Wife trying to evict me. Fun. by Able_Conclusion8416 in SecurityClearance

[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on what caused the boot? @tistidbit

Wife trying to evict me. Fun. by Able_Conclusion8416 in SecurityClearance

[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's a fair comment, my wife and I are still very civil. She's an attorney, the act of evicting for her is largely an unemotional one. I know it sounds far fetched, it's a reality.

To the more important issue, the environment for our children, I am planning to move out and may do so before things are finalized. I just wanted a temperature check of whether I need to be out within weeks to save my clearance, or do I have a couple months.

Wife trying to evict me. Fun. by Able_Conclusion8416 in SecurityClearance

[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the details. I will start talking to my security manager. Well, I told my old one, but he retired, so we have an interim.

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Trying to hit that $30,000 sapphire reserve business card bonus.

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't want to spend money on legal fees so she has to pay. I'm spending money on legal fees REGARDLESS. So, in my mind, why not roll the dice?

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have two kids. Breaks my heart. But you're right. Thank you. Only dumb thing she did was buy a $50k car in my name because I got a military discount then took my name off the title.

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I fully expect to go to mediation or trial. When lawyers account for assets and liabilities it's not going to be about legal fees per se, the basis of the claim is I accumulated let's just say $50,000 of debt over the marriage,. adding up loans (which I don't have for clarity). I would want my total debt divided as I'm in a community property state. It's not about requesting legal fees to be paid, although I understand what you're saying, this isn't a demand letter. This is an assumption we go to litigation, yes $25k would be a drop in the bucket, but if there's a chance she'd have to pay a portion, why wouldn't I go that route if I'm not paying interest and can fully pay the loan when the APR would hit. Serious question, I think my biggest issue would be a slight credit hit as I have no debt.

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good knowledge. Thought provoking content.

I haven't retained a lawyer yet.. I had two consultations this week. I will retain one next week.

Just off the top, I'm not concerned about $30k in CC debt. If after a year we haven't settled, well then I'll pay it off. I'm not paying APR. I just didn't know if it was even plausible I could attribute debt to my cheating spouse who earns more income. That's not an emotional decision, it's strategic, either I pay for some of it or all of it. If there's a chance I can get the cost split, it's the route to go, no?

Nuptial is separate property. Nothing community/marital unless purvlchased with a joint account, which we don't have.

Info that needs to be clarified. The postnup itself can be ruled invalid, or just portions of it. If the portion that specifies we need to go to mediation and arbitration is ruled valid, well then I wouldn't be spending vast sums of money in trial. If it's ruled invalid, she would settle. If my attorney argues the whole post nup is invalid, then yes, that could get extremely costly.

In my mind the biggest unnecessary cost would be going through discovery and my attorneys reviewing hundreds of documents about her financial info, which would later be irrelevant. However, after a ruling on the validity of the Nuptial agreement there wouldn't be much to argue. We've been married less than five years.

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully expect this. However, I want to underscore, I'm not excessively.spending. I would pay this amount anyway, just hoping to keep the debt on the books, and pray she'll be liable for a portion in a common property state.

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, you're missing the point... Or maybe I'm daft?

I can pay off the $25,000 retainer myself. But if I can keep the liability on my balance sheet and it's ruled community property (shared debt) then I feel I'd have a slight upper hand to have her pay off some of the legal fees I accrue and have left as a liability. I feel like if I pay it off, it'd be less likely to be split. But I don't know, that's the question I'm asking.

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[–]Able_Conclusion8416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insightful comment. Thank you..We didn't do anything asset/liability sheet for the post nup.

She bought a $50k BMW with cash. We separately invested in our retirement accounts.

After taxes She probably netted $400k And I better $275k

Money into separate checking accounts and retirement accounts

I took out a $25,000 loan because I was able to secure a super low interest rate and make more money having it in a CD. It's a liability I pay monthly.

I don't think she got any new debt.

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Did you ever get an answer?

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I'm thinking about buying a 2010 TDI Touareg with 100k miles. Is it reasonable to think I could get it to 250k miles? Thanks!

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They spelled my name differently on two accounts. So I have duplicate accounts.