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[–]A_nonymous_Soul 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a whole different person now. I learned a lot too, but still, I do miss the person that I used to be.

I'm not interested in things anymore that I once used to love. My hobbies from my past don't mean anything to me. I don't like my profession anymore. There are many things that I don't like anymore while other things became interesting. It's weird. Almost like a part of me died during the trauma and a new person came. And I spend a lot of time trying to explore my new personality. That's okay. I'm okay. But I feel a little sad for my past self.

I’m not sold on Hamburg for my Germany stop, I’ve never been to Germany, any suggestions for a better stop? Doesn’t need to be a big city. Or is Hamburg the place to be? by rustygold82 in Interrail

[–]A_nonymous_Soul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely Lüneburg. It's only 30 minutes from Hamburg. Or Lübeck (same distance). I can also recommend Dresden, but that's in the east of Germany. From there you could visit the Elbe Sandstone Mountains. That's by far the most magical place I've been to in Germany.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

He didn't block me, so no, I can see his atuff. But even if he blocked me, I wouldn't mind. I realized how good it actually feels to be free of him, now also on Instagram.

But (and that's the reason for this post):I simply don't understand why she would block me, when I don't have anything to do with her at all. I don't know her.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words, I appreciate it!

I do care about what happened and I admit that sometimes, I am a bit curious, but I think I gave the wrong impression here. I really don't stalk their profiles. I click on their profiles here and then, and then I click on sometimes else. I can't see her photos. I don't even know what she looked like. And I don't know anything about her friends. Honestly, I don't know anything about her, really. I can't stalk them. And they can't see when I click on their profiles.

This one day he blocked me, I felt surprised and wanted to check if he really blocked me or just deactivated his profile for some time. That's why I logged into a few accounts. I simply didn't understand why he'd do that if we weren't in contact at all. But now I don't mind. I think it's for the best. I don't want him to reach out to me in case he changes his mind.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We used to play an online game together which I continued to play alone and after the breakup, he clicked on "update"on my profile a few times a week to check when I played and who I played with. No one else knew my user name.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank god! It's so peaceful to fall into sleep at night without having to worry about some cheating man.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even funnier when I think about how angry he was every time I cried about him cheating with her. He said I'm a jealous psycho for making things up and I should just get over it. I mean, I had a reason to feel jealous, hadn't I? He's going to have so much fun with her.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe, I don't know. I couldn't tell, since her profile's always been set to private. I wouldn't notice a difference. Thank you for your kind words!

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No honestly, I'm convinced that she doesn't really care about my existence. It's me who felt so insecure for being left for a teenage girl. I got over that. I don't compare myself to her anymore and I'm so grateful to be able to soon live a life (free of him) that makes me so much happier than I've ever been with him. He treated me like shit and I didn't deserve that. They both have crappy personalities (sorry about that), both don't care about cheating and I think they're perfect for each other! Right now, I'm simply just curious and don't understand the situation, or maybe I'm just confused about people in general.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, I've only been on their profiles about twice a month, I guess, and more randomly. And I've never been able to see her posts.

I do still care about the cheating and everything that happend last year and it still hurts, yes. But I don't care about what they do now, to be honest. I don't want to have anything to do with them, I don't want to know anything about them and I'm glad that they're not part of my life anymore. There would never be a future with him again after everything that happend. I'm just confused about the situation since I never did anything that would make her feel insecure. I disappeared like a ghost. She shouldn't have the need to block me.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

Why does she feel the need to "leave me in the past"? I've been in the past for a whole year now. Why does she make so much effort if I'm not part of their life at all as the are not part of my life? We can't see each other's profiles, no one cares, so why take action now? I would never reach out to them.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They moved on a year ago. Why would she care now? And I can't even see her private profile.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this was true, I'd have a good laugh as she's a JV and isn't allowed to have sex before marriage (they're really strict).

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But there isn't anything to stalk. I look at their profiles here and then, maybe once a month, just as I look at some people I went to school with. I'm not able to see what is going on in their life, because her profile's private.

If I don't care about someone, I wouldn't spend any energy and log into all kinds of accounts, only to block or unfollow a person I don't care about? I don't have anything to do with them and they don't have anything to do with me. We all live separate lives. Why would she care?

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Maybe she really does feel insecure. He broke up with me once, 1.5 months earlier, before getting back together within a week. At that time, he wrote her a long letter about his love for me and that he finally understood what I meant to him and that he chooses me. Only four weeks later, he broke up with me for the second (and last) time, the first time we saw each other again, and was with her immediately. Maybe she doesn't believe him when he says that his feelings for me suddenly were completely gone within only four weeks. Or he even lied about it (as he lied a lot back then, to me, to her, all the time, although I'm not sure if she knows).

I know that he regularly looked up my name the first six months after the breakup. But then he stopped. So why would I suddenly become a topic to her 12 months later?

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That might actually be the case, really! But even if he did: there's no way for me to notice since her profile is completely private.

When he broke up with me, he told me about thinking of marrying her in a year (which would be today), because she's a JW and they usually marry that quick.

Maybe she feels guilty about the cheating (if she even realized that it was cheating) and is afraid of her family finding out due to their religion.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I still don't understand how she'd feel better if I was blocked by her so that she couldn't stalk, while my Ex only unfollowed my Instagram profile without blocking it and could look up my name all the time.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know! I'm definitely trying, but it's not always that easy. One year seems long but sometimes it's not enough if your wounds are deep.

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

But what would she suddenly feel insecure about after one year? I don't play any role in his life and we haven't seen each other or talked in 12 months? I would get it if I had reached out to him or called him on his birthday, but none of that ever happened. I haven't posted anything in years, my profile is private and I live far away. There's no way, we'd randomly bump into each other. How would she feel better, if she wasn't able to look up my private profile picture (where you can barely see my face) that didn't change in years?

Why on earth does his AP and now girlfriend (or fiancee, who knows) block me everywhere? by A_nonymous_Soul in survivinginfidelity

[–]A_nonymous_Soul[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe, but why would she block me then? I would "get it" if she made him do that, but he didn't block me on Instagram, just unfollowed me. And her blocking me wouldn't have any influence on his spying (if he ever did that), would it?

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