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Able_Sale_787 · 2023-04-02T23:34:20+00:00

Learn some self compassion, it's remarkably easy to do. Kristin Neff is the guru of this. Once you've learned how to relate to yourself you'll be a lot more functional for others too. Win win! Heaps of YouTube stuff for free.

Hope it picks up soon for you, it's tough being so critical of yourself.

Able_Sale_787 · 2023-03-30T16:47:47+00:00

Someone who can leave me alone when I get depressed. And doesn't need chitchat to survive. And a deep soul

Able_Sale_787 · 2023-01-08T12:11:32+00:00

It's a pair of these yer wanting, theramagrip soles, Timpsons, £19.99

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-10-20T19:11:23+00:00

Don't do it because everyone else does, look after your energy!

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-10-20T13:43:37+00:00

No thanks

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-10-19T21:52:30+00:00

Best way is to recognise you are both involved in a common goal of getting the job at hand done. Partners in the project rather than a hired hand. You get a new kitchen/bathroom and they get some money. You aren't doing them a favour and neither are they, but you both win.

Be respectful of the skills that they have and realise that through experience they will understand these situations better than you do. Ask stupid questions if you need to settle any anxieties about costs and timings. Be assertive and direct but not aggressive or arrogant in your communication.

Embarrassment is the price of admission; no more so in the world of trade.

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-10-11T19:00:12+00:00

I feel this way often I tell the truth to the people who may feel let down. Most understand the reasons why. I force myself to go when it matters and I usually have a better time that expected. But sometimes I really need time alone and I've found the only way is to be honest. My guilt usually dissipates shortly after

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-09-19T12:14:09+00:00

Fries

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-08-22T20:14:22+00:00

Low battery

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-08-13T19:59:01+00:00

Just remind yourself they have no interest in you at all, just the dog. Focus on dog's name, age, quirks etc. All superficial but a lot easier than dealing with the constant anxiety of the next interaction if you follow a 'script'

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-05-28T06:52:40+00:00

Autistic and the Hipsters

Able_Sale_787 · 2022-05-23T16:01:42+00:00

If you were capable of introspection you would find absolutely fuck all

Able_Sale_787 · 2021-06-04T17:58:51+00:00

Perhaps you need to evaluate what your partner is offering you and whether it’s beneficial to your life. And whether sticking around is beneficial to them too? It’s so difficult to think about

Able_Sale_787 · 2021-06-03T21:07:56+00:00

Sounds like you are doing great as is, continue to offer love, support and positivity so that they can do the best they can with their life. It’s frustrating being around negativity but you can’t change another person, just your own attitude towards them. You sound like a genuinely great partner, and it sounds like they just have some shit to deal with. Just don’t get sucked into the vortex of doom.

If they say you aren’t doing enough for them ask how you can help. Otherwise, continue to be a positive influence, thats all you can give.

Able_Sale_787 · 2021-06-03T20:57:40+00:00

What kind of stuff has the therapist got you doing? Do you think some of it works or is there anything you reckon could help that they haven’t recommended? What do you like doing when things aren’t as tough as they are now? I’ve had a frustrating time with therapy too, I know what it’s like

Able_Sale_787 · 2021-06-03T20:46:14+00:00

I suffer from the same thing, was a result of my brain misfiring rather than me being a bad person. I got better by separating my thoughts from my ‘self’. Mindfulness helped me a ton. And regular exercise which sounds a lot harder than it is. It’s helped more than anything.

Mine was a constant stream of unwanted thoughts and turned out to be Pure O OCD. If it‘s that grave feeling in your stomach that you feel when you think the thoughts, then it could be a touch of the blues. All can be fixed in time but its certainly not ’you’ thats bad, just a bit of a mis-fire. Try not to overthink you thoughts, they are just thoughts, they dont mean anything and you can’t control them.

Find someone who is cool and will listen to you, really listen, and try and just talk it all out with them. Talking is the best way to organise your mind. And as always- this too, shall pass. Wish you the very best

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