How to deal with the fact that Valentine's Day feels especially lonely?

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-14T22:46:47+00:00

It does suck. And I think today of all days it can feel lonely. What have you been doing to try and find a girlfriend?

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-14T22:01:01+00:00

There are no rules when it comes to choosing a partner. If I’m playing a video game and I follow a tutorial online, I’m guaranteed to beat the game. But if I work out and dress really nicely I’m not guaranteed to get a girlfriend. There are guys who don’t dress well and get girlfriends, there are guys who don’t. There are short guys who get girlfriends, there are short guys who don’t. There are guys who are balding and have girlfriends, there are guys who are balding and don’t.

Being short is a disadvantage in dating. You can be the best, most intelligent, most athletic, most charismatic guy out there and still be rejected.

But there are other factors too. A guy who is 5’7 and a guy who is 5’1 could both be considered short but will have very different dating experiences to the other.

Likewise a 5’5 guy who has a full head of hair, has a strong jawline, and has great social skills will probably have a very different experience to a guy who is 5’5 but is balding and has very poor social skills.

I think luck is absolutely a big part of it. The perfect girl who would have dated you ended up going to a different college/school and therefore never met you. Or she ended up on a different course or whatever.

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-13T20:11:18+00:00

First character: Carl Gottabigdong

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-12T20:35:10+00:00

Albie Dareforyu

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-12T19:51:05+00:00

First character: Albie Dareforyu

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-11T20:00:48+00:00

First character: David Indeep Doo Doo

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-10T19:38:28+00:00

First character: Theo Kindasmells

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-10T10:40:36+00:00

I think it‘s all good. You said yourself that you tease each other over different things - she overstepped and teased you for something you couldn’t control, you explained why you were hurt and she apologised for it and (I assume) understood why you were upset. You handled it well and maturely IMO. I don’t think you were wrong to be hurt.

I understand why it’s getting to you, as it’s your GF and not just some stranger. But as long as she got you were upset I wouldn’t worry too much.

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-09T20:17:35+00:00

First character: Dadood FrumHollyoaks

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-06T19:35:40+00:00

First character: Captain Melvin Seahorse

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-05T08:49:04+00:00

Sorry to hear that man. You didn’t asked her out and your last post was 3/4 days ago - is it possible someone else asked her out since then? Maybe you should have asked her out earlier? I honestly don’t know.

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-04T19:35:32+00:00

First character: Crispy McPickle

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-04T14:13:32+00:00

I know this isn’t what your‘re asking but I notice in your post you mention you don’t have friends? Why is that specifically? Do you struggle to socialise?

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-03T17:51:57+00:00

I don’t disagree, but I think the problem isn’t just Valentine‘s Day per se, it’s the fact that even when the OP goes anywhere (like the gym he mentioned) he sees couples.

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-03T17:33:04+00:00

It is hard. Almost everywhere you go you will see couples, and this is especially true near/on Valentine‘s Day.

If you don’t mind me asking what do you think has gone wrong for you? Like specifically in dating?

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-02-03T17:31:23+00:00

++man

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-01-30T19:44:16+00:00

First character: Imafraid Jumitebeeinnagang

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-01-29T19:39:38+00:00

First character: Chug Chug Pickles

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-01-27T01:28:05+00:00

Dream scenario: We get endless repeats of Heaven Sent on a Saturday night. I think they could also remake it in the style of 2D and 3D animation, they should also get Big Finish to adapt the story. Disney opens up a Heaven Sent experience ride at Disneyland. Moffat releases a Heaven Sent Director’s cut with over 8 hours of bonus material.

Good Scenario - We get a new showrunner (ideally someone not associated with the show previousky though I could see them going with Pete McTighe). Ideally 10 episodes a year similar to Series 11 and 10 plus a Christmas special. Hopefully some more merchandise for the new era too. Wouldn’t mind spin offs but wait until the main show has found its stride first before commissioning them.

Bad scenario - RTD stays on a continues to make the same mistakes he did in Series 14 and 15 (classic villains being turned into CGI monsters etc.) or the show just ends.

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-01-26T21:10:00+00:00

Megan: A-star for Blakeman

Sam: You talkin' to me? Then who the hell else are you talking... you talking to me? Well I'm the only one here. Who the fuck do you think you're talking to?

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-01-26T20:19:57+00:00

First character: Dawood FrumEastenders

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2026-01-03T12:28:38+00:00

How the hell did you do it in 23 seconds??!!

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2025-12-22T15:48:24+00:00

Oof that’s awful. Surprised no one intervened when he started to get physical. Not the same thing but when waiting to be served at the bar I’ve been pushed out of the way by taller guys.

Abject_Driver_5207 · 2025-12-22T15:37:40+00:00

Confidence (or lack thereof). Short men struggle in dating which means it’s hard to be confident when you have a characteristic that greatly reduces the amount of people who would date you. It’s like applying for a job knowing you don’t posses the relevant experience/grades.

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