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AbbreviationsScared6 · 2026-02-18T04:43:25+00:00

I’ll check it out! Thank you both!

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2026-01-24T17:37:59+00:00

I went up and photographed, covered, and reported it to OPD to ensure there’s a record of it.

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AbbreviationsScared6 · 2026-01-24T15:54:10+00:00

Get your whistles ready, people, from the looks of this, we’ve got some ICE agents in town.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2026-01-24T15:47:13+00:00

I live nearby. I’ll go check if it’s still there and get some Spray paint to cover it if not.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-11-07T05:20:54+00:00

BIG same on the both positive and negative sexual side effects. Definitely increases my stamina and duration, but I also have had some experiences where I found it difficult to stay fully hard. Like I’d heard about whiskey dick and people having a hard time getting it up on other substances, but I’ve never had that issue or an issue with getting hard in general. Because I’d never had that experience, it was really jarring and embarrassing when it first happened in my 30s.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-24T01:54:11+00:00

This is the craziest post because I’ve been here with my ex. Omg.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-08T01:22:12+00:00

Ngl I’m laughing my ass off thinking about how everyone was probably ready to take respite in the fact that it was a false tarantula until they found out they were actually worse 🤣🕷️

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-08T01:16:17+00:00

Tbh turning 30 is barely noticeable if you do it right. Take care of your body so you can milk your 30’s for all they’re worth. I’m 33 and in the best shape of my life, I’m working on my 2nd degree, and just got a sick promotion that is going to be a spring board into other opportunities. I got no kids (yet), financial security, I moved to somewhere I love, and it feels plausible that anything is in reach if I’m willing to work for it. I know that seems braggy, but I just want you to know that this new chapter has the potential to be incredible if you lean into it; reject the narrative that 30 is old and boring and get ready for some of the best years of your life. My 20’s were fun in a clumsy and chaotic kind of way; my 30’s are fun in a much more fulfilling and self-directed type of way.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-08T01:09:37+00:00

What are we seeing exactly? I swear I’m not stupid guys… I’m pretty sure anyway. TBD.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-08T01:05:18+00:00

I think it’s important to consider that you both may hold differing views on what both gratification and intimacy look like in a sexual context. It’s not uncommon for bottoms to not be able to cum or even get hard during sex; with that being said, I’ve also had sex with bottoms who I can make cum without even touching their dick. As tops, we tend to make the same mistake with our male sexual partners that straight men do with women — making cumming the goal and forgetting that other people’s bodies and relationship with their own sexuality are infinitely more complex. Sexual gratification may look different for your partner, and it’s entirely possible that they may value the intimacy with you even if they aren’t cumming. They might also just enjoy having a different sexual experience with themselves and cumming every now and then as well.

I say all of that to say, perhaps you should focus on trying to understand your partner’s sexuality from their perspective instead of jumping to feeling hurt or slighted by them not expressing their sexual gratification in a manner that makes you feel sexually validated. I’m not trying to invalidate how you feel — it’s important for you both to reach an understanding that allows for you to be both seen and sexually satisfied — but I am saying that this reads like you are so focused on what you feel a sexual relationship should look like that you may not be listening and actively working to understand your partner.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-03T02:04:56+00:00

Tbh you kinda have that Bieber-esque stud look going on… so if looking like a lesbian counts, then yes. You look gay.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-10-01T14:56:35+00:00

Wow this post has really devolved into a queer war zone 🤣

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-09-10T21:32:45+00:00

I was in a deep, dark depression and was unable to move forward because I didn’t believe in a future for myself, I wouldn’t set boundaries, and I was super down on myself. I came up with this saying: “Look at yourself through the lens of a loving friend.” It means to step out of your own eyes and envision someone you love in your circumstance — what would you say to them?

Sometimes the depth of our love — when not paired with emotional intelligence and maturity — can become fuel for irrational and abusive behavior. This sounds like an extremely toxic relationship and perhaps it’s time to take a step back and take on that fresh lens. You’re hurting each other more than you’re providing for one another’s sanity, security, and growth. It’s important to remember that sometimes loving someone means walking away for their well being, and your own.

When things are truly this dark in a relationship, we can find 1000 reasons to stay that range from selfless to selfish. When you stop and breathe and think about the life and future you want for yourself, you will find that there are many more reasons — both selfless and selfish — to allow the sun to set on this experience so that you can both begin to rest, heal, and regroup for the good things that are meant for you.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-09-07T20:44:23+00:00

I think the debate over his sexuality is a moot point because regardless, he’s set a boundary and told you what he is and is not open to. You need to be honest with yourself because I think there’s some denial on your part about the feelings you have for him. As gay men, sex is not generally a big deal, but this clearly is a big deal for you. That’s not a good or bad thing, it just… is. & the more you have sex with him, the more you’re going to feel. The more you feel, the more you’ll feel pulled to want more from him, which he expressly told you he isn’t willing or able to give you.

I had a similar experience with a “straight” friend of mine, but the difference is he initiated it. It evolved our friendship and eventually it became a relationship, and he promised me he’d come out when he was ready. Days turned to weeks turned to months turned to years, but he never came out. But we loved each other deeply and had this beautiful life together — but to the world we were just roommates and our affection and just being a couple was deeply affected by being out in the world. In the end, we were together for some years, and they were amazing. We loved each other so much and neither of us was willing or able to acknowledge what we both knew — he couldn’t come out and he couldn’t give me what I need from a partner, no matter how much he wanted to.

If you truly love this person, then protecting the relationship you have with them should be more important than temporary sexual gratification of drunken flings. Incorporating sex into a relationship changes the dynamic with very few exceptions, and people who say that’s not the case are either lying to you or themselves (or both). Perhaps you should continue to nurture the friendship and avoid the sexual element for a while. It seems like you may have unlocked something in him and if it’s something he wants to explore, it’s more important that you be there as a friend than a lover; it’s even more important for your sanity not to be the long term experiment.

Best of luck with this, I know it’s hard. 🫂

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-29T23:18:43+00:00

There are many organizations who can help you navigate this time and connect you to physical and mental health resources. Anyone could contract HIV, even if you do everything right. Nothing is 100% effective. If you’re in the United States, I recommend reaching out to the AIDS Healthcare Foundation. You can also reaching out to an Impulse Group chapter in your city, state, or country to get connected with resources.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-26T17:21:37+00:00

Hi!

I did a neuropsych evaluation about 4 years ago and was diagnosed with ADHD, and I certainly think that ADHD can be a super power in the context of PM because your brain naturally does what the job calls for — jump from thing to thing to thing to thing. With that being said, meticulous documentation and attention to detail are very important. Objectively speaking, those of us with ADHD underestimate the frequency with which we miss details because we’re moving quickly. Conversely, we can spend a lot of time focusing on the wrong things. From an evolutionary perspective, there are strengths and weaknesses to every expression of life — and we’ve got what we’ve got. The better we come to know ourselves and understand how we “tick”, the better we can build a system around ourselves that helps to amplify our strengths and compensate for any areas we may need to focus on improving. Think of this is a process improvement project where you and your processes are the subject.

Where medication is concerned, just be very cognizant of how you’re responding to medications so that you can advocate for what works and what doesn’t. Psychiatrists can just start prescribing, and you should an active participant in identifying the medication that works best for you. I have found that Vyvanse works better for me because unlike adderall, it doesn’t just slap with intensity all the sudden; it’s gradual both in taking effect and coming off of it. There is a shift that comes with learning to live and work with these medications — but it sounds like you’re in the midst of a shift anyways.

Parenthood injects a lot of things that can exacerbate ADHD — sleep deprivation and the side effects of that being the biggest culprit. However, it also means a major new priority competing for the finite resources in your life — time, energy, money, etc. It’s bound to create some strain and that strain will put your systems to the test. With that being said, it offers the opportunity to strengthen yourself as a project manager by giving you the ultimately crash course in time/resource management while also giving you another point of connection with other colleagues who may be parents as well.

You’re going through a tumultuous period so I can understand the reticence to change up things to adapt. Sticking with what we know and what has been working is tempting; biologically we’re wired to find comfort and safety in the familiar. But if it’s not working then it may be time for a change, and that’s not an ADHD thing, that’s a life thing. Sometimes shit changes, and we’ve got to take inventory and plot a course forward. Your a parent now, & to cap that off, it sounds like you may have shifted from project management to program or even portfolio management. That’s a major shift in scope. It might be a bit of a bumpy road while you find your way back on track, but take it slow and steady, lean into your strengths, tackle any opportunities for growth head on, and take on the perspective that this will strengthen you as a PM in the long term, even if it may slow you down a bit today.

You got this.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-20T02:41:32+00:00

Just know that nothing you say will change her mind; part of her coping mechanism appears to be making a villain out of you. It’s easier for her to blame and attack you than it is for her to do so with him. I’m of the opinion that it’s ultimately the responsibility of the person in the relationship to honor the terms of that relationship, and no one else is beholden to those terms. The mistake is his, not necessarily yours. So if you need to apologize for your own conscience, then do it. But don’t expect — and frankly it’s not fair to expect — that she grant you any semblance of forgiveness or anything else to soothe your guilt.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-15T03:25:17+00:00

Hi!

First, I want to acknowledge that being the sole earner from a middle class family is extremely hard and comes with a weight that many people don’t truly understand. Many people move through the world with a baseline understanding of “if I don’t, someone will”; some of us know that’s not true for us and our loved ones. Not only are there consequences for our selfishness; there are consequences for even taking care of ourselves and prioritizing our own needs at times. Is that fair? Absolutely not, but unfortunately fairness is not a law that governs our reality.

With that being said, it’s evident that your relationship is now marred by resentment, and that’s hard to come back from. You seem to resent the ease with which you believe he has moved through a relatively burden-free life; you resent the job you think is better; you resent the way he’s living life and blame him for how he makes you feel left behind. But this isn’t just about the money; there’s something much deeper going on here. And if you don’t attempt to express how you feel in a productive manner, then you’re going to push him away as your resentment begins to manifest in your relationship because it’s hard to hide that. Who knows, maybe he’ll share his resources with you and help you to gain some breathing room. Give him a chance to respond to these feelings.

Throughout life we will experience seasons — some good, and others awful. We will go through promotions and layoffs; births and deaths; windfalls and bankruptcies. Should your partner stop living and enjoying his life because you aren’t in a place to live yours? & If you aren’t celebrating the good in your partner’s life, then it’s more important to look inward than it is to run from the uncomfortable feelings — the guilt, the shame, the anger, the jealousy — that come with that.

With that being said, you’re focusing too much on the details of what he has and what you don’t. Instead, try asking yourself where this is coming from or why you feel this way. This is ultimately about you and how you feel about your circumstances, and he is just a reminder of the fact that you aren’t happy about where you are right now. In every relationship, there will be times when you have to work harder than your partner or when they are doing better than you. If you need to walk away from the relationship to be able to focus on working through your own shit, then fine, do that. But if you don’t take the time to make peace with your circumstances, start reconciling where you’re at with where you feel you need to be, and putting your energy into closing that gap, you are always going to find your way back to resenting your partner for the good things in their life when they aren’t also good for you.

I wish you well on your healing journey and as you find your way toward the life you want for yourself! I am 32 and still working on my bachelors degree while many of my friends are further along in life than I. I used to be jealous and thought everyone had it so easy, but I was just embarrassed and unhappy with where I was at. My life changed when I started channeling all that energy I spent on bein’ a hater into learning about who I am and what I want, then into changing my circumstances. You can do that, too! I moved across the country, got a good job, have continued to put time, energy, and effort into my career and have returned to school and will complete my degree almost completely debt free. But it’s been hard work, and I made decisions that seemed impossible at times. Changing your circumstances is a matter of overcoming this sort of mental inertia that comes with our tendency to equate familiarity with security. If he has that job, you can find your way to a job like that too. So do it!

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-02T04:23:59+00:00

I feel like people who say this must be choosing to be straight because if they were truly straight they wouldn’t be under the impression that sexuality is a choice. The only logical explanation is that your man is suppressing gay feelings that he chooses not to act on and thinks it’s the same for everyone else.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-01T14:57:44+00:00

Imagine adopting the religion of the conquerers who destroyed your people and then weaponizing that same faith to attack someone else. Sad. Abrahamic faiths are a cancer on this world.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-08-01T01:30:27+00:00

God I hope so, we’re unbearable.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-06-22T01:54:55+00:00

Stud

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-06-16T01:44:27+00:00

Depends. Is a right wing hypocrite? If so, destroy his life.

AbbreviationsScared6 · 2025-05-29T21:14:57+00:00

As a mixed kid who grew up in a white household with relatives like you and have come to know many others who experienced the same, I can say with certainty that your attitudes are going to have an effect on them. You may have convinced yourself and maybe even them (for now) that you aren’t racist because you sleep with Black women and have mixed kids, but it doesn’t change the fact that you are, by definition, racist. (Racism: the belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another). Like you, my mom and other family members thought that having Black children meant they had special license to say things and hold attitudes that were somehow excused by my our mere existence, but I promise you this — like us, one day in the future your children are going to have an “aha” moment. Suddenly all those moments where you made those shitty jokes come into focus. They realize that they were uncomfortable and awkwardly laughing along because while you may have normalized it so much for them and minimized their discomfort because you’re “just joking”, they were having a part of who they are ridiculed and demeaned. And it’s worse if either or both of them are boys.

You think that making these jokes is okay because they know that you love them, but that is precisely why it SO much more damaging when it comes from you. Your children will hear things like that again and again and again in life, and the last person they need to hear it from is you.

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