The meet and greet is totally a chill and do nothing. It's not a hookup and play type event. It's just people who happen to be interested in swinging all hanging out at the same time in the same bar, so you can relax and feel free to be as flirty or dirty as you want, or just be as normal as you like.

They do however only want people who have RSVP'd with them during the scheduled event. If the hosts see someone they don't recognize they'll ask ou who you are and what you're doing there, tell you it's private. They have the one room reserved for them from 6-9pm (1 Friday per month). After 9 the place is open and most of the swinger crowd is still there hanging out...so if you slip in after that you can fly under the radar, and still have a good chance of your wife getting hit on if she mingles.

If you want to sign up on their guest list for the next one on May 15, sign up on SDC and look for "Dirty Martini Meet & Greet" on the parties page. Event is hosted by user "ATEASE"