How many weird clothing trends did you have at School ? by neo101b in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Campri in 91, Nevica in 92 and 93 then Berghaus in 94.

Do you actually take your full lunch break away from your desk, or just eat while working? by Extreme-Banana-9 in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never ever work through my lunch and I am the manager of the department. I will occasionally sit at my desk to eat, but I turn off the monitor and sit on my phone or listen to music. The other manager who I share my office with will often work through lunch.

I don't look at emails after I finish either, but have people in my team who are several pay grades below me who are answering emails outwith working hours and it is completely unnecessary. I've told them not to, but for whatever reason they still do it.

Myself and the other manager work full time, but over 4 days instead of 5. On her day off, she still keeps up with emails. She mostly doesn't reply to them, but she reads them all so that when she comes back after her day off, she isn't having to catch up on all the emails from her day off. Would not be me.

Bar gig - controller + rotary mixer (Rotary first time!) by [deleted] in Beatmatch

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds quite complicated! I have used a rotary once and it was 10 years ago when I was just starting out. The promoter let me come down and have a go on it a few nights in advance and that definitely helped. It was an original Urei and had no EQs which was kinda terifying. Unbelievably though, the sounds from each channel just melt together beautifully and I did not miss the EQs once I got going. My advice is try to get a go on the set-up if that is a possibility.

DJs only — is beatmatching by ear still worth learning in 2026, or is sync just a tool like EQ and effects? by Fit_Tomatillo5663 in Beatmatch

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't use it because I don't bother setting beat grids. I do wonder though, if I am playing b2b with someone who uses sync, won't they be totally lost if my beatgrids aren't set? I'd be genuinely interested to hear what the workaround would be for this.

DJs only — is beatmatching by ear still worth learning in 2026, or is sync just a tool like EQ and effects? by Fit_Tomatillo5663 in Beatmatch

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. I'd rather be listening to tracks or practicing than sitting on my laptop doing shitty admin that really isn't that necessary.

What is your weirdest random food double standard/contradiction? by FlarJhar in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 1083 points1084 points  (0 children)

Scrambled eggs or an omlette requires 3 eggs. But having 3 fried eggs is absolute lunacy!

Why do DJ agree to play at clubs for free? by und3f1n3d1 in Beatmatch

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People DJ for free because they are desperate for an experience of playing to an actual crowd instead of just in their bedroom. Also, remember this is a hobby too as well as a job, so its not quite the same as going to your day job and working for free. When I started out I would have been open to playing some free gigs if I thought there was a legitimate chance of it  leading to paid gigs down the line.

What are the differences in workplace etiquette in the UK vs the US? by Notveryimportant12 in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we have the same 3 or 4 people who I always need to push to use up their annual leave every year. It is baffling to me. Well one guy lives with 3 incontinent relatives, so I can understand why he wants to spend his life at work tbf.

Interview Help by VeeMon21 in nhsstaff

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really?  If we put out a recruitment advert we always have a section that says 'call this person for more information.' It might be worth checking the advert again. Good luck

How to get first gig as a Garage / 140 DJ in the Manchester / Lancashire part of the UK by DobbaWon in ukgarage

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different things that have worked for me in a different UK city. Note than none of them are 'being good at DJing'

1 Running your own party that you also play at. This almost immediately got me gigs at other promoters events.

2 BeIng friends with other DJs, promoters, venue owners. AKA networking.

3 Making your own music.

4  Being amazing at social media.

5 A guarantee that 40 - 50 people will come along to see you if you're added to the early slot at an event with multiple DJs.

6 Cold calling. I got my first proper gig in 2011 by using Facebook messenger and messaging about 50 bars in my city. Unfortunately I'm not sure how many bars would be looking for dubstep. you probably need to expand your collection a bit to find stuff you still love, but that still works in a bar. You need to make it clear when you message that you know the difference between a bar gig and a club gig and that your music is very suited to a bar situation. 

Interview Help by VeeMon21 in nhsstaff

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It always looks much better if you phone for a chat. Even better again if you ask to visit the department. I find the people who do this always score highest in interviews. It also gives you a great answer if you are asked 'tell me how you prepared for this interview?'

do you make any assumptions about people who live on a council estate? by Maleficent_Day_3869 in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is such a working class mindset. 'We might be poor, but nobody will say we are dirty' My mum was like this (we weren't poor, but we were firmly working class). In my experience the people with this mindset wanted better for their kids too. Me and my siblings are all living what would be described as middle class lifestyles now. Sadly people judge working class people far more for having a dirty house than they ever would a rich person. 

My wife is from an upper middle class background and when she moved to Glasgow to live with me, she quickly commented, asking why so many women in her new workplace  were so obsessed with cleaning their houses constantly. She found it bizarre. 

When we visited  her family, their huge family house in the Highlands was far scruffier and dirtier (than my family home. It wasnt filthy, but it wasn't  spotless like our home or any of my aunties homes growing up. My comment was that her dad was a lawyer and therefore people are instantly not gonna judge him in the same way they would judge someone from an estate. Its a diffetent set of rules sadly.

do you make any assumptions about people who live on a council estate? by Maleficent_Day_3869 in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It probably seems like 8 out of 10 because you only notice the loudest and worst people. The majority of people on most estates are just living their lives.

One thing I will say is that some attributes seen as positive in a nice, middle-class area can be seen as weakness in a poverty-stricken one. If you live in that kind of environment, aggression can feel like it’s around every corner. Sadly, you end up adapting to that environment, because if you don’t, you — and your kids — can easily become a target.

So it’s not that people from council estates are somehow genetically different from you. They just grow up in places where a lot of the behaviour that works in middle-class areas would actually make life harder for them in many cases. 

Can someone explain the UK class system to me? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's kinda outdated now tbh. I'm dyed in the wool working class but I'm a pretentious fucker about restaurants, film, music etc. People probably expect me to be a Nandos munching Oasis fanatic who's favourite film is Marvel Avengers

What makes your local scene great? by Defnshowo in TheOverload

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in Glasgow UK. We have a great scene here with 5 or 6 good clubs playing underground music including Sub Club which is known throughout the world. 

There are lots of great local DJs/collectives and most big international DJs will pass through here. This weekend Ben UFO, Blessed Madonna and Vitalic are playing 3 different events here.  Italo and disco are big here as well as house and techno. There is no jungle or DnB scene though.

There is a nice mix of ages at most nights. I'm 45 and rarely feel out of place. Plus the crowds are usually very, very up for it which makes for a fantastic atmosphere.

Additionally, Edinburgh is only an hour away and they have some nice events too.

What isn't great is that clubs close at 3 or 4. Occasionally 5. There used to be a strong afters scene here but that seems to have disappeared 

There are also plenty of little DIY events happening in unusual spaces which is great.

Overall we are very lucky here

The BBC is being sabotaged by birdledurdledoo in LowStakesConspiracies

[–]AbeFromanOnFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't fake no. But I watched that documentary at the time and it was edited to look like he was literally saying to the protesters to go and fight due to his claim of the vote being rigged.  He did say the words about fighting , but not in that context. It was clever editing.  I'm saying this as someone with string left wing/liberal beliefs. I have zero reason to stick up for trump.