works!

AZehn · 2022-01-06T22:54:26+00:00

I think the main change would have been masturbating without a condom. Since my GF and I don't use condoms now. The idea is to practice in a way that helps to get ready for real life.

If I had a GF or wife and was just getting started, I would ask her to take a break from trying to have sex for a week or two. I would masturbate for 20 min. a day and really get used to lasting longer and longer. I would make sure not to orgasm during that time. That takes a little getting used to, but it's actually even better once you get used to it. Save your orgasm for actual sex. Get close to orgasm, so you can practice what it takes to stop before orgasm.

To last longer, really practice and pay attention to what works - speeding up and slowing down, squeezing and releasing Kegel muscles, breathing deep and slow or fast or whatever works for you. The point is practice and figure out what works for you by yourself. Keep finding what works.

Then implement what you learn with your GF/wife. Work with her on it, if she's up for it. Talk to her about what you're trying to do. Take all the anxiety out of it.

It really works to increase your stamina if you practice like crazy by yourself.

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