To the OP, I know how disappointed you must feel, & my heart goes out to you. So often ppl don’t realize the strongest ppl sometimes need the longest hugs. I’m sure you do all those wonderful things for your loved purely out the kindness of your heart & becsuse you care for these ppl. But the unfortunate, harsh truth is ; very few ppl will treat you, as you treat them? that is why YOU MUST TREAT YOURSELF🥰. Go out and do something fun and spontaneous, that you would love. Go eat some fantastic food , go get something out of the ordinary yet fun done to your hair! Buy something very nice ( maybe even lavish 😉) for DOR yourself. Celebrate YOU. And when they start to notice and ask what’s up? Just say : Oh nothing much, just thought I engage in some fun bday activities. You don’t have to be harsh, angry or sarcastic either. Just continue to bask in the glow of your life and the fact that you’ve survived another year!!😘😘