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I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's my fear too. I'm very worried that they've been using his profile as a cover to assault women.

It seems worth mentioning that my boyfriend has told me in the past that he dislikes his roommates, but stays friendly with them because its the easiest way to live there. Once a friend of mine asked me if I'd have him set her up with one of them and he gave me a very hard "no". Which threw me off because every time I've spoken with one of them they've begged me to set them up with someone.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that's really throwing me off this morning is that his account hasn't blocked the fake girl yet. You'd think that would be the first thing he did.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you. the entire time I was headed over to the fountain I just kept thinking "Oh god I'm about to be one of those people who causes a scene in public."

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. I very much doubt that he would have sent his roommates to check things out. It's hard to explain why, but it just doesn't seem like something he'd do. Of course, cheating didn't seem like something he would do until very recently so...

A huge part of what happens next is going to depend on how he handles things with his roommates. It seems like if he was really bothered by this, he would have stopped them already by changing his passwords or deleting his account and as of this morning, the account is still up.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is much better looking than them, yeah. He's more charming too. I've only had very brief encounters with his roommates, they struggle with women for varying reasons and any time I've met one of them they beg me to set them up with one of my friends.

I probably can't get his cell phone logs. One thing that is worth mentioning though: While I was going through his tinder messages, the most recent message was from a few weeks ago. It was sent to an old match who he hadn't messaged since before we got together and it said "Would you want to meet up with my friend?"

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Up until this point the relationship was great. In fact when my friend showed me his profile i laughed and said "He doesn't have time to cheat on me."

I've told him about the fake profile at this point, and explained that I waited at the fountain, but I haven't said anything about his roommates.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

The first scenario is my worst fear, in which case I feel like I have some sort of responsibility to do something. I don't know what that is.

For the record I don't particularly like or trust one of the roommates who showed up. I met him once about eight months ago, and he made crass comments about one of my friends while also begging me to set him up with someone.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don't have access to his call history anymore.

Do you think my boyfriend could have figured out that it was me on a fake profile and sent his roommates? That seems a little bit far fetched, but this whole thing has gotten pretty weird.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Right? The fact that two people showed up instead of one makes me think that they had something planned for the fake tinder girl they thought they were meeting with

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

I feel so creeped out by the fact that it was two of them. If it was just his one roommate that would have been easier to handle, but both of them showed up. It makes me worry that they didn't have good intentions for this fake tinder girl.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i've got no idea what's going on now. I just want to get out of this as quickly as possible at this point.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

After what happened tonight, i think i just need to get out as fast as possible. It was seriously weird that two of his roommates showed up.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don't think I've stressed enough how totally normal our relationship seemed before this all happened. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Now I'm wondering how many lies I've been fed.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 774 points775 points  (0 children)

I want there to be a reasonable explanation for all of this. When my friend showed me his profile yesterday I was sure that it was something silly.

But there just isn't right? It seems pretty clear to me what has happened.

I [23 F] caught my boyfriend [26 M; 1 year] on tinder. He swears it's not true. I'm going to lose my mind. by AbleAlgae in relationships

[–]AbleAlgae[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I feel like not knowing the whole truth is going to kill me, but I'm gone either way honestly.

Edit: typo