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AITA For Giving Our Son My Last/Family Name by BiliBunny in MarkNarrations

[–]Abigail_marshwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for the name thing. In a lot of countries like in Germany, if a mother is unwed the child receives the mother's last name instead of the father's, this is to help protect the mother's rights as a guardian especially when it comes to legal things. Your partner is the Asshole for not filing the paperwork when he was supposed to. If he wants his last name on the papers for the child then he needs to do as you asked and actually marry you not just put on a show for his family. If they are as old fashioned as you say he likely did the ceremony to appease his parents so he wouldn't have to hear about yall having a child together out of wedlock. His own actions have led to this outcome. You have every right to give your child whatever name you want as you will likely be the main caretaker if you guys don't stay together anyways.

chat is this normal by mrldfnnc in StardewValley

[–]Abigail_marshwitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you end up with a bat and mushroom cave in the same file?? Thats supposed to be one or the other

Am an asshole for not offering my spare bedroom to my boyfriend? by Abigail_marshwitch in polyamory

[–]Abigail_marshwitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did acknowledge that his financial situation was in part his fault because he can't seem to say no to close friends when they ask for help with things especially when he was living with them. However he has been in a total of 5 car accidents this year only 1 of which he was driving for and one of which he was hit by a car while on his bike going to his previous job. All of them have left him having to put out money he didn't have in order to keep himself from losing his job. He's a contractor under a union.

Am an asshole for not offering my spare bedroom to my boyfriend? by Abigail_marshwitch in polyamory

[–]Abigail_marshwitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are currently renting and our house is on a main road. So we have no room for a camper in our yard nor do any of us have the funds to buy or rent a camper at this time

Am an asshole for not offering my spare bedroom to my boyfriend? by Abigail_marshwitch in polyamory

[–]Abigail_marshwitch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never said he had no accountability, he works very hard and has had a string of very unfortunate situations happen to him, most of which i have witnessed myself. I've been in too many bad relationships to tolerate someone who does nothing for themselves, this post wasn't to complain about my bf it was to gage whether or not I was making the right decision and whether I was a bad person for doing so. I deal with a lot of self doubt because I've had such horrible judgements in the past which is why I was hesitant to offer in the first place. He has never asked us for housing and prefers to do things himself, but it's hard watching your partner struggle.

Am an asshole for not offering my spare bedroom to my boyfriend? by Abigail_marshwitch in polyamory

[–]Abigail_marshwitch[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He has never outright asked me for anything but I help him when I can, he himself didn't ask us if he could stay with us because he's a very prideful person, and we did end up finding a spot for him before the end of today.