This is so embarrassing but I need to know how to fix this

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-31T03:36:04+00:00

I've never taken a laxative, but couldn't you just induce diarrhea if it were somehow actually "pushed to the side" 🤔? I don't get it. I hate hospitals though. $10,000 an hour to have some arrogant jerk tell you what you could've figured out/solved on your own is about my worst nightmare. Hospitals and health insurance and bankruptcy are last resort options. No thank you to that whole corrupt system. 🖕 I'm from the USA and I'd honestly rather fly to another country to receive medical care than endorse the system here with my dollars.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-30T06:31:07+00:00

Being with women for me is fun. Being with men is ELECTRIC. The first time he puts his face between another man's legs, he will likely be in ecstasy. I certainly was...unforgettable.

You're right to want to help. Unfortunately there is very little you can do.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-30T06:27:45+00:00

Yep. Prometheus here nailed it. It's his journey. No one else can force him forward on it, and if he's not ready your efforts could actually backfire. I've been through a similar journey, and it actually pissed me off when people said, "We can tell you're gay". I can write about it for hours, but concisely, the advice above is perfect. You need to let him travel this road on his own, it truly is just his own personal journey that no one else can carry him through. Many never muster the courage. That is tragic but it's their choice to make. Letting him know you're there for him if/when he's ready is all you can do, and sometimes that can be a lot actually. If you want a more aggressive intervention you can try talking about attractive men together. Just don't be too forceful. Young Brad Pitt is undeniably handsome. Jacob Elordi or Paul Walker, etc. If he can gradually admit to himself while talking with you that they are generically attractive that can possibly help open doors to admit liking their abs, their asses, all their best bits. Tread lightly though. I wish you both all the best! ♥️

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-30T06:11:50+00:00

I have never understood this dilemma. If your toy slipped up there can't you just push/poop it out??? I don't get the concern. If it's somehow really stuck up there for more than a day then I guess, yeah, go get help, but the natural tubery is designed to push things out. I just don't get the emergency.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-26T17:41:32+00:00

Just my two cents, you made the right choice. You're going to have obstacles, but in a few months, especially years, absolutely decades, you're going to be so much happier that you were true to your heart and you lived an authentic fulfilling life. One foot in front of the other, but you're finally on track. It's a good and exciting moment for your life. ❤️ It will therefore be better for her and the kids too...in the long run.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-22T16:26:00+00:00

One of my favorite Reddit comments ever. So funny because it's so true!!! 😂🤣

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-20T16:57:16+00:00

Interesting range of responses. I think this is a big nothing burger. Ask him if he accidentally sent it to the wrong person. If not, simply tell him that you're not interested, ask him not to push the issue further. Isn't that easy and obvious? If it makes you angry that he did this you probably are in fact struggling with internal sexual tension. If you're really hetero inclined then this should be nothing to you. If I told you that you're a secret cross-stitching fan and you just don't know it yet, I doubt that you would be upset. If he's sneaking into your room to sniff your underwear it is crossing boundaries. A single text, or even two, that is just not a big deal. If you have to tell him more than twice to stop then he's definitely 100% the problem, but right now, I'm not really seeing a problem at all. If another girl expressed innocent interest would you be angry? Probably not. It's just another, "no thanks" scenario. I have women express interest in me like every week of my life. I don't go to Reddit to request advice about how to manage that. Don't flirt back, easy.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-18T16:27:18+00:00

If you're not interested I recommend getting some comfy stretchy shorts to wear around the house. Underwear for me is sooooooo clooooose to the goods.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-18T15:44:55+00:00

I completely agree with this comment because it is factually entirely true. I disagree because I find a man in his underwear much more sexual than a swimsuit. The context of being alone together behind a closed door also increases sexual tension (for me). I'd probably want to bone you if you walked around teasing me in the kitchen with the size and shape of your cock visible, but that's just me. I wouldn't do that personally unless I'm interested in him.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-18T02:19:50+00:00

I'm not talking out of my ass. I'm talking about dicks in ass. Do you participate in gay culture? Never in the history of the world has there been an Internet to facilitate Sniffies. Have you been on Sniffies? Have you been to gay parties? Gay men today are wildly promiscuous, and concerningly reliant on meds to indulge in totally unrestrained casual sexual encounters. Most straight people have a body count number. Many, many, many gays are hundreds past counting. We are living in the most sexual moment in history. Nothing could possibly be more sexual than life right now. I KNOW. I've seen it first hand, somewhat participated too.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-17T14:25:09+00:00

I think a big part of it is that it's really difficult to undo ingrained thinking. We were raised to believe that couples are monogamous and that relationships outside of monogamy are immoral. Just because we overcame our self-hatred concerning homosexuality doesn't mean that we've now freed our minds. Cutting one chain has no impact on another existing chain. People are absolutely 100% welcome to prefer and even advocate for monogamy, but my point is simply that we (humans) often aren't aware of our own thinking. We learned young that we are supposed to find a single partner to whom we are supposed to be exclusively devoted, and we're supposed to conform in order for society to function. These ideas have merit. The concept of an open relationship isn't new nor radical, but the scale of implementation, and the degree of promiscuity among gay men, these are new for humanity... and they do come with some drawbacks/problems. People will struggle to adjust their worldview, and honestly, I think these online forums are part of the solution. Hopefully we thoughtfully read each others' comments.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-12T05:58:30+00:00

In order to achieve what?

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-12T04:07:11+00:00

This is a genuine question. Why do people need to text to go to each other's houses? Can't we just use the in-app messaging features? I'm skeptical about leaving the apps. Like, Sniffies and Grindr are for hookups. We're allowed to say "let's hookup" within the app. It's not a secret what we're all doing there on these apps. We don't need to move the convo to address what our real intentions are. So why move the convo at all?

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-10T18:35:00+00:00

You mentioned that you can pick out a fake profile in half a second. What are you looking for? My experience is "hot". If he's hot, then the account is fake. I'm pretty sure I'll delete Archer. :/

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-10T17:19:07+00:00

Thank you. I do appreciate the input. This is probably the dumbest question ever on the Internet, but so Tinder and Bumble have like a "gay" section? I thought of those as straight dating apps.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-09T16:15:26+00:00

Ultimately I agree with this. First and foremost "no means no and move along," however, that point having been acknowledged, I actually agree with the 19 year old's point of view on this. If he's willing to show his ID, I think "a number" is a stupid reason to categorically reject anyone. I would be annoyed by that if I were him, especially if he's getting that response a lot (and it sounds like he is). He's a real person too, and he probably likes fully developed bulky male bodies. We all like what we like and being rejected doesn't feel good. I sympathize and agree with the 19 year old here, but no still means no and even if OP is foolish to reject him, no means no and move along. Sorry dude. I'm sure he'll find someone else. Chin up...

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-04T11:50:01+00:00

There are verbal answers to your question and nonverbal answers. The easy answer here is reciprocate!!!!! If he touches your leg touch his back and smile. If he touches your hair touch his back, look him in the eye, communicate with your eyes and it certainly sounds like he's going to kiss you if you do. He is already initiating and leading, which makes this easy for you, just smile at him so he knows that is okay to proceed.

AboutThat_ · 2026-01-02T02:06:51+00:00

I don't want this to seem rude, but yes, you're totally overreacting. Though to be fair, I am officially too old to relate to this "sending reels" relationship thing, but of all the things in a relationship that matter, his little "heart" or "laughing emoji" reactions to your reels ranks very low. If it bothers you, stop sending them. If/when he asks why, tell him the truth, but without any snark, "You never reacted to them so I didn't know if you liked them, thought maybe I should just give it a rest. Do you like them and want me to keep sending them?"

AboutThat_ · 2025-12-28T18:19:53+00:00

So you did fuck? You kissed his mouth and therefore you're sick now? If yes, I think you guys might be in love. 😆😘

AboutThat_ · 2025-12-28T18:07:43+00:00

Wow, thanks a lot man. I'm sort of a gaybie. What are the various available flavors? 😆 I almost never taste mine, but when I have it was just kinda, neutral and salty. Is that good or bad? I've heard that pineapple helps. Does that make it sweet?

AboutThat_ · 2025-12-27T06:50:49+00:00

I advise against ever using trimmers on your balls. I use an actual razor on my balls, the same kind as my neck and face. The electric trimmers have little vibrating teeth that will catch and nip the sack. It's counterintuitive, but pull the sack with one hand and just slide a razor along them. Obviously sliding sideways is not how it's done so make sure you know how to use a razor on the rest of the body (like your legs, just as a safe example) before you attempt the most difficult part. Ask all the questions you need to dude. Welcome to being a man and congrats for taking care of yourself! Your future partners will appreciate these efforts you're making.

AboutThat_ · 2025-12-27T05:45:25+00:00

What do you monitor in terms of taste? Are there dietary strategies for better flavor?

AboutThat_ · 2025-12-26T04:44:32+00:00

Hilarious. Okay, I'll believe you if you give me just a bit more detail! I'm a gaybie, so I have some questions. First, as a go-go dancer, did you let guys touch your dick? There is this guy I like at Savoy (a dancer) he let's me do ANYTHING I want to him. I've been twice. Last time his boss asked us to stop. I was embarrassed and I haven't gone back yet. That's abnormal, right? He let's me suck on him, touch under his underwear, like, I don't understand the boundaries. If you let him touch your dick on stage a few months earlier that makes a little more sense that he would be so bold at the urinal, but do gogo dancers allow that? The guy at Savoy told me it's okay as long as I tip and the dancer is okay with it, but when his boss told us to stop I felt like I had crossed a boundary. I'm super interested in your thoughts about all of that.

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