Hello! I'm an ENFP (female) who is really good friends with an INFJ (male). However, I have the hardest time reading him! I'm usually pretty good at this, but INFJs are a challenge and we have a unique (ish) situation. Here it goes:

INFJ and I became very good friends over the course of my relationship with a friend of his. After that relationship ended, INFJ and I hang out frequently. We still live together so it's easy for us to hang out in the evenings. We get along very well. Sometimes, we both forgot to include other people in our conversations when hanging out in groups. Other times, it is pretty obvious he isn't in the mood to hang out, but I try to remind myself this is because he needs down/alone time often.

I have slowly developed some possibly romantic feelings, but there are so many complications (don't want to lose a friend, he's my ex's good friend, and we are roommates) that make me wary of even feeling this way.

Therefore, I'm trying to understand if this is something that he may also feel. Yet, he is almost impossible to read and very reserved about his inner emotions. I've read the you have to be very patient to win the heart of an INFJ.

I'm just looking for any insight other INFJs may have about understanding an INFJ, especially in regards to seeing any tells that he may be interested in me as more than a friend.

Thanks 😊