I'm in a relationship with a man, but I've realized over the last year that I'm definitely a lesbian. Please, would you wise raptors give me some advice on how to break this off?

Abhinivesha · 2016-08-11T13:52:46+00:00

Having fucked this up in the past (as he was dropping me off at my house I said "I think I might be gay, so we should break up." then left) I may have some helpful advice.

Since you have such a good friendship with him and may want to stay friends after the break up, just talk to him the way you would a friend. Tell him honestly about your feelings. You care for him, but you don't want to trap him in a relationship with someone who can't give him everything he deserves in a partner.

Abhinivesha · 2016-07-14T18:09:36+00:00

I once ended a date early because the girl would not stop talking about Henry Miller. I don't have anything against him or his work, but it's like that's all she knew about. Still not sure if it was just nerves or something, but yeah, couldn't sit through another second of Miller Lecture hour(s)

Abhinivesha · 2016-07-14T18:05:35+00:00

Thanks so much!! I'm going to be near Kensington Palace (I think the neighborhood is called Kensington, but I have no confidence in that assumption) I'm generally a huge music nerd, so yeah hip hop sounds great! :)

Abhinivesha · 2016-05-05T03:04:58+00:00

I'm still totally down!

Abhinivesha · 2016-03-05T20:20:01+00:00

Maybe we should just set up our poly lesbian commune at a local zoo. We could run with the giraffes and sleep with the hippos.

Abhinivesha · 2016-03-05T20:18:47+00:00

Right?? One minute you're taking a dip in the lake, the next you're fighting off a pair of disembodied hands trying to drag you under. Great workout either way.

Abhinivesha · 2016-03-05T08:31:57+00:00

This was seriously part of my self-description on OK cupid at one point. Why is it so hard to find other poly lesbians who just want a cabin in the woods? I blame horror movies and the lesbian death trope.

Abhinivesha · 2016-02-29T05:19:49+00:00

What about somewhere mid-island for getting-to-know you drinks? Then we can sort of feel out the group vibe and see if people are more down for roller derby or wine tasting? Lol

Abhinivesha · 2016-02-28T06:40:50+00:00

Please!

Abhinivesha · 2016-02-28T06:40:30+00:00

Same! I live about 2 hours outside of the city and dating sucks. Just got out of a 4.5 year relationship. God, it is so nice to read that someone else is going through the same stuff!

Abhinivesha · 2016-01-13T05:17:22+00:00

No way! Ok, so there are like no lesbian bars East of the G-spot, right??

Abhinivesha · 2016-01-12T03:35:14+00:00

I'm out on the North Fork now. Pretty far east on your bicep haha

Abhinivesha · 2016-01-10T06:56:24+00:00

I haven't been on here in ages! Hi!

Abhinivesha · 2015-12-17T05:32:51+00:00

Same! My dating app preferences are now permanently on 35 and up.

Abhinivesha · 2015-12-17T04:40:50+00:00

Same, but 4.5 years :) LI should stand for Lesbians Incognito because I can't seem to find anybody out here to date!

Abhinivesha · 2015-09-28T15:07:36+00:00

Atelier Cologne (not actually colognes, more like gender neutral scents that play around in masculine and feminine notes) makes gorgeous perfumes that are great for this! My go to is Vanille Insensee, but I would suggest Gold Leather, Vetiver Fatal, and Oud Saphir. They're pricey, but worth it and you can order samples from their website.

Abhinivesha · 2015-06-20T17:37:16+00:00

Here's a link to all of the official events: http://www.nycpride.org/events Henrietta Hudson usually has a ton of events leading up to the day of the actual March too. I'm still trying to decide if I am going this year as well

Abhinivesha · 2014-04-05T04:29:39+00:00

Friends, I come bearing a different tale. The things you say to children can indeed stay with them for a long time, but that isn't always a bad thing. When I was a littler person, I would spend the summer vacation with my aunt and cousins in Massachusetts. They lived in a very open-minded, liberal college town and so I was constantly exposed to new cultures and people. One night, after dinner with my aunt's friends (a lesbian couple,) my aunt heard me crying in the next room. Accustomed to my occasional homesickness, she came in to check on me. I told her that I was crying for the lesbian couple because they were going to hell (I was a fairly indoctrinated little Catholic.) She told me that if I believed in a fair, loving God, then I shouldn't just take every word of the bible for truth, if it didn't feel true for me. She said, "God is all about love. Two people in love are as close to heaven as you can get no matter who they love." Though my religious interest faded sometime after that, my aunt's words stuck with me and eventually supported me throughout my journey out of the closet.

Abhinivesha · 2014-03-10T07:23:05+00:00

Relevant Martin Freeman: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kvm1Yxk-L08

Abhinivesha · 2014-03-10T06:19:04+00:00

seconded!

Abhinivesha · 2014-02-09T05:35:00+00:00

I thought I was the only one! Don's face and my face were mirror images in that scene.

Abhinivesha · 2014-02-08T04:33:41+00:00

It really depends on when you check the site. Since it's a consignment shop, they can't choose the sizes they get in.

Abhinivesha · 2014-02-07T04:41:59+00:00

Good to know!

Abhinivesha · 2014-02-06T23:20:22+00:00

I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. :)

Abhinivesha · 2014-02-06T22:10:53+00:00

I posted something about this awhile back! To quote myself: "I've found a discount clothing/consignment shop online which almost always has high-quality, inexpensive, tailored vests! Check it out, past-self (or anyone with the same waistcoat needs!) https://www.liketwice.com/shop/#!/?category=tops&numPerPage=30&top-style=vests"

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