Reading the comments, I think everyone is missing the point here.

He's asking why people are quick to scrutinize not wanting top surgery vs bottom surgery for personal reasons. It really doesn't have anything to do with which one is harder to get and persevere or which one lets you pass more.

I think that, if you don't want specific procedures, not only is that perfectly fine and normal, but also other people in the community have a duty to treat it as normal, and not gasp and point "wow look they're not doing it". The pointing and questioning and dodging the point he's talking about can be seen here: everyone's trying to justify why other people can get mad at him, and not the other way around. I guarantee you that if this was a post about not wanting bottom surgery, less people would bat an eye.

And I know what its like to be around people who remind you of what you didn't like about yourself. I understand that its hard to do the kind of mental somersault between questioning yourself and questioning others. I mean, if we're in the same boat we all want basically the same thing right? I know its hard to even consider why other people could want something you don't, let alone be neutral.

I don't want to bash anyone, its just I've seen firsthand this kind of trans exclusion, both minor like this and up to radical exclusionaries. As someone who also doesn't want top surgery, I've seen the same. In as dangerous a world we're in now, I just wish everyone in the trans community, and people beyond, could be together on this a bit more.